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destroyed by someone i hardly know.

ive known this guy for a week and we’ve been hanging out almost everyday and we really like eachother.. so i thought.. we were suppose to hang out tonight but he didnt text me .. so i called him and he hung up right away. then he texted me saying he couldnt talk, so i automatically assumed it was me that did something wrong.. he lated blamed it on family problems and refused to come over because he was in a bad mood. we aren’t dating but we have become really close over the past week… i just dont know what to think.

im just suspicious because there was a girl who gave him her number, i know he would never cheat on someone,,, but the thing is we arent even in a relationship, i cant get over how attached i have become to him for just knowing him a week, its really stressing me out.
i dont know what to do.

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Arnday the Imbroglio offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (6 minutes after post)

orrr he could be just telling the truth?

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WillaTree offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (12 minutes after post)

Read the book He’s Just Not That Into You or the somewhat archaic book The Rules.

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WillaTree offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (14 minutes after post)

hunna_the_Stunn wrote:

wow.. no dont read a book. what u gotta do chick is go to his house tell him who’s boss and ask him what his flippin problem is. otherwise u might not get anywhere

Yah, that will ‘totally’ win him over.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (18 minutes after post)

Yah, reading books is so for idiotic retards. I mean reading gets you NO where in life. Textbooks and colleges are for stupid people!

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sparkyman offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (18 minutes after post)

It was really family problems, dont worry.

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An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (21 minutes after post)

You’ve done went to college-awesome! They done teach you good! No complaints here.

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sparkyman offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (27 minutes after post)

WillaTree wrote:
Yah, reading books is so for idiotic retards. I mean reading gets you NO where in life. Textbooks and colleges are for stupid people!

college is fun though… so yeah… and u get a chance at a better job then if you dont go… which means more money and in most instances… more happiness!

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louise offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 19 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months ago (8 hours, 55 minutes after post)

Silverwings wrote:
Whoa… are you moving fast or what???

He may be turned off, because you seem to have fallen so hard, he may just want to be friends….

Relationships take time to develop, and anything moving this fast, is heading for some real rough seas.

slow down, and take time to enjoy the journey….

God bless…

i know its moving fast, but he has told me that he likes me and likes hanging out with me and stuff.. its not like i said to him omg i really like you, hes said it to me first

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An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 3 weeks ago (1 week after post)

It is hard to feel the way you do because it sounds as though you had something very special starting up there. This may be incredibly hard to hear, but you may never understand what is happening, even if you ask him, you may never feel confident that you know what is going on.

What’s even harder to hear is this - you are going to need to learn to define yourself and be confident in who you are. Don’t let the behaviour of others define you. You sound like a very caring person who is looking for a relationship where you feel understood. Not everyone else can give you what you give them right now, and that’s not your fault. If you are what he needs, he’ll come back. Bottom line - learn to be happy with who you are.

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