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Need help to overcome sadness and loneliness

I am new to this forum. I am going through a relationship troubled and I don’t have any friend with whom I can talk about my true feelings. So, I’m here to get help.

When I started working, I met a girl at my workplace and we became very good friends. But now after 3 years, she has left the city to get married and live with her husband. I really didn’t want her to go. :-( Long back, when her marriage was not fixed, I once suggested her that she could marry me and stay with me forever. But, she didn’t want to marry me and she was always interested in arranged marriage.

I feel very bad inside but I don’t have a friend who can understand my feelings. I want to talk about it and feel lighter. I try to manage my feelings by working in the office, coming back to home and reading books after coming back to home. I try to hang out with my friends in the weekend. But still many times, I feel terrible and I want to feel better.

Could you please suggest what I can do to feel better when I don’t have any friend or soulmate with whom I can discuss my feelings?

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infinity 2 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (3 minutes after post)

but if I hang myself, I will die. I want to live and overcome this sadness. :-(

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (8 minutes after post)

dont listen to Pafas hun. u will find someone who loves to see u smile and ur gonna be happy u cant change her mind on her beliefs. thats not right just let her figure out that ur an amazing person. and if she never does. thats her loss

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (12 minutes after post)

I am not trying to change her mind. She is a nice girl. She wants me to smile and be happy. But she doesn’t love me romantically. She wants to go for an arranged marriage and her marriage is fixed. I have no problem with it as she has the right to marry whoever she wants. But, I feel sad for myself as after she has left the city, I have become lonely. :-(

Whenever I’m idle I recall the happy times we spent together. How we had fights on silly things, etc. These thoughts make me very sad and I start missing her. I want to be happy again but I don’t know how I’ll be happy without her.

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An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (13 minutes after post)

pafas, I have reported you.

Misfit 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (14 minutes after post)

well u have to put urself out there hun. how old ru?

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infinity 2 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (24 minutes after post)

I am 26. I’ve experienced a break up 4 years back. It hurt a lot at that time but I think have become a little matured due to the past experience. I’m able to manage my feelings better this time but still I wanted to share my thoughts somewhere. Found this forum and after this short discussion, I am feeling a little better already. :-)

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Misfit 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 11 months ago (50 minutes after post)

thats good well were here if u ever need to talk

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 day, 12 hours after post)

I too have same prb :(

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ishaq00 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 day, 13 hours after post)

Iam alone & working guy in hyd . I too had same prb which he is facing …
Loneliness is killing me & i dn’t have frds..

I feels sometimes strong enough & sometimes i feels jealous, guilty about her when she is with her husband.

What to do ? plz help me [:(]

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infinity 2 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

hey ishaq00. both of us are on the same boat. i can guarantee you one thing. this sad and lonely feeling that we are facing now is temporary. it goes way in a while. how long has it been for you that you are going through this? how much time you take to become absolutely fine depends on how deep your relationship with the girl was.

if you feel bad, feel free to keep posting here. talking helps. just tell the world whatever you want to tell. it will help your emotional wound heal sooner.

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (7 months, 2 weeks after post)

hey there. i know how you feel. I am in love with a man who has an arranged marriage, and he loves me too. It is very hard, and i also feel lonely and sad as there is no one i can talk to about it either. It is a unique situation. if u want to chat, let’s do.

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