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I have no experience with marriage so I am not the best person to give you advice. I hope your situation works out to the best of it’s ability and I pray that you have a happy healthy baby.

I think it’s important for you to ask him to decide what he wants. It’s not fair for him to leave you unsure of the future, ecspecially when you have a baby on the way. Tell him that if he is even slightly interested in continuing in this relationship, you need him to go to a marriage counselor with you.

Marriage is a big commitment, but having a baby is ten times bigger and it scares the crap out of most guys. Once he see’s that baby and he knows it’s his flesh and blood he’ll change his mind and stay with u. Try a marriage counselor and also tell him how much fun he’ll have teachin a little boy or girl how to walk, talk, ride a bike etc….he will come around!…:)

It might be coz he is scared with going to be a dad and all, I wish you the best of luck with the young one.

Hi, I am in a similar situation as you are except that I am the husband. I don’t know if I can help in anyway, because I am looking for help myself. I hope your husband is willing to try. How long have you been married for and how old are you guys?

Isn’t it maybe because the VERY pregnant woman’s busy driving the man against the walls? (no offense to anyone.)

Having a baby is stressful for everybody. It sucks that your husband is not helping you and instead is adding to your stress. But we cannot change other people’s behaviour. Often, the more you need him, the more he runs away. I would suggest that you make him understand that you need him now, but don’t be too ‘needy’ if you can understand that.

All you can do is give it time. You may be lucky and he will come around in time.

Stay on this site and keep us posted. You will find a lot of support here. lol to you

If you feel the marriage is worth saving then by all means start working towards that goal. If hubby won’t go to counseling, go yourself. The sooner the better. Also talk to your doctor/OBGYN about ways to relieve the stress of all this without hurting your baby. Good luck. A few of us will pray for your family, including your unborn child.

I really dont have any experience with marriage either but i have a good edvise. I think you should wait until the baby is born and show him if it wasnt for him, this baby wouldnt have been born. Tell him to make a baby what do you need… a mother and a father… that is how it sapose to be. Show him how much you really do care about this new family show him that you really do love him with all your heart. Pray to God everyday and tell God to keep you strong with everything you do with this family. Trust me, if you levave everything to God and with your prayers to God, everything will work out just fine!

Get started on marriage counseling early. Don’t wait for the baby to be born. What you both need to do is learn how to communicate with each other. It will only get harder after the child is born. Your marriage is in trouble because he isn’t communicating with you. Maybe he is scared to. Maybe he just doesn’t know how. Counseling can help if you find a person you can both feel comfortable with. I wish you luck.

Regarding for his “emotioal problems”…your husband needs to see a doctor on that.
I don’t know what his problem is, but I think if he is facing a re-lapse, then you might want to consult his current doctor and explain the situation.

If his “emotional problems” are the only barriers in your marriage, which is leading to this conflict.

Then, I recommend you get him to his doctor and like CM Theisen said, go to marriage counseling.

Talk to this other woman, he’s “communicating” with.

I know you feel hurt, but it would help to make friends with this woman and find out WHY he has turned to someone else for emotional support.

It’s always a good idea to NOT PANIC in these types of situations.

I’m sorry I haven’t been on, but I think what you need to do is:

1) Go to your husband’s doctor to guarantee his “emotional problems” are as controlled as possible.
a) Tell your husband’s doctor how he has changed (if he has)
b) Ask for a change in medication.

**Sometimes side-effects from medications can change a person’s behavior.

This is all the advice I can give you for now…I’ve gotta go…Sorry.

Bye!

Peace Be Upon You and God Bless You.

I’m really worried about you!!
I hope things are ok!!
Please reply soon!!!

Lots of hugs & smiles coming your way!!!