flygal invited 5 users to read this post 10 months, 1 week ago.
Wow! All that stuff happened to you and people you know? That must have sucked! So what are you going to do now? Go back?
That’s a lot of crap to deal with after being away!
its hard i have only found out this month they baba die in december but just found out the rest in the last 2 days i feal so angry right now i would love ti see her ex and put him through the pain that he put the kids through and guily about sean my m8 that killed him self as i lost contaced wi ever one when i left
You need to actually talk to a counselor. You have a lot of anger inside of you but inflicting pain on that person is not going to get you anywhere. Don’t you have other mates you can talk to about this so maybe you can begin the healing process for you and your sister in law?
littlenick invited 20 users to read this post 10 months, 1 week ago.
i can handdle the news on the baby not easy but at least she is safe and in no pain but for a father to set fire to the house his 3 year old was sleeping in is unbareable it is so wrong what if my m8 could not get them out he should at least rote in jail for that and im just fealing guilty about sean as i was not there
ps it is my sister her hubbys daughter that lost the baby
Again, you need to talk to a counselor to get over that anger. And bring your sister in law to talk to a counselor so maybe she can start to get over the death of her baby!
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Those events are indeed tragic. Please accept my condolences. Crimes against children bring out the anger in all of us, but you have a real opportunity here to do some good. Are you in touch with the friend whose children were in the burning house? If so, can you provide some comfort to her and the children. Play dates with your children, perhaps?
I am sure that you will have many constructive ideas once you come to terms with your anger. Job #1 is getting yourself to that place.
i understand i have seen councilers and did ask my doc to refer me to one after the baby but she has not done it yet its not my sister in law that lost the babyy my sister is married ti her the father of the lass that lost the baby but we see her as family
Jerry wrote:
UM NO! Why must women have such a severe compassionate streak? None of that is your fault. Gosh, if YOUR husband set fire to your house it wouldn’t be your fault. Don’t be blaming yourself in this nonsensical (I don’t know if this is a word but I say it all the time) fashion. You have alot of pain around you at the moment and you’re trying to hard to appease all your friends by wearing it all, but they wouldn’t even recognise the way you’re beating yourself around so you’re achieving nothing anyway. Perhaps I’m too practical cause I’m male, but none of this should be worn on you, how would it be different if you were there anyway? A madman is till a madman. The friend committing suicide is still a hard one. Myabe you could show people on this website how much his action has shaken you up, that the way they think they’re making the world a better place by killing themselves has a worse affect on everyone in their spehere.P.S. I’m struggling with your english, you really arrr scottish huh?J.
yes im scottish i can type in better english it is just habit
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c-eek wrote:
Those events are indeed tragic. Please accept my condolences. Crimes against children bring out the anger in all of us, but you have a real opportunity here to do some good. Are you in touch with the friend whose children were in the burning house? If so, can you provide some comfort to her and the children. Play dates with your children, perhaps?I am sure that you will have many constructive ideas once you come to terms with your anger. Job #1 is getting yourself to that place.
yes we have arranged for us to do thing she is going to bring here kids hear and we will take them swimming and to the youth clubs her oldest will like that just to get back to normal for them
thanks for all the support i know deep down i am not to blame i would have just liked to have been hear for them
Jerry wrote:
Strange, the ‘enters’ didn’t work.It looks so squishy.J.
yes the key board is playing up and me and my husband had a drink tonight as he is going away for 2 weeks next week so it may be my errors to
i feel really bad about whats going on , just remember to stay strong no matter what happens know that it will get better. all you have to do is believe, i just got a surgery last week for my cancer and i’m trying to recover but i was really scared but a really good friend told me that if you believe everything will be ok. all you have to do is believe. Everything will be ok, i believe in you.
100%metallica wrote:
i feel really bad about whats going on , just remember to stay strong no matter what happens know that it will get better. all you have to do is believe, i just got a surgery last week for my cancer and i’m trying to recover but i was really scared but a really good friend told me that if you believe everything will be ok. all you have to do is believe. Everything will be ok, i believe in you.
thankx did you get my shout i was worried about you u never said you had cancer when we were speeking before i am glad you are getting better and hope you will be fine i am hear any time you want to chat remeber you can be scared but you are never alone
yes i did get your shout, i’m sorry i havent shout back i always forget about the shout box being their. And thank you for the support, and you remember as well that you can be scared but you are never alone. I’m doing better now but recoverys really painful.
my auniy had cancer i know its hard you keep your chin up and have as much fun as you can you deseve it she made it through by the way what kind do you have you should have said before you dont have to suffer alone
i mean look at my m8t he suffered his pain in silace then he killed him self life is worth more reach out when ever you need to i just wish he did
well i did make a post before i left last week on wednesday, but anyways. I had testicular cancer
did they get it yes i seen the post but not till after you had left sorry just with the baby dying i was off track with things now this as well but i am now feeling that i should let the people who matter no they do and you are one of them
i mean have they got all the cancer out now do you have to have chemo or radiotherapy
thank you that really means allot to me for you to say that, and i think they do have all of the cancer out but only time will tell, but no i dont have to do chemo or radiotherapy i just have to go for check ups every couple of weeks. And i have nothing left down their so thats good also cause that way the tumor wont be able to spread.
yeah im glad they have got it out and its better to be without them than die i would have done the same if i had femail cancer dwn there or on my cheast
yeah its better to be without them then die
I feel sorry for you. I hope you’ll heal soon. I’m having a hard time with your english…
Don’t blame yourself for Sean’s death. It was his choice. You are not supposed to hold yourself accountable for things that are not your choice nor in your control. It was his life and his choice. Well, maybe you’re right about being able to do something, but right now, it’s best to just heal. Don’t bother about “what if I was there?” cause it wouldn’t change anything and you should just accept his passing. I know Sean won’t blame his death on you so don’t blame yourself too.
I also think that even those who died of suicide, they die when it is their time to die. If it wasn’t their time yet, it would only be until suiced attempts and they would be saved. It was his time to go. If it wasn’t his time yet, someone would have been able to stop him. It’s in death’s hands so you have no control and you are not guilty for his death.
As to the baby’s death, you just have to accept that. You couldn’t do anything about death. When it’s time to go, it’s time to go.
For the guy who set the house on fire, he should be put to jail or a psychiatric ward. It’s not safe to have a man with such insanity running loose and free. Can’t the victims file a case? Even just a restraining order… (hopefully more than a restraining order)
Your best mate and the kids should move out of the house.
I hope you’ll find the serenity to accept things that you cannot change, courage to change things that you can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
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thanx i feal better 2 day after a good sleep my mind has settle all i can do now is be there when my friend need some to speek to and give them support
scotland is not a bad place it has some bad people just like every where eles but the are more good people and good things to do hear
So glad that you are feeling better. You are just the kind of person I wish there were more of on this planet. BTW, my father visited Scotland during WWII and always wished he could return. If I am ever fortunate enough to be able to travel across the Atlantic, Scotland would certainly a “must see” destination.
thanx for that scotland is a nice place with lots of nice scenery if you like that and the city’s are nice they do have there bad parts but every where dose i guess you are in usa
flygal wrote:
thanx for that scotland is a nice place with lots of nice scenery if you like that and the city’s are nice they do have there bad parts but every where dose i guess you are in usa
Yes, I live in California, just a few miles from the Pacific Ocean.
lovely i could use some nice weather just now
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