Love help: so there’s this boy…

xbustxaxmovexg

so there’s this boy…

and he’s just about everything a girl could want.
he’s an 18 year old volunteer firefighter along with a part-time, well paying job.
he’s hilarious and fun to be with but he knows when i need him to be serious.
he does a good job of pretending to care,
even when i know its just about the last thing on his mind.

so here’s his downfall.
yesterday i decided to accept his proposal to be his girlfriend.
no big deal.
but i did it knowing that he has a pregnant girlfriend who goes to our school.
[they had been broken up for a month
and we had been talking for two before this news came out]
its so unlike me to lose my head over a boy like this.
i’ve tried already to push him away,
but he makes my thoughts come out jumbled
and i ended up losing my courage.

now, i can’t stop listening to whiny country songs about cheating
and knowing i don’t want to let him go.
he’s willing to break up with her
but i don’t want him to
because that would make him look so bad to get a girl knocked up and drop her

somebody please give me some insight?
i think i’m too close to the situation to do anything rational.

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Anonymous #
10 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

well his relationship with the other girl is pretty much screwed so i wouldnt worry about breaking up with him for that…BUT, if he does that to her, whats saying he wont do it to you? he wont be there for her, will he be there for you?

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

Tough situation you’re in. I think the best thing to do right now is back away from the situation. If he’s not happy with her, they’ll break up whether you’re the cause or not. If they break up and he still wants to be with you, that’s the time that you should make your move. But I think the best thing for you to do now is back off. You could end up getting very hurt.

Anonymous #
10 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

it seems that he doesnt realize how serious this is…how serious commitments are, i would be careful with it. talk to him about her maybe and why he broke up with her when she needed him most

xbustxaxmovexg 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

they aren’t technically together anymore
she’s dating another guy
he’s there for financial support
but she has alienated him from every other aspect of her life
it’s not for lack of trying that he’s not involved
i’m not looking for him to be serious with me
its high school for pete’s sake.

and she broke up with him, for the record
because he got in an arguement with her dad
her father wanted her to get an abortion even though she didn’t want to
and he [my guy] was trying to back her up
but apparently fighting with her father is unforgivable

she is extremely immature and tries to pretend that she’s still twelve years old
she’s scared
which is obviously acceptable
but she’s going to screw herself over keeping this act up

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littlenick 158 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (41 minutes after post)

You sound like a dessperate girl! Why would you go with a guy you know made a girl pregnant? How do you know he’s not going to do the same to you? I would move on to another guy and leave this guy to sort out HIS problems with this girl on his own. You should find somebody else and move on from this guy!

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littlenick 158 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (43 minutes after post)

Listen to the people here. You sound like you are headed for a disastrous relationship with this guy. His maturity is still in the basement and he is 1 sandwhich short of a picnic!

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xbustxaxmovexg 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (51 minutes after post)

LOL.
i don’t think i’ve laughed at this situation yet.
thanks littlenick.
i guess i just needed to hear other people tell me how bad of an idea it was…

and i’m not desperate.
i can have any guy i want.
i just like to go for the broken ones.
God only knows why.
its like i look for drama.

so how do i get rid of him, then?

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 2 weeks ago (52 minutes after post)

Just step back for a moment and let all of the fuss over the pregnacy die down. Take a few weeks to really think about what you want and need out of a relationship and if this guy can give it to you. Don’t feel rushed to make the decsion because if this guy is really a good guy and cares about you he will wait for you to make up your mind. If not he is a jerk and not worth your time.

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