I’m broken & empty inside. - Help.com

sorry you feel that way…

I don’t believe in God so…
My life is to miserable for me to believe in anything…
Can’t give any advice because I don’t know what turned you unhappy and since when…

You can’t depend on god to do all the work. You have to make an effort to go to church and maybe even a bible study or two. Continue to pray and live a good life, and hopefully happiness will return to your life. (:

I think you’re basically looking in the right place - God can help fill the void you feel, but relationships are important, too. Do you have any close friends/family? Also, are you involved in a church that you feel is helping you build relationships?

Do you think you deserve to be happy?

I am guessing that it has to do more with your interaction with other people.

Well, you better start today. Start by believing that you DESERVE to be happy!

Well, you see that is a problem for you. You need to rewire you brain to think that all the happiness, even if it’s a little, that comes your way it’s well deserved. Your negativity is what is keeping you down in the dumps. Positive thinking for positive outcomes will always bring positive results. Happiness and joy beget more happiness and more joy!

Religion is a funny thing - especially depending on how people teach it to you. Christianity doesn’t Make people happy; not if it’s done right, anyway. Lets see - you’re supposed to take anything from anybody without complaint, never lift a finger in anger… lots of Hard stuff to do that is normal in todays society. Jesus never promised anyone a rose garden - check your book, quote by quote. It’s a Hard road. Over the years, some dopes tried to throw that spin in as a marketing tool - stop buying into it.

So don’t blame Christianity - or yourself - for not finding your happiness in it. That’s not what Christianity’s about.

You need to find your own happiness. And part of that starts when you stop expecting it to be provided through religion, and go looking for it yourself. All pleasure does not run contrary to the book (unless you’re an anabaptist… ~G~): find something you like to do and embrace it.

Please make sure you read and reread this, OK?

Sometimes when we are happy we wonder if we deserve that happiness. Most of the time we deserve to be happy! Sometimes we are happy at others’ expense. The funny part about that is that when we are happy at others’ expense it’s when we truly think we deserve to be happy and sometimes that is the wrong kind of happiness. You never want to be happy because of other people’s misfortune, even if you think that they deserve that misfortune.

Yet, when we are truly happy because we have built that happiness to come our way, we still don’t believe it! We still think it’s undeserving for us to be happy. We want to knock that happiness down with a sledgehammer if possible! You have to adjust your happiness to the moment. That means that you have learn to accept the good things that come your way that are truly good for you. You have to eliminate the negativity in your life. If you think negative thoughts you will attract negative things into your life.

We never feel deserving. It’s like when that man won the lottery a few years ago. He won 15 million dollars!. Now that’s a lot of money! But before he won it, he was broke and with no friends or family around him and he thought he deserved to be like that for the rest of his life. He felt so undeserving of winning that money that he started giving it all away. All kinds of sycophants started coming out of the woodwork to help him dispose of the money. By the time he was through he was right where he was when he started before he won the lottery: broke and with no friends or family around him. He thought that the Lord wanted him to be like that and it was his wish to please the Lord. He did not feel deserving of winning the lottery. He didn’t realize that the winning of the lottery was a lifeline that the good Lord had sent him. But, he went right back to where he was.

When good things happen to us and something bad comes along that happens after that we say, “I knew it. It was too good to be true.” And the kicker is that some people accept that. It’s the self-fulfilling proffecy. Your negativity is what keeps you going. You want unhappiness to come your way and you wish for unhappy things to come your way, and “boom” they happen to you! It is really weird that some people say that when they are unhappy is when they really feel alive.

You must adjust yourself and rewind your clock so you only wish for happiness to grab you. THINK ABOUT THE GOOD THINGS YOU WANT, NOT ABOUT THE BAD THINGS YOU DON’T WANT! If you call good things to your life, good things will come to your life. You call happiness to come to you and it will come. Any happy event that happens in your life is minor as it might be, embrace it and keep it. Don’t think that you are undeserving of that happiness that shrouds you!

