i like this guy in school, but my best friend likes him too.
everytime i like some one she ends up liking them. and everyday i put on an act acting like i just don’t care about anything at all. but i do, i really care, and i really like him too, but everytime i get close to what i was trying to do in the first place, it ends up turning around and going straight back to hom base. my best friend doesn’t know i still like him. she is always tlaking about him and always saying things, she includes me in plans to get him to ask her out, i don’t want to help, but then i’d seem like a bad friend, and a selfish friend. i’m sick and tired of pretending, even though i’m dieing of pain. i hate having to do all this. i was planning on telling the guy i like how i feel about him and everything, but this week i just found out that he has a broken arm and will be out all week, idk how to talk to him at all. and sometimes i just feel my friend is using me, i feel the only reason why she hangs around me 24/7 is because she wants to be around my crush, because i have 2 classes with him and she has none. i feel like she doesn’t even care that i’m around, only that our crush is there. see me and who we like are friends, and we are always talking, and that’s a good thing, but ever since my friend started liking him too, he’s only talking to her… i really like him and nothing is going right, i always give my friend what she wants, and it kills me inside and out becuase i always sit back and act like nothing is the matter with me at all. even though there is everything wrong with me… this always happens to me… and i’m sick and tired of it… she just doesn’t even understand how i feel… she never understands… but i don’t want our friendship to disappear, and if i tell who i like how i feel, and how ever since my friend liked him how i feel i don’t want me and his friendship to disappear, if i come out and say something, i feel i’m going to loose two great friends, but if i don’t say something i’ll end up dieing inside… help me…
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OMG! im the same way with my friend!
everytime i like someone she likes him too. but she wnt say anthing about him until i do. so i let it go and let her have him but she falls back and thats when o try my chances but as soon as she relizes that im interested again…she is back to trying to push me away
i always put real friendship in the first place.
that’s mean, i know, but my friend doesn’t know what’s she doing, she doesn’t see, but it bugs the crap out of me because she always get’s her way, she just doesn’t understand.
Whilst it’s true that friendship should be more important than a crush, at some point you have to ask yourself why your friend doesn’t feel the same way.
Surely if they were a good friend, they wouldn’t continually put their needs/wants before your own?
im agreed with step666
thanks for all the help… but i just wish he was back from his injury, so i could tell him how i really feel…
I know exactly how you feel. She doesnt know that i like him too, nd its so unfair that this has happened again. Im just trying to carry on whilst she talks about him all the time. Its hard and has put a massive strain on our friendship, im hanging out with her less and less, even though i know this wont help anything. I guess you have to think about the long term plans. Hes not going to be around forever, your friend more likly is. She might only be acting that way because she doesnt know how you feel about him too. And eventualy either you or her are going to stop liking him,. and then things will get back to normal. Its easy for me to say this, but its pretty hard to do.
thanx, they broke up like last month, and i never tried to stop being friends with her, we’ve just are distant now, i walk by her in school all the time, and we don’t even look at eachother. we do hug like a couple times a week, but we don’t talk, we even sit at the same lunch table, but we still don’t tlak. and now my other best friend is around him. but i’m kind of jealous and mad, but i’ve kind of carried onto another guy… who’s one grade above me, who i really like… but that’s a whole other problem.
i feel the same way first i liked this boy then one girl in my class liked him then my 2 best friends liked him i am so so mad!
