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If he likes you and you were at a party together and he didnt make his move then he can’t blame you for hooking up with somebody else. and if he does hold it against you then just move on and find someone better.

I’ve been there. But unfortunatly for me I don’t think the guy liked me back in the first place. So you’re pretty lucky. No, I don’t think it’s always up to the guy to make the first move, I suppose people only say that because ultimately guys like to do the chasing. This only happens once they’re hooked, so I think telling him would be a good idea. If he really does like you he’d still be interested.

Are you friends with him? Example do you see/talk to him a lot in general? Because an easy way there if you’re friends is to invite him out somewhere, and tell him then. Say it’s your friends birthday and you need help shopping for the present and go for a coffee (maybe guys hate shopping but one once asked me to help him buy some hair straightners :) ) Invite him to see some movie with you.
A friend of mine was once out with friends and the guy she liked, had a bit to drink and managed to pluck up the courage to tell him. It didn’t go so well but it turned out OK in the end, she found someone better for her. Why would you want to be stuck thinking about someone if it would never happen? In all honesty, isn’t it better to just know how people feel. If someone liked you, wouldn’t you want to know?
And perhaps mention that you feel embarressed about what happened with the other guy, that you had feelings for him instead but you were just worried he’d reject those feelings.

That’s where the brave part comes in. Try some silly excersise like imagine yourself in a circle of golden light, audience in their underwear…or hey, just don’t imagine it at all. Don’t imagine doing it. Just invite him out as a friend and say it on the day. Don’t think about it-you’ll probably say it subconciously :)

One time I went to meet a guy I liked, it turned out he didn’t feel the same. Funny thing is I was so high on adrenaline and being relieved that I actually had done it, it made me feel better, and I got over him instantly. Didn’t need to waste my time thinking about him because theres no point liking someone who doesn’t like you back.

yeah i think u should go to him and tell him your truth be honest and if he understands then hes worth it hope this makes sence all the very best vince

vince wrote:
yeah i think u should go to him and tell him your truth be honest and if he understands then hes worth it hope this makes sence all the very best vince

very good advice

The only way for him to know is if you tell him…at least talk to him and tell him how guilty you feel for doing it. Even if you dont want to tell him he is why…let him know. If he cares about you, even as a friend, he will know that it isnt like and probably wont think badly of you…

but yes…i think you should tell him…i know its all easier said than done, but i really think i will help. and clear the air.

let us know how it goes if that is what you decide to do

If he likes you, he’ll be there waiting. And if you like him, you’ll keep your lips to yourself - Mmmm?