I only had one friend in my life - Help.com

Stop cutting. Try and go for as long as you can without cutting and then show your friend how much you have changed.

You said that she was your everything. Prove it. If it is true that you don’t make an effort, then start changing and make an effort.

Hi, sorry that you only had one friend. I only had one close friend other than my two brothers and she broke my life so I know how it feels. It makes it hard to be friends with other people. But I have some people listed on my online friend list, they must be relevant to friendship somehow, just a sec, I’ll invite them.

stop cutting please. take it from me it makes thing worse but you feel better when you stop doing it altogether. can you try to get her back?

you need to stop cutting. it isn’t health and it makes everything worse.

try to show her that you want her back. do things you’ve never done for her before. show her how muh you really care for her. eveyonee needs someone. and if she’s that someone you rely on, do your best to get her back…

I’m sorry to hear that. But please stop cutting.
I agree with Elysium, I think you should prove it to her that she’s important to her. Sometimes peope just want to feel like they’re needed, show her that you want her in your life and you still want to be her friend.

I don’t have many close friends either, so I understand how this would have hurt. But cutting is not the answer, making more friends is.

It is time to pick yourself up and stop hurting yourself.

This is the thing that people don’t understand about hurting themselves. It is selfish and it drives the few people willing to be close to them away. You’ve probably told yourself “Why does it matter? The only person it hurts is me.” That is the furthest thing from the truth and now you’ve proven it. By being so self-absorbed that you could only focus on creating more pain for yourself, you’ve hurt your friend so badly that she’s felt the need to walk away.

Now it is time for you to walk away from your addiction. It is time to tell this addiction the same kinds of things that your friend told you: It doesn’t do anything for you and you’re the only one making an effort. Move on and find better outlets. Scare yourself into doing things that you have wanted to try but wouldn’t because you were afraid of rejection. Push yourself to be a better person. Force yourself to cope with the pain of life without hurting the people around you. This doesn’t mean never tell anyone anything or don’t lean on them as friends. It actually means the opposite. Draw people in. Enjoy the time you have with them. Then confide in them when you need to so that they truly know you and aren’t hurt by you hiding your feelings from them. Learn selflessness.

Why exactly did she leave you? I know you said that she left because you didn’t try hard enough, but could you be a bit more specific?

yeah if you know what you supposedly did you can try real hard to fix it

R_H_Y_ wrote:
she was my only friendi didn’t drive her away by cuttin myself cuz i did that cuz she left

Yes, people don’t hurt themselves by self-purpose, that’s basic biology and psychology, only something from outside could be powerful enough to make you hurt yourself — i.e., your only friend hurt you and is still hurting you and the only power to make it stop other than total self-discipline and control at every second is to find other friends. You can heal and grow stronger before talking to her again, it doesn’t make sense to talk to her while you are very vulnerable.

Those are just my thoughts and opinions — I’d be more helpful if I were a closer friend and knew more about friendship, but at least there’s something there.

You had a problem to begin with if you only had 1 friend. Try to figure out what it is that limits the amounts of friendships you have, then work on that flaw. You said that her reason for leaving you was that your never there for her, which would be odd considering you probly have alot of time on your hands, since you don’t have any other friends. Is she right, or has she just changed, and wants different things now? Move on and try to make an effort to meet more people. You should never have just 1 person to depend on.

cutting isnt the answer. it never is. You still have yourself, you can still get out there and make friends. Dont wait for them to come to you, go to them