oh wow. i never even got a chance, and i have 3 classes with him! it totally sucks… at first i was the rebound girl… but now i don’t know what’s going on… he gives me a lot of mixed signals
wow. i really liked this guy for about 3 years and he has all of my classes. i was new at the school but i made a very best friend that was like my sister (and plus people said we looked alike and we even had the same name) and we still are friends. but at first, when i told her i liked this guy she was going on and on asking me ‘what’s wrong with you?’ and ‘how could you like him?’ and just plain flat out ‘ew’. but i didnt care. then a few weeks later she said she liked him. i admitt, i didnt care whether she liked him or not because i was still new there and i didnt know him much, but i didnt want her to like him either. as the years went on, she said she didnt like him and just thought he was cute. i didnt like that either, seeming as so i fell really really hard for him now and she knows that. it seems so weird. i mean i get jealous whenever she stands around him or when she does something that makes people look at her including him. i mean, i dont know. it makes me think that he’ll like her more than me. the thing is that when i first got there, his best friend asked me out loud if i wanted to go with him. he was basically right beside him so i’m sure he heard. but i said no because i didnt know him at first. and we dont talk to each other. i mean he doesnt mind being around me or me asking him help me out with something or him asking me but we dont talk in general. i’m the shy type so of course i wouldn’t make the conversation first. anyway, just yesterday when nobody was in the room except him, my best friend, and two of my other friends, i was sitting with my best friend and we were taking this quiz thing in one of her magazines that involved birthdays. i got the courage to ask him when his birthday was. he told me the month and the date only. i was about to ask for the year but out of nowhere my best friend asks him. i wasnt gonna say anything at first. i wanted to make sure i got his birthday right so i asked him again. he didnt understand what i asked at first so i was gonna say it again, but then my best friend asked him. man, i dont know. its so strange. i literally wanted to rip her head off or something. and it was just for something so simple. she knew i really liked him, and she knows i probably won’t ever get a chance to talk to him again, and this is like my first direct conversation with him, but she interrupted me anyway. i was the one that asked him first and she just….idk. after he left the room, she asked me what his year was again (its important for the quiz thing) and i stared at my desk and said i didn’t know. she knew i did so she asked again. and again i said i didnt know. then said ‘plz tell me.’ then i said ‘why? why do you want to know so much?’ she said just because. so i asked again. and she gave me the same answer. so she asked me for his birthday again and at first i said didnt know again but i told her anyway. all throughout the day i hardly paid any attention her or talked to her. i dont even know what i was mad for. but still, even right now i still feel like she stabbed me in the back. i told her how i felt yesterday too and she didnt say anything. so i dont know. i feel like crying.
and can you believe this is all from asking what his birthday was?
i guess things can get cray when you fall hard for a guy…
i will try to help um…..tell her you like him and then see what happens i mean then she knows and if she freaks out then shes not a friend because me and my friend always like the same guy and we say that means we have great taste and joke around its better to tell her then to keep it in
wow, i had a similar experience.
last year, i liked this guy since the first time i met him. i told my best friend about him and how hot he was a stuff. however when second semester came around we still had a class together (science) but hardly talked but i still liked him at the same time he started liking my best friend who was in another class with him (english) so i kinda gave up cuz along with my best friend all these other chicks started liking him. so i moved on to a different guy but that lasted a couple weeks then it ended. but while i was with the new guy i still liked my crush however while i was with the new guy my best friend and my crush became closer and admitted they liked eachother. when i told my friend i liked him to from the beginning this caused a big problem. long story short, he liked us both at the same time, he picked her 2 over me, and my best friend stabbed me in the back. when i went up north for a week my bff told me not to text the guy we both liked to make him miss me, so i did but RECENTLY i found out from HIM she went to his house the week i was away and she still hasnt told me. but anyways, he ended up picking me once and weve been together for 10 months. :) so ladies some times it does work out. just stab your friend in the back before she stabs you first. lol. i do not trust her the same and we definitally arent best friends anymore, but its ok cuz i hate girls anyways lol peacee! :)
its the exact same way with me and my friend. every single friend i have, she hasto be best friends with them. even if im just talking to someone for a seond, she will call their name just so they will look at here and she will have their attention. i also really like this guy and so of coarse she likes him too. and she always asks him for hugs right in front of me. but the weird thing is is that she isnt as close to him as i am. he just hugs her cause he doesnt want to make an awkward moment (i hope). but he hugs me and i never ask. i just really dont want to lose this guy to her too. i always feel 2nd best to her. even all my teachers love her to death and i just cant see what they see in her.
I started talking to this guy (dylan) alot thru like texting and msn we were going to hang out sometime but i didnt want my BFF (amanda) to know because i knew shed try and steal him from me but onetime wen she saw im texts she asked for his msn and added him she talked to him alot and i dont exactly know about what but Dylan kept telling me he liked me alot and maybe wanted to date, appernetly he says that to amanda too so im not sure what to think and since hes a couple years older then i, we dont get to hangout alot because of skool, now me and him talked and we were just going to be good friends and couldnt go out beacuse we willl never get to hang out (I still like him and amanda knows that) but then he goes out with amanada and she wouldnt be able to hang out wit him anymore then i would be able to and this happens everytime i like a guy she has to go and steal him from me like if shes not happy no one else can be, all the guys think shes pretty and gets them all and im not going to lie i am kinda jealous but she always uses me a lot and im sikk of it. She can be a giant ***** and she makes me soo mad.