Come to terms with the fact that you deserve to be happy! Come to terms with the fact the people around you wish to see you happy! Why would you want to sabotage your happiness? There are people in this world who seem to have everything, money, love, fame, fortune, great friends, a perfect family who loves them, just about everything you could think of to be happy in this world. Are they happy? Probably. But, you know what they end up doing? They decide that they have to get high on illegal drugs or booze. The husband hooks up with a prostitute because they have the mistaken notion that their wives are not enough for them. The women start having affairs for the same reason, the children start running away from home and doing drugs, etc., etc., etc., They sabotage that happiness that shrouds them because they think it’s too much happiness and they don’t deserve it.

You must learn to separate your unhappiness from your happiness. Accept the fact that you are happy because you deserve to be happy and you brought that happiness to your life and it’s going to stay. Just say a prayer and thank God for your happiness. Sure, we are all going to have our bad days when nothing goes our way and maybe those days we should have stayed in bed. What if everybody did that? There would not be any people to run this world. There would not be anybody to show us how we can be truly happy!

When you start to think that you don’t deserve to be happy, put those thoughts aside and think. “This is my day and a wonderful day that it is in my wonderful life with wonderful people who love me and want me to be happy. Today is full of infinite possibilities and I am going to grab as many as I can. The possibilities I cannot reach today, I will try to reach tomorrow.” And the next day get up with that positive attitude again and face the new day. And do the same every day without fail. Soon you will realize that the happiness that you have and will continue having is there for you to take and keep on being happy!

When negative thoughts come your way throw them out the window! Dispose of them like yesterday’s news. You keep on thinking all the positive thoughts and soon you won’t need any medicine or drugs to help keep you going. Accept the fact that you are a wonderful human being! Those around you want you to be happy but are unhappy when they see you unhappy. Show them that you can be positive in your thoughts and actions. God bless you!

This is my wish for you: Many prayers will come your way! May all the praises of the lord and his blessings be released upon you!

I’m sorry I wrote so much! :)

God Does provide - but he provides only what is needed.

Jesus was crucified; Peter was crucified; James was beheaded; Matthew MAY have been martyred - nobody has definite info. John was banished to an island, but eventually died a natural death. Paul was beheaded. Christianity is serious business; not happy fun time.

I’m not telling you that you should go off and do anything you want - happiness and religion can coexist. But God and Jesus have other things to do than provide you with smiles, rainbows and puppies; there’s a war going on.

You really want some kind of spiritual happiness - then join the fight. Work a soup line, get involved up to your armpits in the misery of life and try to pull some people free of it. Does it bring happiness? Umm.. depends on how you define it. It first brings satisfaction. Then it brings this weird happiness that comes from putting out a super effort for the good guys - like a runners high, except religious.

But, when you Really think about it, that’s the way it is and Has to be. Too many Christians expect things to be laid at their doorstep when they’re supposed to be manning the lighthouses and being proactive.

Trust me - I’ve been there.

Maybe you need to be born again?

You need to rediscover the Lord. Find him within you.

This is the standard definition:

In Christianity, the term born again means rebirth — namely, spiritual birth into the family of God by acceptance of Jesus Christ as personal Lord and savior. This is contrasted with the first birth which everyone experiences, which is into the flesh (physical world). In the Bible, Jesus is said to have stated that only born-again believers get into Heaven - “Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.” (John 3:3).

Have thought that you might be the Prodigal son?

Whatever it is your feeling, you should never turn your back on the Lord!

It’s never too late to find him again. He is always there waiting for us. He never gives us his back. He is very forgiving and his mercy is neverending!

He is always there. Even when you don’t feel him. You mentioned that you go to youth stuff at another church, but not at your own church. Why’s that? I’m asking, because I had a total transformation in my view of religion when I changed churches a little over a year ago. I’d always gone to a church that was like what I grew up in. I thought it was how you were “supposed” to do it. Long story how I ended up trying another one, but I can’t describe the difference and the joy I get from going to church now. The people are awesome, the pastor is amazing, and I just feel like I fit. So I really do feel like finding a church that “fits” you can make a difference - it sure did to me.

i felt like this last year a lot.. i truly hope that god comes to you. i tried and prayed all the time, and always felt like sh!t. i kept praying and got nothing. i lost my faith, and now i dont know what god is…. things are better for me now though.. i have no idea what you used to enjoy doing, but try to explore new things..i started making hydrogen with electrolosys, and its a blast, for me anyway… good luck, i hope everything works out..

