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A help.com for kids 13 and younger.
I was in a post which made me think. Why not have a Help.com for children?? They have problems that they keep inside so they can be hard to read sometimes. Only when they are old enough to get on help is when it is too late. If most of our problems start at our childhoods then why is that age group ignored the most when it comes to life problems?? I mean think about whenever you visit a counselor their first question is so when did you start feeling like this? Did it stem from your childhood? (Something along those lines) But none the less your “CHILDHOOD” is always examined and pulled to the surface of your brain to get to the bottom of your behavior. So what do you think? Oh and most of our depression start before we get to 6th grade/middle school so that should tell you something….
Help or information is only as good as the person who is giving it. A child should be directed to wisdom and people who share the values and principles that a family would want their child to share.
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I know but at least they will know they are not alone. Maybe there can be some adults or mods on there willing to devote their time to children. But only if they are really important post that need the right advisory. People here are not experts but we help eachother the best we can because some of us probably been there done that. That could be true for children as well.
I have closed many accounts of people who are too young for this site. It may seem harsh to the observer but there are a few points to consider.
1) I always directed them to a site where they could receive one-to-one counselling with a trained adult. Funnily enough never heard from any of them again.
2) Being that this is a public forum there is always the chance that someone will say something to them which they misinterpret or worse, act upon without thinking.
3) Sick as it may be, the internet has a disproportionate amount of predators and you cannot assume that everyone here would have a child’s best interests at heart.
4) Predators sometimes pretend to be children to meet like-minded monsters - that is one of their codes when they post - they pretend they are 12 or 14. Dont always believe what you read, even on here - you might just be talking to a 40 yr old Man who gets his rocks off pretending he is an abused 10 yr old.
Sorry if that all sounds a bit cynical - but that is pretty much how it is.
Personally I wouldnt let any kid of mine on this site in their early teenage years - it wouldnt be that they wouldnt get good advice but they would also be accessing posts which are far too mature for them to cope with - Mas.
Or maybe this site could be for all ages but if you are under 13 you cant enter post. You know how if you arent a verified member you cant get access to post well it should be the same comcept for them
I agree with Mas1s she has some very good points as well as my above reply. Children should be protected from adults who are predators or who’s immaturity can mislead a child’s perspectives on life.
mas1s wrote:
I have closed many accounts of people who are too young for this site. It may seem harsh to the observer but there are a few points to consider.1) I always directed them to a site where they could receive one-to-one counselling with a trained adult. Funnily enough never heard from any of them again.2) Being that this is a public forum there is always the chance that someone will say something to them which they misinterpret or worse, act upon without thinking.3) Sick as it may be, the internet has a disproportionate amount of predators and you cannot assume that everyone here would have a child’s best interests at heart.4) Predators sometimes pretend to be children to meet like-minded monsters - that is one of their codes when they post - they pretend they are 12 or 14. Dont always believe what you read, even on here - you might just be talking to a 40 yr old Man who gets his rocks off pretending he is an abused 10 yr old.Sorry if that all sounds a bit cynical - but that is pretty much how it is.Personally I wouldnt let any kid of mine on this site in their early teenage years - it wouldnt be that they wouldnt get good advice but they would also be accessing posts which are far too mature for them to cope with - Mas.
I understand but i still think they have a voice that is not being heard just because of their age. Not every child gets directed to a one-on-one counselor…
I personally think that the care of youngsters is way too complex for somewhere as random and general as this place. I always found their nearest big town/city and directed them to a trained professional online who could speak with them and alert appropriate authorities if necessary. This place was not set up to cope with that level of care. - Mas
Well hey i felt sorry but poor child so i thought of a resolution to their problem. You made good points mas and i do understand your concerns because child molesters know exactly what to say and do to lure in children. I guess i related to the child because when i was younger a similar situation happened to me which has scared me and i didnt want the same thing to happen to her. But thanks for your feed back
*i felt sorry for the poor
One point I want to make clear:)
A college education does not make for a good counselor… All individuals can counsel but not all have the principals, morals, ideals that a child should be exposed or trained to believe.
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So we didnt get any where. I guess they will just continue to be ignored. To many complications and concerns…
Why So Steve? wrote:
It’s a good idea, but it raises several issues. Firstly, in order to correctly tackle the complicated and delicate issues that a child may be struggling with, bearing in mind that a child must be truly struggling in order to seek help, the website would need to be monitored and operated by specially appointed representatives trained in this area of expertise. When you also consider that even we here at Help.com are the blind leading the blind, we have maturity on our side. However children helping children would not produce solutions and therefore such a website would not grow organically like this one.
Organically, Ha:) Ha:) Ha:) Ha:) Ha:)
I understand thanks for at least seeing my intentions behind it Steve :) because i thought it was a good idea too. I was hoping that some ppl would suggest things to help young children but i was shot down lol.