Im not really sure what to do anymore maybe we arnt really friends and she just uses me.
im stuck with the same thin but i think ive figued it out. tell ur frend u like him, i did, and if she doesnt take it well then… well , shes not really a good frend is she? a guy shouldnt come between two gr8 frends. as for telling the guy u like him… i cant help u, i dont know how confident u r! give it some time. if this guy likes u he’ll ask u out. till then kust sit back and wait! remember, dont stalk the guy!
Hi i really like this boy and alot of people knew and my bestfriend told me she liked him aswell but i have been likin him for months now and she got with him yesterday and she knew how much i like him and she didnt even ask me how i felt about it, and i was really upset i was crying and she is still with him and she exspects me to be best friends with her and not to be pissed with her but like how am i meant to i really like him and she knew it but so did he so i’m not sure if he’s just with her to get me jelous or to get close to me, or whether he really likes her
Help me PLease
I have also had some of these experiences, but I always feel like I’m the one at fault. I had a friend in my class that I thought I might like. Just as I was considering “putting my moves” on him, my friend tells me she likes him. So I was like, ‘Well, it’s not like I knew for sure that I liked him.’. So I helped them get together. She pretty much forgot about me the whole time they were together. Where she was, her boyfriend was, and there I was tagging along behind them. They broke up and I had my best friend back. I considered looking at her ex and what I saw was the very person who took my best friend away from me. He was repulsive.
So, a year later, I start looking at someone else. He’s not the most attractive but he has a personality similar to my own and he is very kind. I start thinking I like him so I start flirting a little. A week after that, my friend announces her crush and it’s the guy I’ve been flirting with. I hadn’t told her I liked him because I like to keep those things to myself for some reason. The minute she tells me about it over the phone I feel a really complex emotion and I can’t define it. Jealosy? For whom? Did I not want to lose my best friend again? Or did I really like this guy and I didn’t want my friend to have him. I eventually say to myself, ‘Well, it’s not like I really knew if I liked him. I can’t want the same person as her just cause she wants him.’ So I just don’t say anything about it and move on.
And another week passes. I’m talking to the guy through IM. We were sharing some things and I said something I probably shouldn’t have. I told him that my friend might like him. He responds, “Yeah. I can see it. I think she likes me but I like someone else.” So I think for a second who it could be. Me? No, I’m expecting too much. But eventually it boils down to: “It’s you. I’ve liked you for a while now.” So he does like me… But how can I like him when my best friend does? So I inform him of my situation and I tell him that I can’t be with him as long as my best friend likes him. He accepts that, but out of frustration he tells me: “I don’t see why we couldn’t just tell her. If she is really your best friend, she would be happy for you.” At this point I am considering telling her. But then I get this dreadful feeling like I only want it so that my best friend won’t have him. I tell him I have to think about it and he says he can be patient.
It has been almost two weeks since then. I haven’t told him or her of what I’ve come up with. I realize that as long as my friend likes him, there is no way I could not regret hurting her. I would regret starting the relationship. Not to mention, I have never been in a relationship, even though I am plenty old enough to date now that I’m eighteen.(haha) I am afraid of having my first relationship being a negative experience. But that is besides the point.
I have asked someone about it and they tell me the same thing I’ve concluded. I just wonder if there are any alternatives. I have to figure out if I am the one trying to claim her friend’s crush, or if my friend is.
look yeh if you really like this boy then you should tell your friend how much you like him and how you feel also tell her that all these days you kept quiet only because you didnt want to hurt her end your friendship with her and im sure she’ll understand. c’mon if she dusnt shez just being a cow cos at the end of the day you liked him first and you have the right to go ahead and ask him out or even just talk to him and get to know him more instead being used by your own mate trying to set her up with the guy that you love sooo much do you. who cares if she likes him cos to me it sounds like shes the type that would move on to another boy in like a matter of days so you shouldnt really care and just go tell him how you you feel about him. dont let anyone come between you and him and dont let anyone stop you from doing what you want always do what your heart tells you to do just beleive in your self.
go girl you can do it!!!
and hey just let me know if it works out yeh
so my bff told me that she likes this boy so i was like oh really i can’t believe it.
