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hi.

i’ve never posted anything before like this, but i am at a loss. my boyfriend and i broke up 3 years ago after a 2 year relationship. it was my fault it ended and i thought it was what i wanted at the time. it wasn’t pretty. i moved to be with him after college and after we broke up he moved away. i never stopped thinking about him, but dated other people. we have a mutual friend who gives me updates sometimes. he has a girlfriend now, and we are actually living in the same city again. i am in a new relationship, but cannot stop thinking about him, about us, and believe deep down that there may be a future for us. i don’t know if i am crazy or if this may be real. it was the greatest love i have ever experienced and i miss him so much. he is in the back of my mind all day long, in my dreams at night and when i wake up again. i know this isn’t fair to my new boyfriend, but i can’t help myself. i wonder if anyone has experienced anything like this and what did you do? i am thinking about reaching out to my ex to see if he even responds. then at least i may get an answer…please help?

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tjwoods offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (5 minutes after post)

I think that you are building up a fantasy in your mind about your ex. Nothing is as rosy as you are painting your potential relationship with him. Also, the dumpee (him) usually gets over the relationship a lot faster than the dumper (you), so if he is with someone else right now it probably isn’t worth approaching him.

You are with someone new right now. If that is not going well or you feel disappointed with him about something, deal with that. Obviously you feel like something is missing, which is why you are having fantasies about this old boyfriend. Address what is going on with you right now, and either fix your relationship or end it for its own reasons, but don’t let this fabrication about a possible romance with your ex distract you from what is happening right now.

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