Skyy - I never ignored them, not once, ever. But if you asked me how many of them I thought were genuine children asking for help - I’d say over 95% of them were not. If a youngster is so desperate to type the word ‘HELP’ into a computer - it would translate that they would tell you the nearest big town or city they lived in when you offered them help (you’d think) - not a chance - I know 3 children whom I kept in touch with and they all jumped at the chance to speak privately with a gentle, caring, trained, grown up. The others just melted away (or ran away as fast as they could). This place - like any other - has to have limitations - I think the 13 and upward rule is safe. - Mas
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Why So Steve? wrote:
It’s a good idea, but it raises several issues. Firstly, in order to correctly tackle the complicated and delicate issues that a child may be struggling with, bearing in mind that a child must be truly struggling in order to seek help, the website would need to be monitored and operated by specially appointed representatives trained in this area of expertise. When you also consider that even we here at Help.com are the blind leading the blind, we have maturity on our side. However children helping children would not produce solutions and therefore such a website would not grow organically like this one.
Organically, Ha:) Ha:) Ha:) Ha:) Ha:)
I have been noticing a lot of the rewriting of the meaning of words to the point where they acutualy mean the opposite of what the original meaning or definition was originally.
Your heart is in the right place skyy (I think) but WHAT children are taught is very important:) An education is only as good as the CONTENT being “taught”.
skyy wrote:
I understand thanks for at least seeing my intentions behind it Steve :) because i thought it was a good idea too. I was hoping that some ppl would suggest things to help young children but i was shot down lol.
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Why do they have to learn anything?? Why cant they just be heard and know that they arent the only ones going through something. My heart is in the right place and i believe that we wouldnt have so many crazy ppl in this world if they received the proper attention at an early age.
Mas you are one person just because you help a few children here and there doesnt mean they all get the help they need or directed to the nearest counselor. I know of one in particular…
I believe you use misleading words Why So Steve which is exactly why children should be protected from strangers who offer advice like “The Pied Piper of Hamlin” and lead the children astray from what is good and safe and secure.
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictio…
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Ok so you point out one word wow i dont think any child would remember that one word out of that entire paragraph…. If they do then maybe their parents can tell them the true meaning….
Ok im going to close this post now because its getting on my nerves lol. This always happens i try to post something positive and everyone wants to name every negative aspect in the book. Im out
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Why So Steve? wrote:
Incidentally, my use of the word ‘organic’ is perfectly apt.
I didnt see the big deal in the first place. Its my post and it made sense to me so to me thats all that matters. My period is on and im slightly irritated right now so im bound to say things i normally wouldnt say but whatever.
skyy wrote:
Ok so you point out one word wow i dont think any child would remember that one word out of that entire paragraph…. If they do then maybe their parents can tell them the true meaning….
Are you my friend skyy? Why are you on my friends list? I grow organic food, it is a word that near and dear to my living:)
Why So Steve? wrote:
SoulRising wrote:
I believe you use misleading words Why So Steve which is exactly why children should be protected from strangers who offer advice like “The Pied Piper of Hamlin” and lead the children astray from what is good and safe and secure.http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/organically
And protection from uptight, judgemental, self-important nitpickers would be a blessing on anyone of any age.
Why do you judge me Why So Steve? Do I know you? Do you know me? Why did you just call me names is it because you have an agenda? How can I bless people, do you think I am the POPE:)? ROFL:)!
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Why So Steve? wrote:
SoulRising wrote:
I believe you use misleading words Why So Steve which is exactly why children should be protected from strangers who offer advice like “The Pied Piper of Hamlin” and lead the children astray from what is good and safe and secure.http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/organically
And protection from uptight, judgemental, self-important nitpickers would be a blessing on anyone of any age.
Why do you judge me Why So Steve? Do I know you? Do you know me? Why did you just call me names is it because you have an agenda? How can I bless people, do you think I am the POPE:)? ROFL:)![/quote]I’d happily liken you to the Pope. Of course my personal view is that the Pope is a ****.[/quote]
I do not judge people “Why So Steve?”. Are you angry at me or what you “think” I represent.
Please stay on post topic people.
Yes we are friends soulrising but unfortunately i didnt know that fact about you. I tend to take things that are dear to me personally so i understand but im irritated which i mentioned earlier but its that time of the month
SoulRising wrote:
Why So Steve? wrote:
SoulRising wrote:
I believe you use misleading words Why So Steve which is exactly why children should be protected from strangers who offer advice like “The Pied Piper of Hamlin” and lead the children astray from what is good and safe and secure.http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/organically
And protection from uptight, judgemental, self-important nitpickers would be a blessing on anyone of any age.
Why do you judge me Why So Steve? Do I know you? Do you know me? Why did you just call me names is it because you have an agenda? How can I bless people, do you think I am the POPE:)? ROFL:)!
I’d happily liken you to the Pope. Of course my personal view is that the Pope is a ****.[/quote]I do not judge people “Why So Steve?”. Are you angry at me or what you “think” I represent.Please stay on post topic people.[/quote]
Ok im going to close this post, seriously
I do not judge people “Why So Steve?”. Are you angry at me or what you “think” I represent.
Please stay on post topic people.
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So everyone are friends!! :D Yay
Why So Steve? wrote:
Btw SoulRising, I do know you. We were friends at one time. We didn’t fall out. My account closed. Nonetheless it was a very rocky prelude to nothing more than a mutual awareness of each other as I recall, and quite simply it’s because we’re very different people.
I respect very different people. I do not call them names “Why So Steve?”
skyy I think your intentions are good:) Please use replies as information to be weighed and measured. Each and everyone of us has something to offer.
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hi there i’m doing a survey to see how clever you are so can i proceed?
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