Love help: It’s Getting seriously scary… My boyfriend broke up with me about one and a half months ago becuase he was moving. - Help.com

It has nothing to do with the breakup on its own. It has everything to do with anxiety. The more you focus on something that makes you anxious, the more power you give that thought or fear to make you even more anxious.

The best approach when feeling anxious is to challenge that feeling to overwhelm you completely. Yep. Shout BRING IT ON! until you feel the fear back off. It’s like standing up to a bully. It only has power if you let it control you.

You must retrain your brain so you confront the feelings that make you afraid. Are you afraid of being alone? go to meetup.com and join lots of social groups and FORCE yourself to go and smile and ask people questions.

Always take action. Go out and exercise, run, etc .You will feel better.

PS: There are breakup books out there but I’ve flipped through them and find them really stupid. They basically tell women to be mean, catty, selfish, and vindictive to make themselves feel better. That’s pathetic. The best approach is to improve yourself!

You can do it!

Hm. Well, professionals may be able to help but I haven’t found them personally useful. Trying to avoid thinking about something or someone is like running away from a bully. Fighting anxiety is what gives you the anxiety attack. You start focusing on the symptoms and before you know it they blow up into an attack. I’ve had some anxiety attacks myself.

You have anxiety. What is making you anxious? That you failed? That you will be alone? Don’t run away from that fear. Challenge the fear. Everyone has breakups. No big deal. You’ll learn from this one and do better the next time.

The key is to recognize that the issue is fear. Fear is bullying you. The more you let it control you and isolate you and worry you, the more power it has and the worse the attacks will be. The more you recognize the fear for what it is… an emotion stemming from your feelings of loss, vulnerability and insecurity, the more you can see the anxiety for the shadow it really is.

Distraction, exercise, and challenging the fear to overwhelm you and laughing at it, getting angry with it, those are the ways to handle anxiety. Don’t fight it, don’t run away from it, don’t give it power. It’s just an emotion. And emotions LIE!

You should definetly seek professional help. These Panic attacks can eventually control your life and become more serious. You should also see a doctor and therapist (if that’s what you meant by professional help). I would definelty Say do this immediately. Before this progresses.

Panic attacks come from anxiety.

Depression also can come from anxiety when you just want to give up instead of face what is making you anxious.

Anxiety, fear, unease, they can all feel the same and can drive feelings of depression. Anxiety is easy to deal with if you follow my suggestions.

good points linuxya

Sara i think you coming on to help.com is a good step. There are several ways to overcome loss/anxiety. Distracting yourself by doing something you enjoy is a good escape and I’m sure you have a good friend that will let you vent your worries and frustrations. Talking with people that have had panic attacks and anxiety will help you too I’m sure.

Ive had them before. You’re not alone.

I lost a family member in October. I went thru so many stages of behavior. Denial, Anger, Guilt, Barganing, Acceptance..you might have felt all of these at one point or another. I honestly felt like life had paused on me and I didn’t know what to do. I had panic attacks so bad that I ******* even breathe. It not quite the same problem you have. But you still have a loss that can’t be replaced. You’re depression or sad feelins are quite natural. Don’t feel bad or hate yourself cuz you feel like you should get over it right away. Doesn’t work like that. He’s just one guy and he’s not worth hurting yourself over either. Let your feelings come out. Seek help. Time will heal you and your will forget him. There are plenty of fish in the sea.