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It Is Not Fair.

I went through 15 months of insomnia, and it was the worst time of my life. I’ve been through it all, seen all the mess and havoc it causes.

And now Fry has it. I just heard. He has insomnia. I feel like I’m going to break down and cry for him. I really do. He’s barely slept in two weeks, and yet he still won’t have any idea over what’s going to happen to him. He’s going to lose so much… There’s not a thing I can do about. This is going to completely mess up the life he knows.
If there was anything I could do to make this better, I would. But I know from experience that it doesn’t work that way. He’s acting like he can deal with it, that it’ll all be ok soon…
Sh*t, he doesn’t deserve this. I’m gutted to hear it. Hearing that someone, a friend of mine, is about to go through all that… I’m actually devastated. This is a good guy, a really genuine, funny, just great person. No way should he have to go through this.

I’m thinking of everything that happened to me and wondering if its going to be the same for him. Oh, that poor guy. He really has no idea…

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wil offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (3 minutes after post)

Try some herbal remedies, here in NZ we boil the inner bark of a certain tree and drink it. Maybe you have something similar in your country? I’ve never had insomnia but if it’s going to be as bad as you say then your friend sounds like hes going to need your support. Make sure you’re there for him, ease his suffering. That’s all you can do. bEst of luck! ^^

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cloudnine offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (5 minutes after post)

hi i suffered this but only because of my epilepsy drugs i was on i caught this side effect it was horrible! see if he can get something for it just make sure your there for him like i said know how you feel its awful!

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Kaitey offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (10 minutes after post)

I’ll see if he can get any of those. I’ll see if he wants any of the few remaining sleep meds i stored up… But really, from the emotional side of it, theres nothing. We’re friends, but hes a private guy. The two people i know he’ll confide in won’t be able to offer any more help than i would. I’m just so upset that its happened to someone else, he doesn’t deserve it.

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wil offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (15 minutes after post)

Life doesn’t know fairness unfortunately. I would suggest confronting him about it, giving him a far idea what he’s going to go through, express your pity, share your own experiences and offer your company if things get too much for him :)

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xxangel027xx offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (19 minutes after post)

okay you need to calm down my fiance and i are kind of suffering from it too. we’re asleep in the day and awake all night,so far ive had 1 meal today lol you just need some typr of herbal remedie or routine that will get you to sleepb4 we haven’t slept for 48hours straight and still couldn’t get to sleep thats why we’re still up now its half past midnight gmt time and we still feel pretty much wide awake and i got work tomorrow at 2 in the afternoon (i work at mcdonalds so shifts are everywhere) thats what started it off.

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xxangel027xx offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (20 minutes after post)

i would say not all cases are the same

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Kaitey offline Verified User (1 year, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (22 minutes after post)

I don’t need to tell him. He’s already seen what happened over the last two years. I lost a lot then, including school, and now have a lot of scarring on my arms. He must know, if not just from the two weeks he’s already had, that this is going to be really really bad.
Thanks, yeah, I know not all cases are the same, which is some comfort. But I still worry too much for him!

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Arnday the Imbroglio offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (28 minutes after post)

really calm down, hes lost some sleep, hes not dying. You’re sounding like his limbs are going to start falling off or something. Find someone on this site who hasnt had some vile bouts of insomnia. If you’re that concerned get him to goto a doctor, theres loads of drugs they could try, like zopiclone, the one I had, that was good fun. Or yknow some herbal ****, like chewing valerian root. Exercise, warmth, soothing music, **** like that. Or alcohol, really helps to send you off.

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xxangel027xx offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 11 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (34 minutes after post)

dont think alchol is a good idea otherwise he could get dependant on it and become an alky then you’ll have something to worry about…

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tjwoods offline Verified User (11 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 26 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (48 minutes after post)

His experience will probably be different from yours. You are reacting to your memory of your own experience, and not to his. Many people have insomnia and it is not as bad as what you have described.

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An Unknown Location | 8 months, 3 weeks ago (2 weeks, 1 day after post)

Jus try your best to be there for him since u have gone through this already. at least he knows he have some one to talk to when he is ready.

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8 months, 1 week ago (4 weeks, 1 day after post)

what is insomania im guessing its some sort of mental problem…

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Arnday the Imbroglio offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (4 weeks, 1 day after post)

Anonymous wrote:
what is insomania im guessing its some sort of mental problem…

a persistant inability to sleep

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