i made a plan because i had to see her boy!!! so the plan was that i was going to go her class telling the tacher that i was going giver her her book or oops wrong class. so i did it i wasn’t able to see him because i wasn’t wearing my glasses lol. then at my class i made an excuse to go to the bathroom this i went with my glasses i saw him and i was like he is asian (my type) but he wasn’t really my type. so then i went to her locker she was there and i told oh my he is asian and she i know he is asian but his aye are different and he is vietnamese and i told her you dont like like asian people and she said now i do so i said he is disgusting ew she told ew ur face and that ws the end of the day. 2 days later i was making excuses to go to the bathroom just to see him id didn’t like him i was just curious so at the end of that period (class) i was really fast at leaving my class so i catch him and i touch his shoulder his right shoulder and i told him have you seen Silvia and he looked at me like stop touching me and i just asked him like 2 times if he had seen her so i told him ohhhhhhhh vietnamese BOY VIETNAMESE BOY!!!!!!!!!!!. SO I WEBT TO MY BFF’S LOCKER I I TOLD I HATE HIM I REALLY DO she told don’t hate. at the school bus i was thinking about and then i realized that i was in love with him so the next at my irst period i was walking and i saw him with girl i felt like i wanted to rip her ahhhhhhhhh u dont know how i felt. i dont know how to tell best friend that like him so to hide it i’m helping her with strategies of how to capture HIM so at lunch i told her her that she had 2 hurry up because i was investigating and i saw him with a girl and another girl is in LOVE with him tooo so she was kind worried. …… me and my bff are kind of the girls that frienship is stronger than anything. is the first that we like the same she likes any kind of boys buit not asians but now she does and i’m the kind girl that to make something happen i let myself to be myself cool and all sort feelings when i really like a boy i try to get his attention but i tell tell bff that i like the boy that she likes idk how she is going to take it but
we are friends for 2 years and our frienship can’t dissapear because of 3 weeks or 2 days. help me should i tell my bff that i like him anf fight for him or tell her and make him to get her attention help me what hould i do?
i like a guy since a year and a half but he don’t know . every time i say that i will tell him but i’m affraid . my friend that i spend my time with her told me that she likes him and i did also ,i told her that i like him me either .what should i do i want to know if he likes me but i don’t want to lose my friend . she always talk about him and i’m jalouse . i tried to tell her that we should’nt be friends but she don’t care and she always call me . i blocked her on msn beacause she’s talking about him every minute and onestly i’m jelouse.what should i do?She’s killing me but i love him soo much and i want to know if he likes me !!! help…
same here, today she got another one of my friends, to go ask him out for her, and as soon as she said that i had to pretend i didnt like him anymore, + i had to give my boyfriend for her who gets evrything she wants!
(p.s) she knew i liked him, and he liked me! fortunetly he said no to my friend, but today i’m gonna ask him about us!
i could relate to you… i have the same problem and most of the time all i wanna do is cry… she says she wouldnt go out with him if i liked him but she says she likes him and she cant help it…. i do talk to him but the convorsations dont go for as long but she always has a way to get the guys she wants… this is why im rreally worried… and its killing me inside and im starting to think were growing apart and she eventually go out with him to get back at me…. i would really like some advice it would really help and i would apreciate it… thanks :)
if u do tha for her nd she cant see ur hurting inside then yall arnet real best friends
If you think she’s a god friend then she’ll understand. If not I’m afraid you’ve chosen the wrong friend. I know it’s hard like she’s ur best friend and everything but she should understand.
My best friend also likes this guy but only since I told her I like him! He is really geeky but soooii cute and funny, we are friends ( me , him and my best mate) but I want to be something more than that to him without losing my bffl …. 3
well yea i gt a pal like tht i like someone then she will so now i lie i dont which i hate! but now a boy i have kinda liked asked me to be partners for dancing but my other best pal is obessed with him so i said no cause i know hw annoying it is thoo she h8 me evn whn i said naa!! 0_o
in the same position - tell her how you feel and if she is anything like my bff she will understand :) dont worry everything works out for the best in the end !! :)
same here its so so so ugh every time i have a crush my bestiez will like him and when they see me talking to him they will get jealous and ask me to interduce them to him we r like populer at skool but if i say no ill feel so guilty and think im a bad and selfish friend and they will think the same and i dont want tht to happen but i really like the guy and i really want to say how i feel but i cant cuz of my friendz and btw i find him starring at me alot and whereva i go he is there but i dont know wat to do help!!!!
