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I’ve been doing that for the last 6 months and i am starting to lose my grip…
are your daughters old enough to work?
seabass invited 5 users to read this post 10 months, 3 weeks ago.
well…siside is not the way to go…and i guess ur daughters cant get jobs to help with the money…does your wife work?
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how long have you been on prozac? have you tried your best to find work? is your wife working? could you move into a more affordable home like an apartment?
i am on prozac as well. i no how that feels…dont forget to take it…i go crazy if i do
I’ve been on it for a while now, several months, but my situation continues on a downward spiral, so my depression follows right along. My wife did work but she is not right now. In the current housing market, if we sell our house we are likely to lose money. We wouldn’t be able to pay off our debt and still be able to have a down payment for a smaller/ more affordable home.
it doesnt sound like prozac is the right anit-depressiant for you. finding the right anti-depressant for someone is very hard, the only way to find one that works is through trial and error and it sounds like this one is a miss. i would suggest stop taking prozac cause it will keep the feeling in your stomach away and its not helping you anyways. you should try to lower you cost of living/reduce money consumption as much as possible, if you are really pressed for food you can check out the sup kitchen. in the mean time i sugest you really try very hard to get a job that pays, even if it is minimum wage.
Hey, Seabass!
I’ve been through hard times when I was a kid (my father lost everything when I was 6) and also a couple of times as an adult. I started working when I was 14, to help feed and clothe my two siblings, and one thing I’ve learned is that no work is below me, as long as it is honest and pays the bills.
Don’t pay attention to the “griefers” that come to this type of site to mock who’s already suffering. And please, please… DO NOT think of yourself as a coward, it takes far more courage to stay and face the situation. Suicide would be the cowardly way out, as you would just be transferring the pain and suffering to your wife, your kids and other loved ones. Aside of that, your life insurance would probably be no good if you took your own life, as they normally have exceptions for those cases.
Talk to your wife, downsize your expenses, sell the truck, move to an efficiency, file for bankruptcy. Those things may sound awful, but stuff is just that: stuff. You’ll get thing back on track if you calm down. Retreat and regroup. Survive.
For the love of your daughters, please stay strong. Bad times will come and go, as absolutely nothing - good or bad - lasts forever.
A hug from Brazil
I want to thank everyone for their words of support. I need to logoff for a while, but I will be back later tonight. thanks again.
Seabass shout at me when you get back online tonight, thanks, see ya..
if u decide to stop the prozac…talk to ur doc first. dont spend your money on anything unnessisarry. right now u only really need to pay ur bills, eat (use cupons and get stuff onsale), and keep healthy. no big shopping trips. try to watch less tv and dont leave the lights on…and when using the bathroom- if its pee, let it be, if its brown, flush it down. make showers and baths short and keep ur computer turned off when not using it. these helpful hints will all save water and electricity- in the long run, saving you money. they are small simple tasks but they make a big difference.
hey seabass, i feal your pain man, i know what its like to be in the situation your in, i’ve gone through allot more than what your going through. and let me be the one to tell you that everything is going to be alright but only if you believe. i have depression too so i know what i’m talking about here, i’ve had it for about 3 years now and there are days when you will rise and there are days when you will fall but know that all of this will pass. let me say that prozac isnt the best thing for you right now, tell your doctor to put you on a diffrent kind of medicine. i tried lots of medz before i found the right one but me i choose not to take them anymore because i had my reasons but they do work trust me. and like evrybody else is saying, do it for your kids and keep staying strong, trust me it will pass. if you need some more help just give me a shout. just remember that your family and health are the most important things in life everything else is all material stuff.
Well I am back online now. It is almost 6 am and I havn’t been to sleep for 2 days. My state of mind is pretty much the same as earlier. I just want to go to sleep for a few days. I don’t eat or sleep. I get no joy from life these days. The only time I smile is when I see my daughters faces. My wife doesn’t care about me anymore. I left her a message saying that I need time to think things over. She doesn’t know if she wants to stay together or not. She is constantly cold to me and I don’t even like going home after work. Things have been this way betweeen us since august, and I can’t take it anymore. I told her she needs to make a decision in order for us to try and get of life back togther, but she can’t do it. I feel like I need to make the decision, and since I can’t decide to make her want to stay with me, the only decision I am in a position to make is to get divorced. That is not at all what I want, but I don’t know if I can continue with the way things are between us. I just want to hold her. I am so starved for affection these days, that if I see a pretty woman it just makes me sad that my wife can’t be there for me in my time of need.
I left my wife that voicemail almost 12 hours ago. I haven’t spoken to her since I left the house at 6 am Thursday morning. I am constantly checking my phone to see if she called, and everytime I see that she hasn’t it hurts a little bit more.
Seabass. What kind of job is it that you do? From your writing I think it would be best to kick your wife out for the time being. If she is not contributing to the house or your well being what is the point of her being there?
God bless and keep u Seabass- i will pray for you.
Seabass-
I really feel for you.
I can tell you that I am not where you are - yet - but I fear I could be.
My wife lost her job 6 months ago.
I’m working, but we’re going through our assets and starting to cut back on the things in life that are unessential. Things that we enjoy, but no longer feel we can afford.
All I can tell you, it’s not you - it’s the system.
