Love help: Why is it so hard to let go of the feeling for the love of your life - Help.com

Would it be of any help to you if I point out that everything you have written makes it seem as if this wasn’t a very good relationship to begin with? I’m sure that underneath it all, you really know this yourself. Otherwise you would not have volunteered all the information on how unfulfilling things were. You can do better than this guy and deserve it, too.

In matters of love, practical advice always seems a bit useless, but I suggest treating it a bit like an addiction. Take it one day at a time. Do not call him. He is not good for you.

Also, this is critical: you need to do things for yourself that will build up your self-esteem. I’m personally big on volunteering. Giving your time can help make you feel like somebody who has something to offer. Also, check out these links relating to esteem building and relationships. As your self esteem grows, you’ll find it a lot easier to give up on this bad boyfriend of yours.

http://www.justblogme.com/Dorothy/
http://www.womensselfesteem.com/index…
http://improve-self.blogspot.com/2005…
http://www.girlshrink.com/break_up_ad…
http://cobacerita.blogspot.com/2005/1…

Hi Frnd,
You are a very good Person also with heart but sometimes thinking with heart mey cost
you much.As you mentioned that you love that guy very much but wht abt him ? You are giving
100% from ur side and receiving not even half of that from the other side. Wht do you think abt
the deal !!! I know love is not a deal but if it will continue like this you will always be sad and
I dont want my frnd to be sad , So try to get away from him , slowly .One day u will be the
Happiest person.

Bye and Have a nice day.

Remember one thing : There is no one better than u !!!
You are the Best !

You need to find out how great you really are because you don’t have any self esteem. Find out who you are in Christ! You are a princess! The bible says that you are the daughter of The Most High King if you are saved. Read this book called the Bondage Breaker, and read outloud to yourself all the things that Jesus said about you personally… because He did… and believe it… because it’s all true. I use to cut myself as a teenager. I had sex with anyone that gave me attention…. All I wanted was to be loved my whole life… and to get it ( so I thought) I gave myself to anyone that showed me any kind of attention. It was gross… but it was all because I didn’t love myself.. I didn’t learn to start loving myself until I came to know Christ. but when I developed a relationship with Him through the Holy Spirit… He made me into someone completely new… I am His radiant bride Amen!!!!!!! And so are you. He changed my whole life around and now I have a wonderful husband who treats me like Jesus would…. maybe not all the time, but nobody can take the place of my first husband… which is Jesus. He is Number One…. Joshua is number two and he knows that. As a matter of fact, I am number two to Joshua because Jesus is his number one… Life is good when it’s full of love. read 1 corinthinas chapter 13 and see just how God loves you.

ps and then love yourself the same way… and then after that… don’t settle for anyone that doesn’t love you like that….. WHY? because you are worth it.
1st Corinthians chapter 13 is called the love chapter. You’ll find out why when you read it.