Hugs ((()))))

I really can’t add anything to what Little Neck said about strategies to use. I wish I could. All I can say is that many of us have been there, and you can get through it. The key is to try to find something to have joy in (excellent creativity on the hydrogen/electrolosys thing, bluflames!). Try and find something to look forward to every day.

And we’re always here for you, too. Give me a shout any time!

So why are you looking forward to summer, just out of curiosity. . .

Hello there, i’m sorry you feel bad. I was born and raised a catholic but i actually don’t practice it that much except when i pray for guidance and stuff. But i don’t preach about God. Certainly it depends on what you think could help you. You could try different things though in the hope of feeling better.

Try to be positive. i know how it would feel to be where you are. But to give up could mean the end. I know you are not trying to give up though bec you are here and the ranting does help.

Go out and talk to people. Sometimes to talk, touch are natural healing relief.

Believe. Sometimes, to believe is to make things real. Our mind is just so powerful that it can give light to whatever it is that’s clouding you now.

Remember that it will pass. Everything does.

Hang in there. We are with you.

lilies

iwana wrote:
So why are you looking forward to summer, just out of curiosity. . .

And I mean besides the obvious “not having to go to school?”

You must have headed to bed - hope you sleep well!

The Missing Piece wrote:
I don’t have anything to look forward to except summer.
I dont know how much longer I can take this, I need him so badly right now.

by him you mean god??

Therapy.

Yay! I’m glad.

hmm…glad you’re feeling better, sorry, i dont think i have much to offer here other than i hope you can find him, i couldnt..

One thing I’ve learned in this world Missing, is that things are never really perfect. We just have pray for help and guidance and make the best with what we have.

I don’t for one moment believe that God will willingly hide from you. He’s there even when you think He’s not. He promised never to forsake us and that nothing can come between Him and us.

The Bible said all of us have turned from the truth and have sinned. You don’t gain God and happiness through perfection. We choose not to sin because of our respect for Him and by the power He gives us, but all of use stumble.

Just remember what I said; this life isn’t perfect and absolute happiness is rarely there. Jesus himself experienced a life filled with hurt pain and misery. I firmly believe that God is a God of love and that He is there for you even when you think you are at your worst. His love and forgiveness are complete. Even when you are utterly miserable and think you are alone, He’s right there with you.

More prayers still. Keep the faith in your heart burning!

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Please don’t despair…There must be a positive for you, somewhere…Think back…I recently lost a dear friend because they felt hopeless, but there is help. Talk to a Minister, friend, loved one…If you are alone, look within yourself to find the positive. If you are healthy, thank God for that…If you have family, thank God for that…If you have a job, thank God for that…

You have to thank God for the positives and you will begin to see them. It takes effort, but there will be improvement.

Everyone feels hopeless at times, but faith in something, whether it is named God, Creator, Allah, Mohammed even Nature, Fate…whatever…

Life is a gift and we have to work diligently to lead a good life. If you feel depressed, go out and help someone who is in a worse position. Do something for yourself (exercise) or for others (community service)..

I hope this helps! Take care and you will be in my prayers.

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After reading this post there are some wise words of wisdom and I too would like to pass along a few things that have helped me through my uncertainty and unhappiness lately. While I know where my unhappiness is deriving from, becoming happy again while others I love and are going through so much is what I need to focus on, and it is very very hard.

I truly believe that no matter what religion you practice or what God you pray to, as long as you accept that there is a higher power then us here on earth you will be watched over. Sometimes we might pray to hard or ask for things that aren’t as unfortunate as others are going through and that may seem why we feel our prayers are not answered. We have all sinned at one time or another, we cannot deny that. But you must accept yourself and love yourself for your the first person who needs to believe in your happiness! If we were happy all of the time then how would we experience our other emotions and tune into ourselves? Maybe I have provided more questions then advice or just rambled but I truly believe that we all deserve happiness in our life, but with happiness comes sadness.

I would like to share a few quotes, or sayings that I have allowed myself to think of to help me through my days.
**Happiness is in our own control, it is up to us as individuals to make the best out of everyday and live life to the fullest, we cannot rely on others, for they may bring us down**

**If you follow your heart you cannot fail, it may be scary and you might experience feelings you did not know you had, but the heart does not lie**

I do wish you the best and you will find happiness, just do not GIVE UP!!