boyfriend help: me and my boyfriend has been together for 2 years.

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me and my boyfriend has been together for 2 years.

We broke up before because he liked another girl. But after awile he begged me to go back. Since then we have been together for half a year. Everything was fine untill one day i went over his house with some friends and saw his mom. I have met her once about 1.5year ago and she commented on me after i left that i was fat and he shouldnt be with me. This time i wasnt even introduced as his gf, i was only a friend and she doesnt know we went back together. She still had soemthing to say, she said i was short and thus cant cook because i get tired easily. My boyfriend tried to hid this from me because he didnt want me to worry but i eventually found out from a friend..i feel so sad and unfair. she doesnt even know who i am and had to say all this bad things. my self esteem and confidence is crushed. and my boyfriend is such a coward, he was all depressed because he couldnt tell his paretns he was with me, and he told me that i should lose weight and try to go over his house with some friends to see his mom’s reaction. i feel so disappointed in him..i cant believe this and i want to leave him..please help me…

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Ξ.Ģäβž.Ξ 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

Erm, how on earth did you get mixed up with such a bunch of a$$holes ?

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

Not only are they bagging the hell out of you, but he also left you for someone else ????

AND YOU TOOK HIM BACK ??

Girl, get ur head together and kick his a$$ to the curb !! He’s a pr|****

atofumonste 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

i duno…i feel so depressed becos he says hes trying to help me but i feel like ive bee n treated so unfairly and why the hell should i put up with his mom like this..especially when he says u wont even get a chance to talk to them..who the hell do they think they are !!!

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

Obviously a stuck up bunch of people who think theyre better than everyone else.

I’m sorry to say, but your being given the sh*t end of the stick luv.

Don’t ever tolerate that kind of poor treatment, not from anyone.

chunkymove 4 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

You don’t have to put up with it if you don’t want. His mums got issues and is being a **** to you, but I can feel for the poor dude trying to hide his mums weirdness from you. Apart from the mum and the leaving you… how does he treat you now?

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (29 minutes after post)

we were fine and he treats me really good ..untill this happened he seemed so moody..and nowi feel like its all my fault. If i wasnt born like this then we wont have this problem, im a really emotional person and when i start to feel sad i will do all these stupid thing and i really dont want to make a bad decision. He told me that he will help me in anyway but i feel liek this problem is between him and his mom..so he should be the one to sort it out. but if i really love him..should i change myself just to try if his mom will take me?

chunkymove 4 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (46 minutes after post)

atofumonste wrote:
we were fine and he treats me really good .

good to hear :-)

atofumonste wrote:
.untill this happened he seemed so moody..and nowi feel like its all my fault. If i wasnt born like this then we wont have this problem,

wooooo, back up a moment there. re-read what you just wrote. His mum is being dumb, can you see that. Short people get tired so they can’t cook??? Come on. She has most likely got some issues with being threatened by you, but its her problem not yours. If you want to trim down a bit, thats for you - don’t let her mess with you.

atofumonste wrote:

im a really emotional person and when i start to feel sad i will do all these stupid thing and i really dont want to make a bad decision. He told me that he will help me in anyway but i feel liek this problem is between him and his mom..so he should be the one to sort it out. but if i really love him..should i change myself just to try if his mom will take me?

yes, its between him and his mum - but its hurting you :-( that life sometimes. Don’t change for his mum, she would just find something else to rant about. how old are you guys?

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atofumonste 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (48 minutes after post)

we are both 20. ive been chubby for all my life, and always had average weight..now i see how shallow this world has become..where people just treat others from the surface..sign…

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (50 minutes after post)

only ‘change youself’ if thats what YOU really want to do, if he wants you to do it or his mum is treating you like s**t then you shouldn’t really get involved and let them sort it out, you might really like this guy but the worst that can happen is the two of you spitting up, and you’ll eventually get over it and theres a hell of allot more guys out there for you

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chunkymove 4 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (53 minutes after post)

are you going to stop being short and tired and a bad cook too? The guy has got to step away from the apron strings and treat you better. Its tough for him I’m guessing, with a mum like that, maybe hes not a as strong as he could be. If you two are happy together away from her, then decide if its worth the effort

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

I would forget about him and his family. Find someone else, you deserve someone better !

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