I like the boy my friend likes but i don’t want to tell her. I’m afraid that my friend would get mad and we will not be friends anymore. i don’t want to hurt my friend but i think i really like him. Allot of my other friends say that he likes me but I’m not sure if its true. The boy me and my friend like doesn’t really know my friend because he doesn’t have any classes with her. Me and him talk allot in class and everyone says we are flirting of course i turn red but my friend get really mad and jealous I know how she feels because the same thing has happened to me that’s how i know it really does hurt and I’m thinking i should keep what i feel for him to myself i am really confused! :(
There is a coming to my school, i know him already we r friends but i have the feeling my friend likes him too. every boy i have ever liked she has liked, so i stopped telling her who i like cause she will try to take him even if she doesnt like him. im not sure if thats the kind of friend i need, i’ve been broken hearted too many times by her. thw worst time was when i told her i like this gguy and she staright away started flirting with him so the guy came up to me and asked me if he should ask her out i didnt say anything and ran away (stupid thing to do ik). their relationship lasted less then a month he wasn’t sure if he wanted to continue when he found out i liked him. but im over him now, i mean he and my friend didnt have the best relationship. so now im really gonna go for the new guy but wat do i do if she steals him, she will make fun of me infront of others to get him to like her and shes not even that funny more annoying, wwat do i do? :(
I liked a boy 3months already and my best friend likes him too!!my bf is cute and smarter than me, plus they like the same stuff and i dont kno wat to do !!! help me!! plus my Bf and i r sitting by him, and he always to to my bf, and never talk to me!! wat should i do?/
there this guy he so cute. we went out but he broke up with me an i tried to get him back. he lookes at me and smile and give me hugs but girlz say he dont like you and call me names because every one likes him hes like the cuties boy in my school. to tell the truth i dont like this boy i loveeeeeeeeeeeee him witl a captial l but he wont ask me out help plz
you know something!!!i feel exactly the same!!!!look girls me and two of my friends like a guy but me and my friend don’t want to date him cause he is 2 years younger than us but my bff likes him and wants to be with him!!we tell her that this isn’t right because we are her friends and friends go first always!!but she is really changing know and we are afraid of losing her!!any advice my e-mail is i> small>(email removed) /small> /i>!!!
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i think you should tell your best friend about your crush on him couse if shes your true bestfriend shell understand.
OMG…. someone who is going through the exact same thing as me T.T I experience this lately actually this is the second time… I have a crush on the guy she likes as well we both are good friends with him. The first time when she like the guy I like… I valued my friendship with her more than him… but sometimes it hurts that that I cannot chat with him as much as she does with him. Funny thing is now she’s crushing on another guy… she push the first one away. I’m like what?!?! She has a huge crush on the second guy now… and I feel like this all repeating all over again. I just want it to stop… like I want to tell her but at the same time I can’t. One moment I want to brush it off the next I want him even if as just a friend I can talk everyday… I just wish this time he was someone I can like someone I can talk and someone she doesn’t know. How is your relationship with your friend or the guy now? :)
Just tell the girl to get lost and it he’s fit do that and get him before she does, she’s ugly and not worth it like you are. Ditch friends, guys are more important, get in there biatch
Same here :(
Im the same too except he is the only guy i like! And he is my best friends boyfriend!! They have been on and off for abt 2 years
When they were broken up i tried to tell him but then she called and said she wants to get back with him..she told me to fix it
I tried to talk them out of them and im dying now! I just cant help it! I told her i like a guy
Should i say that its her boyfriend?
And also she doubted him by saying that her boyfriend likes me! And that he looks at me
But he doesnt :( please help
You should see if she really is your friend if not take your chances and reel him
If yes then share with her cause then it will turn to gun not dieing inside and feeling
Lonely trust me I had the same issue I gave her the test and she was my friend I spilled
My crush and now we are closer friends but I have 5 classes and she has to so we both
Get to be with him so take a chance and test your friend and then follow on GOOD LUCK
Thats how my friend is and then she dates him first and i have to be ok with it but she can get pissed at me and im supposed to be perfectly ok with the fact that she can date a guy i like but if i date a guy she likes(same guy) all hell is raised
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