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So, this is the story about pride vs marriage

My mother decided that I’m old enough to get married and she assumes that it would be hard for me to get perfect match who has the same level of education and religion. So, out of nowhere she introduce me with this man, let’s just call it mr. X.
Our families are actually known each other for a long time, except both of us. I never knew him before.
Nahh…this guy is ok. he’s cute and well educated. So, I said, let’s just try it.

The problem is he’s living in different city.
It’s a problem he said.

I thought we can overcome that by phone and email. But, he seldom replies. He never start the conversation either.

I want my parents to be relieve that I actually make a move with the guy they choose. but, I don’t like being ignored like this.

when I thought it would be over, his family always ask on meeting with me.

geezzzzzzzzzzz….It makes me sick.
I liked him, now it doesn’t feel good anymore.

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lucif 7 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

tell your parents he doesn’t keep contact with you. Tell him it makes you feel unwanted and dishonored.
That will make him either work for you.
Or make you find a different guy.

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andromeda 4 #
Padang, 24, ID | 10 months, 1 week ago (12 minutes after post)

I have already told my mother. she said that “as a woman you should keep your pride”.
great. But, I know how much she wants me to be with that guy.
When we finally met few months ago, we made promise. I’m talking about me and the guy.
We had 3 months limit. if we had no progress along that time, we should end this marriage arrangement.

the next 2 days is the promised time

lucif 7 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

tell her there is not progress. It is true. Tell them that there lies no pride in being ignored, and your family name treated without interest whatsoever.

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khyron32 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (45 minutes after post)

Ah the arrainged marriage isn’t dead after all eh? I am sorry for you my dear. You should be able to find someone you like on your own. It is really honorable and nice of you to put up with your parents on this issue and for such a long time too. But in the end you need to only marry for you and your happiness not for your parents happiness. If you don’t like him or he is not a good fit for you then do not marry him. Be patient and wait until you find the right guy. If you have found the right guy but your parents do not approve then either help mr. right to win their approval or if that doesn’t work then you’ll just have to follow your heart and live your own life as you see fit. Once you are an adult you can continue to be on good terms with your parents but you no longer have to obey their every command. It is your life to live… not theirs.
Best Wishes

andromeda 4 #
Padang, 24, ID | 10 months, 1 week ago (21 hours, 45 minutes after post)

khyron, thank you. I never knew it would be so difficult to get married. lol.
I accept this arrangement because I thought it would be fun, but I end up taking too much of it.
too much so it would hurt me

dollyshiree #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (5 months after post)

how r u

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