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I should also add, for the depression, i am suicidle, but i wont try anything. I have been through suicidle thoughts, and efforts before, and i know its not worth it.
go to the doctors first. make sure it is a broken hart first.
and broken harts do heal, but will always bear the scar.
and your right about suicide! it WILL get better, it has to get better, its just a pain in the neck there is no feel happy button you can press.
You are able to eat. Get some ensure. Eat soup. Work your way up from liquids to solids. When my wife died I forced myself to eat. It was horribly difficult.
Every time i try and eat, i throw up. I wake up, i throw up. I try and eat, but it just ends up coming back up.
You’ll really have to try to eat or you’ll just get weaker and weaker. Try not to think about what is so horrible in your life and focus on what you do have. I know it’s easier said than done, but the more you think about what you lost the worse you’ll feel. Try to think of the time you had together as time well spent, and not time lost. You’ll get over it eventually and hopefully be back to your old self. It would probably be a good idea to talk to someone too. Even just having a close friend to listen can make you feel a lot better.
It’s only after we’ve lost everything that we are truly free to do anything.
My fiance of a couple years had broken up with me around september actually september 11th as a matter of fact…
When he did my world shattered, I couldn’t take care of my daughter by myself yet I was used to being a single mom before I had met him, I couldn’t go to work, I couldn’t eat I’d puke it up, I refused to get out of bed, I argued with everyone so I stuck myself in my own little dark hole and didn’t want to come out.
I then remembered some of the good times we had and some of the bad, I decided to jump on an old dating site I saw before, plentyoffish.com…. it’s where I met my now husband…
I have a history of suicidal attempts and depression as well but was still able to move on… you can too!! Just stop thinking about her. I know it’s easier said than done but you can do it.
The thing is, we have been through so much. family that was addicted to crack, coke, **** like that. i moved in with her once i got kicked out of my house, then i moved to alberta with her and her family. The depression got worse, we moved back together. Just her and me. We have gone through so much together, and she just stoped talking to me for three days, then decided to break up with me. I am the type of person who does not cry often. maybe once every year or two, and i have cried harder in the past four, five days than i ever have. There is so much bad with what we went through, but our love made up for it. Then just one day she said she changed. Im only turning 17 in less than a couple months, and the very, very last thing i can think of is dating another woman.
You may have been through alot but it shouldn’t always have to be like that, You should be able to find someone that you will always be happy with your depression will go away, for good.
Family drama is always going to be there no matter what be it when you are 17 or when your 35… always gonna be some type of family drama… so and so is on drugs,,, so and so doesn’t like you… so and so is cheating on their husband.
Don’t think about dating another woman then just focus on yourself and getting to know who you are.
With her being with me, she was helping me. I have a long history of verbal and sometimes physical abuse. i have been through a lot of, well, torture. She was helping my depression, my anger problems, and slowly helping me build self confidence. But this just brought it back to the level, well, of zero. I do have a history of being an alcoholic, along with that running in the family. I was able to stop, slowly, and dont drink anymore. But i just feel so horrible every day.
Well, as much as love helps those wounds, you have to heal them yourself. You need to make yourself a whole person to have a real relationship with someone. Otherwise you take too much from the other person and you drain them.
I know you can eat soup. Yeah, you’ve got anxiety and you’re puking it back up. Deal with the anxiety. Scream at the top of your lungs: “BRING IT ON!” over and over. You’ll feel better. Feelings cannot kill you. It’s the fear of feelings that drives you crazy. That’s what anxiety is, the fear of feelings, that somehow something horrible is going to happen.
The awful truth is that when you wait, bad things happen. When you act, you can make good things happen. Start taking baby steps in your recovery.
0. turn on loud music and sing along
1. Shave
2. Shower
3. Go for a walk around the block
4. Eat soup
5. Brush your teeth
6. Eat soup
7. gargle with mouthwash
8. walk to the mall
9. do a puzzle or something very distracting that requires concentration
small baby steps.
Love sucks!!! I’m telling you it really does, it’s really all in your mind and your brain… ok the chemicals in your brain mix and make you believe you are in love, its mind over matter, that is how you need to look at it, you are smarter than that.
No, love does not suck. Obsession and rejection suck. Love is amazing.
The chemicals in your brain that trick you into thinking you are in love sucks…. I don’t have obsession or rejection in my life, just a husband and a child and love still sucks at times… yes it’s amazing but in essence it still sucks, No matter how great or wonderful a relationship is, you still have to work at it everyday.
We had our problems. But we always talked about them once we calmed down. I never saw it coming personally. I thought everything was fine untill she stopped talking to me
It is unfortunate for you to lose what seemed to be such a solid place for you to stand in your time of need. I understand what it is like to break up with someone you love, and i have been there with not being able to eat. But honestly, it will only make things worse in your head, and in turn you will feel worse, not to mention what it will do to you physically. I know what with your history you don’t feel like you have anyone to rely on, but at the end of the day after everything is done, you are the only one that can always be there. Somehow, you need to learn to rely on yourself. I know this is far easier said than done, but as hard as it is to learn you truly cannot rely on someone else all of the time. People will let you down, but you need to learn how to pick yourself back up.. I am sorry, i don’t know how you can do this. Im still learning how to do it myself. But you aren’t alone. Have you seen a doctor regarding your depression?..
It seems your communications weren’t as open as you thought. Why not pick up some books like Mars and Venus together forever and work on your skills? That’s what I did between relationships. It’s also what my girlfriend did. What a difference.
Oh another one is When Good Men Behave Badly. Gives you insight into what it is to be a man… an owner’s guide for your own psyche. Eye opening.
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