I met this girl over the internet.

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I met this girl over the internet.

I’m completely in knots about what to do. I understand that speaking to a girl over msn is of-course very different to speaking in person, and my feelings of fondness for this girl don’t carry the same value as if i had actually spent time hanging out with her, but plz if anyone has experience with anything like this I really could do with some advice. Let me also add that I quite regularly talk to girls through txts and online (like we all do in this day and age) but I also go on lots of dates with these girls, pull girls and get their numbers when i’m out, etc etc… I’m no noob. But something seems very different, I added her on msn because she had the exact same (full name) as the girl I was previously dating. The name of my cat (by pure coincidence) is also the name of where she is from, she has a baby with same name as my work partner, she also looks uncannily similar to a girl I used to date! she said she looked lke her sister or something. Anyway these i guess are just a set of coincidences. We talked for hours on msn, (lets just say I have never spoke to anyone like the way i spoke to her, and she said the same). We exchanged pics of each other, which were received on both ends very well! we txt each other every day. Basically we are both stuck in each others minds. I would ring her (i’m not a ***** and want to), but I almost feel like it would spoil something, It feels like some strange story. So here is my dilemma, what the **** do we do about it!!!?? I want to meet her sooo badly, and i’m sure she feels the same. There are some barriers, i.e we live quite some distance apart (about 180 miles or so, maybe less) I believe she is in a relationship, although this has not been mentioned to me once (her status online “In a relationship”) she also has a young child. I think that we are both pretending these barriers don’t exist, as they spoil the story, by giving us an ending, i.e.. This is stupid, what are we thinking? we can’t realistically meet up to hang out, let alone have a relationship, so lets just leave it. But is that just giving up? Plz plz i really need some ideas about what I should do, I want a happy ending to this fairy tale. I reckon the sooner I confront the reality the better. We can’t keep this up. It needs an ending, like pulling a thorn out, it will hurt, but sooner is better. also note I am 21, she is 22.

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Anonymous #
10 months, 3 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Im kinda sorta in the same situation. I met a guy online and we txt daily and talk on the phone almost every night. We are not dating but we choose not to see other ppl. We both have strong feelings for eachother and want to meet and possible have a relationship.

I think 180 miles is nothing Im dealing with over 1000. If you too both feel the same then maybe you can work something out and possible try a long distance relationship.

But you need to get everything clear. Find out if she is in a relationship. Talk about her child etc. Get everything clear and make sure you too are on the same page.

dolphintraine 1 #
Norfolk, VA, US | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

I think that you should keep in touch with her, but don’t meet her in person. People on the internet don’t always say who they really are. She may not be lying bur you never know.Ask her about her relationship and how its going

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Maxibon 0 #
Sheffield, L9, GB | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

update she just txt me asking if i want to go vist her. Also thanks for the feedback. :)

jessic_spec 1 #
Strum, WI, US | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

i am kinda in the same thing but i have met the guy he dont live to far from me but in a few weeks he will be far away for a year. i say ask her if she is in a relationship and see if she wants to meet you befor she lets you meet or talk to her kid. cuz kids can have a hard time with someone new in their life.

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Maxibon 0 #
Sheffield, L9, GB | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

i’m the anonymous one lol whoops haha

jessic_spec 1 #
Strum, WI, US | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (20 minutes after post)

its ok it happens

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deeryro 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (5 days, 12 hours after post)

I would make sure she is who she says she is i think calling her would be a good idea so you can actual talk on the fone this again would break down another barrier. If you do want to meet her then i say go for it but arrange to meet somewhere safe and during the day.
If you realy like this girl talk everything through warts and all you need to know everything about each other and there is nothing wrong wwith meeting fr just a day out after all u could gain a friend even if you dont want to have a relationship together.

defencelin #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

I think one of the best thing about an internet scenario is its simplicity. There are so many factors in our lives that can effect a relationship and the truth is the internet eliminates them all (save a few). Here’s why I think they are easier.

First of all it is always on your own terms, you’re only ever online to talk if you want to be there, if you’re not up for it or you’re busy, then there are no consequences. Normal relationships don’t have this flexibility.

Online you can be whoever you want to be. I’m not suggesting that when you talk to girls online you talk ********, just that it’s easier to skip the parts you don’t like about yourself and maybe exagerate. Plus its so much easier talking, you never feel pressured and you can take a lot longer with what you want to say. I’ve often said things in conversations having not thought them through and regretted it, but at the end of the day, I still said it. Which leads me onto my next point.

People have a tendancy to expose their faults and warts when they don’t even realise. Like they say only 10% of communication is verbal, you have no body language to interpret online. So much of what you’re saying is in how you say it. You can learn so much about a person by just listening to them talk for 5 minutes in person.

You can build someone up in your mind by doing the internet thing. It is difficult, you have to remember that the girls online are no different from the girls you see everyday. I’m not saying you can’t find success online, just that it is much harder than if you meet someone in person. My only advice to you would be to keep it as a friendship until you are actually in a position to have a relationship.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 2 weeks ago (9 months after post)

it hurts so much..

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