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How do you go about meeting new people when your in your 20’s?

I’m going to be 23 this year and don’t drink that much..it’s one of those rare occasions. As I have been getting older I notice it’s harder and harder to socially interact with people. I’m an extrovert at heart and love to mingle but as each day progresses its harder to find like-minded individuals who share the same qualities in friendships as I do.

I only really have 1 true friend at the moment who I’ve been friends with since we were in Kindergarten. We work together, are roommates and normally spend a majority of the day together hanging out…but we both agreed that we need to find other people to hang out with…

What do you do in situations like this when your from a small town? Anyone have similar problems?

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10 months, 2 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

i am 25 and also live in a small town. I recently went back to university 3 years ago and i met a lot of new people and made lots new friends. You need to go to new places to meet new people. What activities are you interested in? any sports? you can always join a none competitive sports team, dancing? yoga? the gym, swimming? you can participate in something you enjoy and also meet mew people. over a year ago I went to a dinner with a close friend of mine at her co-workers place. Her co-worker came up with this idea were she invited 5 women from work and they were to bring a female friend who didn’t know anyone from the place of work. It was a way of meeting new people. Maybe you can do something like that at your house.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (37 minutes after post)

Well I’m pretty huge into playing music..I love playing guitar and singing as well as martial arts.

Unfortunately unless I move to a big city..music is out of the question because I have a hard enough time finding people as it is to jam with.

The dojo I attend has quite a wide variety of individuals who come and practice but most of them are in their late 40’s and have a family and kids and arn’t my age…so we don’t quite click or they don’t have the ability to hang out how 20 year olds do.

And having a big party here in my apartment is hard when I don’t even really have anyone to hang out with as it is…I’m self employeed so I don’t have anyone besides me and my roommate to invite anywhere…I’m kinda stuck..meh

sparkyman 7 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (6 hours, 24 minutes after post)

I can’t say I have exactly the same problem as you… but we are a lot alike…
I too am an extrovert, I make a lot of friends easy… but have a hard finding friends that I really connect with on more then just a shallow level.

I think that as we get older our experiences narrow our focus and change us so that we seek an ever shrinking group of people to really connect with. This happens because we mature and have a more difficult time connecting with people we haven’t already been good friends with. But don’t despair, the new relationships that you do make at this age will be stronger then the many you may have made when you were younger and of course will be that much more satisfying.

The key is to do social things that you enjoy. Naturally you will find people there that love to do the same thing. For example maybe join a leisure sports team, a video gaming club, or get a job that closely links with your interests.

Don’t worry about it and don’t force the issue. You will make friends as they come, over thinking it can only hurt you!

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (6 hours, 29 minutes after post)

The fact of the matter as life progresses on, one finds less and less true friends. This is because earlier life is rather superficial based around parties, clothes, outward appearance. There is no right or wrong way to go about making friends, it just happens.
I’m 20 and in college and find it difficult to make friends. I’m outgoing, but I’ve come to be brutally honest with myself; I’m not like anyone else and that is what makes it hard to connect with other people. However, there are people few and far between who I know are out there cheering me on.
If you have the same initial problem then just know that there will be people to connect with. Find people at work; or pick someone at random and ask them questions. Just be yourself and most importantly have fun with the conversations you do have.
Doesn’t hurt to be presentable looking either. Just a tip

sparkyman 7 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (6 hours, 31 minutes after post)

dayk. I think that everyone has at least one person in this world that they are similar to… so I think that you will find people you can truly connect with even if it doesn’t feel like it today!

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An Unknown Location | 6 months ago (4 months, 1 week after post)

In the midst of everyone there are some who aren’t so genuine and are only seeking you out for what you can bring to the table.Friends,true friends that is,are really nice and are helpful in every way.You can find a site that has lots of folks from your area [within the 50 mile range]and you can choose who you think are good enough people to befriend and you can go and tell them through emails and chat!Go to gatherings,house parties with folks of your age group.The library is also a nice place to meet intellectual friends.

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