life help: i don’t where i’m going. - Help.com

Can you talk to your parents? You don’t have to know what you want to do when you start school.

we dont always like the things we have to do…
but sadly, they still come.

i suggest that you keep looking for what you want to do, look at all the choices, right them down, think about it.

its really smart to go to college, but even if you dont go, your friends still will if they are smart… so either way youll lose them…

- Fire

hi.

i know you need a listener..a listener who could be able to see, feel, understanding your pain.

i know you need a listener who is good enough to give you efficient advise on how to solve (watever) problems you have…

i know you need a listener who is able to understand your situation now, and who knows what solution to end your stresses, loneliness, sadness in your life/moment now..

i know you need a listener who knows how it feels like to have a lonely life, how to be scared of new or maybe the ‘harder’ things tomorrow…

i know you need a listener who can give you a simple easy-to-understand guidance/direction/management/etc..for your life, career, dreams, future, life-plan, strategies..etc

i know you need an 11th finger, to help you point at the most right & efficient direction for your life, to fix your problems, your confusions, your anxiousness, etc..

etc….

so please dont hesitate to tell me more about your pain & stresses, problems, sadness, the help you are needing, a short chat you are wishing for…

i would be glad to give you some simple advises..that may cool off your stresses, and sadness, etc..

college- is the next phase of your life, with out it getting a job is getting more and more difficult. you don’t have to decide right away about what you want to do. first you take your basics, english, math, political science, etc. then you look at your interests and you can find multiple degrees to go with what you might like, or maybe one degree will suffice for the area of multiple careers. I start college in a week and after 2 years I plan to have an associates as well as a certificate possibly another degree.
your friends will also move on, its part of growing up. you always keep in touch with the ones that mean alot.
marajauna- that is a personal choice but the people who tell you not to do it only care about you. I am a non smoker but I have a very good friend who is a complete pot head. we agree to disagree

the best advice i can give… and it needs to be taken lightly… is this.

College doesn’t have to happen immediately. Most people don’t have a clue what they want to do at 18, 20, or even 25. One of my employees is practically a straight A student, but talked with his parents about taking a year off to explore various jobs to see what he might be more interested in. He took a leave of absence with us (coffee house), and started working for the YMCA to see if he liked working with kids. Thought he did, but after 3 months he went stir crazy and changed his mind. It really helped him get more focused.

Additionally, I joined the military so that I could get paid to go to college. There are so many benefits to this, it is unbelievable. My main recommendation here is to enlist in the Air Force. First, the Air Force is practically a 9 to 5 job. Second, enlisted AF personnel rarely go to anywhere near war or front lines… that’s what the officers are for. Other branches are the grunts and end up taking on the brunt of securing our freedoms while the AF does it from less physical, and more intellectual aspects.

Feel free to tell yourself you have time. Time to make decisions, and time to be indecisive. Feel free to also take a chance that may push yourself out of your comfort zone.

Here’s a little secret for you, anon;

None of us knows where we’re going. Not at eighteen, not at forty, not at sixty. Life is a like an unmarked map, and more often than not we blunder from place to place throughout our lives. That’s what we get for not being born with owner’s manuals.

On the bright side, you don’t NEED to know. You don’t need to declare a major right now anyway; the cool thing about college is that it lets you root around for the stuff you’re interested in, instead of high school’s “This, This, and This.” I think I went through four changes in majors before I finished off, and even then I came away with a “sensible” degree and an honors in Philosophy, because it (not the sensible one) was a subject I was interested in.

There’s nothing to be freaked about with college - its actually a lot cooler than you think. You’re paying the freight, so none of the teachers talk down to you - you’re literally paying their salaries. You decide what to learn, and if that ends up not being your thing, you just look into something else. Eventually, you find something that works for you and you start digging into it.

On the other hand, life gets very tough without a degree nowadays - it’s McDonalds and Wal-Mart time until you retire, and that’s pretty bleak. You could learn a trade, if you don’t mind working for a living, but you’ll sweat for your paycheck.

Why no try doing community college for a year or two? Cheaper, local, you don’t leave your friends, and it gives you a chance to dip your toes in before you dive in deep.

Don’t be scared of college. You have nothing to be afraid of. Don;t be scared of leaving your friends. You will be apart from them but that doesn’t mean that your friendship will end. It will change though. But change is good. If life goes on exactly the same as it was a decade ago, we’d be bored to death. Change keeps life interesting.

You’ll find new friends in college. You’ll have more friends in the end. You should be excited about college. It’s fun. It’s also a privellege that you can afford to be in college. Not everyone has that opportunity.

You’re a senior and I get it if high school makes you sick. All the more reason to look forward to college.

Never fear the uncertainty of life. Being scared for the things you can’t do anything about is compeletely a waste of time and effort. There are things beyond our control and this lack of control is what starts the fear. But you should see that, not once did anyone have ABSOLUTE control of life but you’re doing fine. So nothing to fear. Something to expect. Something to look forward to.

What kind of work do you enjoy? Routinary, office work, field work? What are your talent? What’s you’re favortie subject? What are you good at? These are questions you could ask yourself or tell us too, so that you can figure out what course suits you best. You can always shift courses if the course won’t suit you.

You could research about the different career courses offered. See what kind of jobs will these career courses give you. See what subjects you’d be encountering and basically what the course really is.