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My Dad’s having an affair.

He dad always keeps his computer password protected and encrypted, so i was curious as to why, last night he must have accidentally left it on, and i saw his email. I opened an email that said “rain check on coffee” and it looks like he’s having an affair. i looked at some others to be sure, and i have no doubt that he is. I don’t know what to do, i found the emails by intruding on his privacy so im nervous to confront him, and i can’t imagine mustering up the strength to tell my mom. Their marriage is already on the fritz and i don’t want to be the one to push over the edge, please help?

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hannahx12 offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (2 minutes after post)

right now i wouldnt confront anyone bout.
give it some time to think bout it. i understand wat yrr going through. divorce is a real b***h sometimes.

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ScarofLo18 offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 18 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

That’s a hard one. My friend’s mother is cheating on her dad and she knows. She knows that the right thing to do would be to tell her dad but she doesn’t want them to divorce.

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zagnaza offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

Answer is simple just confront him… Talk to him in private.Very hard choice… Want an unprofessional answer? Flip a coin on it. However still talk to him about it, you cannot go back with the knowledge gained.

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My dad always keeps his computer password protected and encrypted, so i was curious as to why, last night he must have accidentally left it on, and i saw his email. I opened an email that said “rain check on coffee” and it looks like he’s having an affair. i looked at some others to be sure, and i have no doubt that he is. I don’t know what to do, i found the emails by intruding on his privacy so im nervous to confront him, and i can’t imagine mustering up the strength to tell my mom. Their marriage is already on the fritz and i don’t want to be the one to push over the edge, please help?

admiral awesome changed the tags on this post: they were "divorce, parents, fear" 10 months, 1 week ago.

crosenblum offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (22 minutes after post)

I would actually talk to both of them….

Tell them your upset by all the problems that they are having, and ask what we as a family can do, to rebuild our family trust…

But if they refuse to take you seriously, start hinting that you know some things, and would rather not use it, unless the parents didn’t start to immediately get their marriage back in shape…

You can’t force them to be togeter, or to be happy, that has to be their choice…

You can only control your own actions and thoughts…

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admiral awesome offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (36 minutes after post)

i don’t like my dad, but i don’t dislike him enough to blackmail him. i just feel like the entire thing is just to much of a burden to carry, but im worried it would just become worse if they decided to split after i talked to them about it.

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crosenblum offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (38 minutes after post)

They will make their own decisions, and that’s not your fault or responsibility…

But all i can suggest is that maybe by calmly talking it over, you can help them or encourage them at least to seek marriage counseling.

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hannahx12 offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (42 minutes after post)

i would like to ask how old are u?

it seems to me u are really torn apart here. i wouldnt go in right away and acuse people of things to start out it wont help u out.

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crosenblum offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (50 minutes after post)

The goal isn’t to accuse him, or to get him into trouble, but if that can be used to encourage him, to try to heal their marriage…then why not…

i am sorry if my idea isn’t always wise or right…i am trying to help..

because i try to help people, so that when i need it, i get helped…which is what i like about this site…

to have the chance to be helped and to help others as we can..

And I am 46 years old…

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IDon'tEverQuit offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 196 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (6 hours, 48 minutes after post)

If you dad is cheating, your mom should know. You mom doesn’t deserve to be cheated on. Cheating is wrong. Your mom deserves to be happy and be with someone who is faithful. I understand you are worried about your parents divourcing but did you ever think that maybe that is what is best for them?? Especially if you dad is cheating. Marriage problems cannot be worked through when one is cheating on the other.

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admiral awesome offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (21 hours, 50 minutes after post)

im 16, and sorry i didnt mean to come off snappy towards you im just a little freaked out right now.

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crosenblum offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (1 day after post)

Understandably…i know i would be…

just know 1 thing, your not alone, you got friends and support here..

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