Family help: my family is falling apart.

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my family is falling apart.

my dad is having an affair, however big or small it is, and I know this isn’t the first time.
My mum can’t take it anymore so she says she’s leaving him, but she’s unstable.
And she may separate me from my sisters.
Our parents are either pushing us on to the other parent or trying to keep us. Its getting to breaking point.
Our parents are both UNSTABLE but they do care for us, just not enough to resolve this like grown ups should.
I wanna leave with my little sisters instead of being seperated, and they agree with running away… but we don’t know where.
I can drive now, so I guess the sky is the limit, But I’m afraid of where to stay over night. I don’t wanna go to a friends house, I don’t wanna put this on them. But this run away plan may just make my sisters suffer and I don’t want that.
We know it won’t be easy, when we went overseas this kinna thing happened too, with my mum, so we ended up sleeping at the airport. They’re aged 11 and 13
PLease talk some sense into me.

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Commander Ikari 223 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (2 minutes after post)

Don’t.

You think you’ll help them, you won’t.

It’ll be considered kidnapping, besides.

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babacup 13 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 10 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Do you have any other family? Like grandparents that you can call?

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eb0nI 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (10 minutes after post)

everyone else is overseas. and they takes sides.

babacup 13 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 10 months ago (11 minutes after post)

What do you mean when you say your parents are unstable? Are that abusive or drug addicts or something?

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eb0nI 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (20 minutes after post)

I guess not, but my mother gets depressed and takes meds for it, sometimes.
Unstable as in - They can’t seem to decide what they’ll do about anything, divorce, no divorce, move out, stay, go overseas, come back, I won’t call her (the person he’s having an affair wit) anymore, but then he does. They tell us to choose a parent and then tell us we have no choice but to go with them. Its mentally unbalancing for all if us. Me and my sisters just want a form of peace in our lives, however small.

and is it still kidnap if they want to? it’s not like I’m forcing them to come with me. they know everything I do, they know the situation, and we don’t want to be like this anymore. is that wrong of us???

eb0nI 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (30 minutes after post)

i understand, and I’m grateful that my parents aren’t on drugs or are abusive but me and my sisters, everyone in my family is going through mental torture.
Am I suppose to just sit tight, and wait for them to solve this, because I want to take some for of action! Don’t think we haven’t tried talking, IT HASN’T WORKED and counseling?!? pftt!!! they’re both to stubborn and self absorbed to see that Their Children are hurting, don’t think for a second that I haven’t tried to point this out to them. I need more options. Please.

babacup 13 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 10 months ago (32 minutes after post)

You are not of a age where you can legally raise your sisters. That is not one of the choices, being out on the streets in not better then having to deal with a screwed up family situations. There is no peace living on the streets. What about school and an education? How can you and your sisters finish school?

They have you on a mental roller coaster ride and no wonder you just want to get off. But running away is not where you want to be. I think you just need to hang in there and continue to support each other the best you can.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (38 minutes after post)

you’re right babacup.

you’ve confirmed my fears about my escape plans and there is wisdom in your words.
you’ve really helped.
thank you.

guster32 8 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (3 months, 1 week after post)

do you have grand-parents? Do they care? Are they in a position to help all three of you? Does anyone else close to you have a way to help you? You are too young to go out on your own-too many bad people that willtake advantage of your situation, and you have to remain strong to survive this for yourself and your sisters-i don’t know what resources your country offers-Is there any kind of crisis hot-line to call? your parents have got to make some decisions-they need counseling in order to take care of you guys. Do they not know how much this is affecting you and your sisters? Is there substance abuse? If so, you may be placed into foster homes, but you young ladies are old enough to keep intouch and see each other! As soon as you all become of age, you can declare emancipation if you are able to maintain a household. If you go into foster care, education is key to getting your family back-I mean your sisters-the adults are gonna do what they’re gonna do-you need someone, an adult, to run crisis intervention with you and your parents-someone that is neutral to mediate this situation-they need to be aware of what they are puttiing their children through! It is better received from an adult, like a minister or counselor-social services must be available-most hospitals have social workers that know about all of the local resources because of people they have to place once they are better and have no place togo. You might try to get help there, or from our version of the Salvation Army, Christian Services. THere are many groups in the U.S. I wish I knew more to tell you. There has to be a way to mediate this situation and make some arrangements. There’s always hope when people finally quit thinking of themselves and look around and see all of the collateral damage they have caused!!My Lord, you are their children! Do not run away. Find some help somewhere. You are too young to take all of this on.

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An Unknown Location | 6 months, 3 weeks ago (3 months, 2 weeks after post)

all my relatives are overseas, they care to an extent - that is if they care at all, but the fact that we are so far away is the biggest issue. Me anf my sisters are kinna alone here. I used to have a friend who said she wanted to runaway too, but she’s grown up now, and traveling overseas as well, I’m so happy for her. But that has nothing to do with my situation, and how I can’t seem to find a way to face it. They should know how this makes us feel, we’ve talked, and yelled a thousand times. I feel like saying “unfortunately” there’s no substance abuse, and I should be grateful that there isn’t but i feel like things may be easier to handle if there was, which probably makes me an awful person. But at the moment, I am trying to figure out how to get some housing, coz i have a part time job, it doesn’t give much but it shows responsibility . . . and If I can get that sorted then maybe I can have a decent chance in a custody battle?

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