The citizens of this country have supported our system all our lives, now things are bad and we’re falling. And if you lose your job and fall behind financially, after the unemployment runs out, what then?
Like you, I’ve lost my appetite, don’t sleep well, and basically have lost my zeal for living.
In another 6 months - maybe a year or even 2, I’ll be at the end of my rope too. meanwhile I’ll be going through everything it’s taken me all my life to put together.
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god? *looks up and shifts eyes left to right. looks back at mporterjcgs.* no god.
Seabass, where are you? how are you?
Hello Seabass. The worst thing that could happen is for your daughters to loose you. Do you have people in your life that would help take care of your children?
If you do, I suggest I temporary situation. Crappy as it sounds, its better than leaving those girls without their daddy. Not many fathers care and that’s what matters.
If you feel like you can’t take it, you must leave. You need to step outside of this situation to see it objectively. Not that you really ever could. But, you need to work and be alone. Live for those girls, live for their future. Remove yourself, work your butt off, for them. When your time is free you must find healing avenues to restore your confidence. Meditate, pray, hike, yoga, find therapeutic mental ways to conquer this pressure and anguish.
Do anything else, stay at home with your daughters while your wife works if that would keep you afloat. Remove unnecessary things, TV, cable, excessive expenses. Rent out a room in your home to a needy single mother who might pay your wife for childcare.
Do anything…anything other than leaving those girls. Go build a shack for them if you must. You are important to them and that makes you extremely important in life. They need you to show them how to be strong.
Show them what overcoming obstacles really is. This is a great challenge, You should accept this challenge and show them how to emerge from the emptiness and pressure. You can and will, be impressive. Be nice to yourself, do as much as you can and then rest.
You can do this. One piece at a time. Good luck, dear sir.
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I know how you feel. Everyday I wake up and try to have a postive attitude but within an hour, the postive attitude is gone. I sometimes feel at least if something happen to me my children would never go without again, but then they would be without their mom. They are the only reason I am still in here. My current situation has left me helpless, and I have to depend on my husband to make all the money in the house and I dont like it. Things are tough finacially right now, and I am helpless. I feel like I was tricked into this marriage and Im started to resent him everyday.
Maria
Suicide is never the answer. Get help. Go outside and scream at the top of your lungs, call 9-1-1, do anything to stop yourself from doing it. You can’t leave your wife in that financial mess with 3 children to take care of on her own. They will be forever resentful of you. The only thing for you to do now is seek professional help for both your depression and your financial troubles.
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Pick yourself up and figure it out. If it is as bad as you say it is then it can’t get any worse so that in itself is the silver lining to grab on to. You can only go up and things can only get better. But in order for that to happen you have to try. Some money is better than no money, a job at McDonalds might not be appealing but it might be necessary. If you have 3 daughters than you have to do what you have to do to make things as normal for them as possible.
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you will be setting a exsample for your girls.how do you want the to remember you when things get tough.it cold be worse i watch my friend go thou loseing a child and another whom child has cancer.be thankfull you can hug your girls.preyer helps
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I agree logics. I am very fortunate that I have 3 healthy young girls. I do my best to not take it for granted. My oldest has severe allergies and asthma, so we have spent a good amount of time at Boston’s children’s hospital. Each time we are there I realise that even though my daughters food allergies ARE life threatening, things could be much much worse.
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To all who is feeling like there is no help, and for those who think that they are the only people who are going through difficult times. Wake up will you and look around!!! it is going on everywhere and it is affecting everyone all over the world in some shape or form, some morethan others but the general look on life is down.
It doesnt matter if you loose your house!
It doesnt matter if you loose your car!
It doesnt matter if you loose your job!
There is always a possibility of getting it back, but there is one thing that no one will ever get back and thats thier life, so please take good care of it as you dont get a second chance with that one.
Seabass - Your daughters have only got one dad and they will never get another, dont matter how good or bad a father you are, the one thing they will miss if you go will be you! so dont take that away from them. I am a great beleiver of the saying that “everything happens for a reason” you was born for a reason and dont end your life before you find that reason! Have fun finding it with your kids and set the examples they would be proud of.
when the nois and pain in your whole body, it starts to get hard to breath. find aplace dark and away, take damp bathtwoel curl up as tigh as you can and flex every mussle you can while you scream into the ttowlhold it tight just so you can breath,till you can’t scream anymore. your body may sore the next day but it is a pain you know where it is coming from, better then the other.
The others can take everything from you but your life, don’t give them that too. You are in a house with 2 windows, one to see the ugly part of life like bills,debts,hatress and the other is there to see the beauty of life like your doughters, a sunny day, a smile, real friends.
In your mind just take many boards of timber, a hammer an nails and close that bad window, nail as many board as posible so no light come in throu that window and leave just the good window open. Take a chair and sit in front of that window and just spend all your time looking at all those good things that life offers you.
Stay in the house longer than necessary and once you forget the other window (what window?) then open the door and get out to share your life with all the goodness.
I don’t know if there is another life or not, I don’t know if i’m going to heaven or hell, I only know that I’m here and I want to take the best of life with me because it may be my last chance.
I am in big S..t too but I will send all that to hell not myself.
Man, eat, It’s a pleasure. Your boddy is probably your only friend right now so don’t treat him like this. He has given you everything and it’s just asking you for drink and food, don’t ignore him, doen’t deserve it.
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