internet dating help: i am a single mother…with no babysitter.(nobody that i - Help.com

This is just my opinion but internet dating scares the crap out of me. Do you really know how you are chatting with? I do understand the young kids thing. I went thru it too. Have you thought about joining church groups, if you are a church goer, or maybe find some activities for the kids that the parents participate in also?

Yeah net dating is dangerous,but if you try it make sure not to give out certain information.

thank you! your input just verifies the way i am feling, just wasn’t sure if i was being old fahioned.

Great advice! And if you decide to meet him, then make sure it is in a public place and set up a plan with a friend about when and where you are going to be and have a time that you will call them.

Yes that’s a great idea, i wouldn’t meet any where near my home though just incase.

The internet is great for meeting people, but not for meeting people that you want to see in real life. They are the people you talk to on a regular basis ONLINE not in real life. I wouldn’t trust most of the people I’ve met on line to be who they claim to be. If you have to wait until your kids are old enough to not need a baby sitter then I would say just wait. Or try to find a babysitter you know you can trust. Maybe you can find other single parents with kids around the same age that can all do a group hang out thing so the kids can play and the adults can talk with their “big boy voices” for a change :-)

Exactly. Also, re-arrange a phone call in case the date is not going good. Have a set time for a friend to call you, you can pretend there is an emergency and need to go, if the date is not going good.

And yes, I have done this before, lol

i have thought about church group , but i work 2 jobs and only have off on sunday. i dedicate that day to my son , and try to make it to church, but usually exit promptly to have a mommy son day. these young years are so difficult. i find myself so frustrated trying to balance a single life and provide my son with all the things that he neds from me…i feel like i have lost myself. i just dont want to be one of those single moms that are constantly running ot the door to find thier own happiness, but my friends say i am too protective of him and need to learn to live more…we have both been through so much, i am just afraid of making mistakes that will affect his future, and my happiness or search of …just doesnt seem worth the risk

How old is your son?

he’s five

What a great age! Nowadays you really can’t be to protective of them.

Does your church offer activities that you could incorporate into the mom/son day? I bet there are more single parents than you realize. What about the church, does it have a sitter program? Ours has this group of women that take turns babysitting for each other and others in the church. There is nothing wrong with taking one Sunday evening a month and doing something for yourself!

Internet dating always worries me a bit, but as Jules said if you take responsible action, you should be able to stay safe, once a stranger has your details it is always risky.You probably know by now that older men lurk on the internet and look for opportunities.Id to as Jules has said, give no details at all i.e address, phone number, Id even make up another email addy that you can close if things dont go as planned. Id change you ISP number on a regular basis too if poss.
Do you have any other Single mothers in your area, there may be a way to meet some online if you hunt around. If you can meet some you could arrange a plan where you take turns to babysit for each other, all single mums are glad of a break.
Even if there is married Mums in your area, the same thing applies, my daughter sits for several people in our neighborhood, just because couples are glad of a night out together.You could sit for a couple, and the wife may then take a turn at sitting your child. Just an alternate suggestion :-) The important thing is stay safe whatever you decide to do.

Well i would like to go out with you and your Son, lets meet at XYZ. You are the most beautiful gal i have never seen.BLAH BLAH.Now im in my thirties Dark and Six Foot tall.Wow why not date him you may ask ?Well go to barbyman.com and find out why.I’m 67 years old married for almost halve a Century .That is what Internet Dating is .
One never knows what you getting in to.Now Sundays is your day of why not take him to a Koi Auction or a Children’s Play .You be surprised who you can meet…

good point barbyman…funny….but point well taken…you support my agrument…i know my friends mean well, but my feeling is when it’s meant it will happen…thank you!!! i guess i will just continue my sunday activities as usual, and as for the rest of the week…i guess you never know who you may met getting you am coffee…lol

I met my husband because I needed to use the bathroom,lol

hahaha…i guess i shouldnt give up hope then…i always fell like because i dont hang out in the bars or clubs like i will never meet anyone..but what quality is comin out of those places anyway….i mean rarely you hear it but not so much!!!