I was dumped about a year ago by someone I really loved. - Help.com

Holy crap what a bastard.

thats just not even at all forgivable

You need to decide if you want to define You by “this.” If you do, of course, you’ll be selling yourself as short as he sold you. Is “this” all you are? Is “this” all you’re worth?

Of course not.

The reason this is still gnawing at you is because you haven’t come to terms with yourself - or whether to define yourself on your own terms, or by the expectations of others.

You can lose the weight - but until you are comfortable in defining yourself by your head and your heart, that demon will still be there, waiting to jab at your self-image and insecurity.

Forget him. It’s time to love yourself.

how did the people at the bar and restaurant react?

how can you love someone who could publicaly humiliate you like that? he sounds vile. your worth so much more. ive put on weight in the last year and im sure my ex would love to commet but hes a loser!! youll meet someone who loves you for you soon. hold on and youll get what you deserve soon - a nice guy

OMG!!!! What kind of person is that????
I’m so sorry hon, you need to get over him FAST!!!
I’m recommend you to watch ‘Phat Girlz’
Good movie, good motivation. :D

^thats a horrible idea.

just try not to think about him. he clearly isnt worth wasting time over.
he sold you out in front of perfect strangers and thats unbelievably outrageous.
If it were me, i’d never talk to him again and make his life a miserable hell.
stay strong. He clearly isnt worth it.
Go out and meet new people, think good thoughts, be possitive.

You gained weight for a reason. Maybe you eat to calm yourself. Somehow I doubt you gained the weight and then problems started. I suspect you had problems all along and you gained weight because of it.

Time to get out and build new social networks and meet new people. Don’t search for a boyfriend, just search for connections with interesting people. Exercise, socialize, and develop your self-assurance. Read Mars and Venus on a Date.

I very much doubt he got good publicity for saying something like that. i think he more likely made a twat of himself than you

Did you talk to him about it after his liquid courage wore off?

You should have grabbed his head and announced, “I’m leaving this idiot because he doesn’t have a brain!”

Don’t dwell on this. The world is full of jerks and stupid people. You don’t need them in your life.

Lose weight for your own health and welfare. You don’t stop loving someone because of a weight gain or loss. He never truly loved you in the first place.

My suggestion: be thankful you weren’t married to this guy!

Wow what a jerk… If he really loved you he wouldve motivated you to seek help if you were depressed or something and encouraged you to exercise. Not to look good for him but to be healthy and happy. If you are happy the relationship will be better off. So if wasnt worth your love sweetheart. Maybe he needed to do that in order for you to see the real jacka** he really is and leave.

You have to get over it. You have to realise what an absolute jerk you were with (despite the fact you loved him it didn’t sound like he loved you and he seems to enjoy humiliating people). Also you have to start by starting to build your self esteem and realise you are worth so much more. A bit of body fat is nothing really. It is how you feel that matters although I have gone a bit overboard recently as I’m currently 73.4 kgs (11.55 stones for the imperial / metric conversion) but I very much doubt my current boyfriend would do something so low as what your ex did. You need to start to feel good about yourself. If you feel great about your weight right now then concentrate on being happy in other areas of your life. Learn to respect you for who you are and concentrate on improving your social life.

This new year I’m starting yoga as I feel it will benefit me physically and spiritually and I’m also cutting down caffeine. It’s important to do things for ourselves which empower us and make us feel happier. Sometimes you just want to make it all go away by waving a magic wand but it’s not all that easy. Forget this guy who is now your past and concentrate on getting you happy. Then one day, when you are ready you will find someone who will not only love and respect you for who your are but if you do gain a few extra pounds, he will be the type of guy that will respect you and encourage you to get to a weight that you feel happy with and carry on making you feel like the most wonderful woman in the world … like a man who loves you is supposed to do.. which wasn’t your ex by the way.