boyfriend help: Is my boyfriend cheating on me?

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Is my boyfriend cheating on me?

For the last week or so my boyfriend has been acting strange. Many of his mannerisms towards me have suddenly changed. For one, he is suddenly fine with me moving away for a job when, just a month ago, he wouldn’t hear of it. Also, he has been going to his place of employment, which is a restaurant, to get lunch on his days off. Granted the food is cheap, because he works there, but who would want to go to work on their day off? He tried to encourage me to move in with one of my friends today, which got me really concerned, as we live together. I was really worried so I checked his phone for anything odd. I was not expecting to find anything, but instead his inbox was completely deleted. His call history has a few numbers with our area code that were not programmed into his phone. While I was checking through his phone one of his coworkers (a female) tried to text him. The text itself was not incriminating, but it was obvious that they were in the middle of a conversation. After reading it I asked my boyfriend about it. He blew up and stormed out. When he came back I tried to calmly talk about it with him and about our relationship as a whole. He just kept trying to leave the room and saying “I don’t really know how I feel” or “I don’t want to talk about it.” This was not a huge shock as he never wants to talk about things on the few occasions that I am upset. This time though, he did not even attempt to comfort me. I don’t know what to think. Should I be worried or am I just being overly paranoid?

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alicia_smile23 2 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

With my experience I would have to say yes.

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z3ro_c0ol 2 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

i would say you need to be very worried.

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An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

alicia_smile2 wrote:
With my experience I would have to say yes.

z3ro_c0ol wrote:
i would say you need to be very worried.

Agreed.

alicia_smile23 2 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

Guys only act out towards you when nothing is wrong when they have done something wrong. Sad but true!

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alicia_smile23 2 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

Trust me I have 11 years of being a “pet detective” under my belt! Get out why you can!

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

alicia_smile2 wrote:
Guys only act out towards you when nothing is wrong when they have done something wrong. Sad but true!

That was my feelings about it as well. He brought up the fact that I did not trust him before storming out. I was kinda hoping that that was why he was really pissed. He has found me looking at his phone before, and never acted so badly as he did this time. I don’t know. He said that we should forget that we ever had this conversation and greet tomorrow as if nothing ever happened. I don’t know if I can. He also insists that he has never cheated on me and that he doesn’t deserve this.

alicia_smile23 2 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (45 minutes after post)

If he hasn’t he’s thought about it.

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U.Nirk 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (15 hours, 59 minutes after post)

He could be talking to someone else and seeing that this person makes him slightly happy in forgetting about you and the fact that you’re going to be moving away from him…

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (16 hours, 47 minutes after post)

I agree actually its a bit worrying. There’s something he’s hiding and sorry I can’t really help but you should find out sooner rather than later rather than looking stupid at the end of it. If you need to break up be the one to do it.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (6 days, 23 hours after post)

One of the signs of a liar is getting defensive. Google body language signs of a liar.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

First and foremost, if you really care for him and love him, stop being suspicious. If he violates the total trust you have placed in him, believe me - you are better off without him. For trust is a two way street. But dont go after it. Give it without reservation. If you feel he is avoiding you, gently discuss that with him and let him know. If his reaction is not one of concern and understanding, believe me, its over from his side and he is only sticking around to tie up loose ends. In this case, you’ve got to call it quits before you start hurting each other emotionally. You’ve got to realize that we come into this world alone and we go alone. It would be great to have someone traverse the distance with us, but they can only go so far. So, if he wants to leave, let him go. You will find someone that appreciates and understands you. All the best!

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An Unknown Location | 8 months, 4 weeks ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

my boyfriend hasnt come home in the golden coral i saw him with this girl that i do not like why ******* me why

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An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (7 months after post)

just move on tell him you look so dumb right now standing outside my house trying to apologize youre so ugly when you cry please ***** just cut it out and dont tell me youre sorry cause youre not…………

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