face help: why the **** am i so ugly? - Help.com

You’ve got a tough situation.

When my late wife was in school, she developed a thyroid condition. All her hair fell out and her weight ballooned and she got huge. She was poor so she wore a bandanna on her head. She couldn’t afford a wig.

She could’ve been bitter about it and hated herself. Instead, she developed a real empathy for other people and their problems. She knew how they felt, and she dedicated her life to helping them.

When she died, she was a respected member of her community, married and loved dearly by me, often appeared on TV for interviews, and worked professionally and volunteered widely.

Yeah, these things matter. They hurt. But there’s plenty in life like that and you can decide for yourself what you’re going to do about it. You don’t have to choose to feel like a victim.

In the future, when you have money, you can do what you like to change your appearance. The very best thing you can do now is accept your situation for what it is, smile at people, laugh it off and focus on a friendly, outgoing personality. Don’t let your fears and insecurities ruin things for you.

Work on one thing at a time…

You can see me in my pic and I’m far from cute, but I’ve gotten myself to the point where I love myself and how I look by working on what I thought was wrong.

1-I have a similar discoloration on my forehead. Try talking to a dermatologist about what you can do about making it lighter/making it disappear. I just left mine and it faded with time but it took years.

2-I would advise the same for the discoloration around your mouth. Only a doctor could tell you what’s right for your skin and what will help versus what will make it worse.

3-As for the greasy skin, you could use a facial cleanser once or twice a day to rid your face of the excess oil and stuff. You can also carry around face blotters [or cigarette rolling papers work fine too] so that you can excuse yourself to blot away greasy spots during the day.

I’m not saying these things will transform you to what you view as beautiful overnight or anything. But they definitely will help make you more comfortable in your own skin and help raise your confidence.

the beauty of being a woman is we can wear make up :) do all you can to make yourself feel pretty. putting yourself down is not helping your self esteem. you need to also work on that, im sure its not so bad we are all so critical of ourselves. you wouldnt be so harsh on others so why would you do it to yourself? think of it that way and try to be positive! :)

Not sure if this will help or not and if it does it is not a permanent fix…There is a scar cream called Mederma. It works by lightening the scar so that it blends with the rest of the skin better. You could possibly give this a try on the spot between your eyebrows and the skin around your mouth.

I have a really oily face too. I use the Walmart brand apricot facial scrub every day and I use witch hazel as a toner. The witch hazel is great at removing oil from the skin during the day as long as you aren’t wearing any makeup-it will remove makeup too. If you already wear makeup, then blotting papers are a reaaly good thing to keep in your purse.

Cloud is right. Makeup is great! I buy mine from ELF cosmetics online. Google it. They are very inexpensive, most things are just $1.00. They have the mineral makeup also at a great price. I use the medium concealer and the light foundation and it makes my skin look wonderful. And my skin tone really sucks!