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I can’t stop telling lies to my family I lie about

money what I want to do Where I am I cannot control myself

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Jules22871 offline Verified User (4 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 5 months ago (1 minute after post)

Do you feel that you need to lie or do you just do it before you realize whatyou are doing?

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super_sam_1 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 5 months ago (3 minutes after post)

I have been doing it for so long that I feel like if I stop I will lose what I have

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Jules22871 offline Verified User (4 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 5 months ago (5 minutes after post)

It is a very destructive habit to say the least. But don’t you think that you and everyone else would be better if you came clean. I mean, if you are in some kind of trouble that they don’t know about, don’t you think it would be better for you to tell them what is going on and why? Your family loves you and yeah, it will probably upset them to find out you have been lying but they will forgive you and they will work with you to set your life straight.

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Help me with: This was written for me and my husband after our motorcycle accident and was published in a couple for biker magazines.
Marian offline Verified User (4 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 5 months ago (9 minutes after post)

i know someone exactly like you..he’s not a bad person but he keeps doing bad stuff and telling lies he only believes in..maybe you should try to se a psychologist?

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 5 months ago (13 minutes after post)

I agree and am normaly a rational person but when I think about doing I feel physicaly sick and fear overcomes me it keeps me silent to suffer knowing what im doing is wrong and knowing ill do it again

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Jules22871 offline Verified User (4 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 5 months ago (16 minutes after post)

Knowing you have a problem is the first step in getting it fixed. Find a counselor or a doctor you can talk to and they will help you find a way to get over this.

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Help me with: This was written for me and my husband after our motorcycle accident and was published in a couple for biker magazines.
irenevictoria2 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 2 years, 9 months ago (1 year, 7 months after post)

i have been like dat before,but don’t worry just forget dat u ever lied and live your life straight,i know you want to change and surely u will get over it,FOD LOVE U AND HE FORGIVES YOUR SINS BUT TRY TO BE A GOOD PERSON

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adgemage196 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (2 years, 10 months after post)

…. And the truth shall set you free.

People lie mainly out of
situation (need to get that job - did you ever lie on a resume’?),
want to get out of trouble (Son, did you eat that cookie?)
Convenience (Did you do your homework today? Yep I sure did)
Wicked Desire (Did you go to the bar and speak to the girl, and think of going further than that?… then go home and the wife asks “how was the evening?” and you replied “I was at a customer dinner……. “)
Pride (I make $200,000 a year) - want to look cool etc…
Habit (just lie for no reason - voluntarily tell a lie for no reason)

What I did, and it helps, is to make a vow, a very serious one to myself and to God. to stop lying. I mean, really stop. For man it is impossible, but with God all is possible. You will feel guilty about lying… even a simple lie, and if one slips out, don’t be afraid to correct yourself. Soon the habit will be broken. You will still have struggles from time to time but it will gradually become much easier to be just a straight shooter.

I turned to God, and His word is very clear that the sexually immoral, adulterers, Idolators AND ALL Liars will end up in Hell as Satan is the father of all lies. God has helped. Matthew 6:33 says “seek first the kingdom of God, and all these things shall be added unto you.” I understand now what this means. Seeking God will allow Him to grant us the ability to grow closer to Him, and His kingdom. One of it is victory over the devil and his minions.

Most importantly, it feels GREAT to be free. It takes a long time to be completely free from this.

I wish you all success against this struggle.

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