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you really need to sit down and talk to him and maybe see a counselor.
relationships cannot last when no mutual trust is in it.
if nothing works it is time to leave this relationship.
you also really need to do something about the girl who bit you like some psycho.
should have called the police.

i did call the police, they took a statement, but they said they prob wont find her as i didnt know her last name, i did explain she had been invited to the same party as me so the people who invited us should be able to provied some sort of info on her, but to be honest they seemed pretty uninterested, like they though i must have provoked it somehow

i thought of couselling, b4 this happened, and he had known his jelousy was causing me grief, so i just dont know that i can forgive or trust him myself now

Anonymous wrote:
i did call the police, they took a statement, but they said they prob wont find her as i didnt know her last name, i did explain she had been invited to the same party as me so the people who invited us should be able to provied some sort of info on her, but to be honest they seemed pretty uninterested, like they though i must have provoked it somehow

i dont think they thought it was provoked, i think they were being lazy assed cops.

Anonymous wrote:
i thought of couselling, b4 this happened, and he had known his jelousy was causing me grief, so i just dont know that i can forgive or trust him myself now

see? the lack of trust he has in you will only pull it apart more.
have you ever actually done anything?
does he have any kind of reason?
if not, tell him you want his trust or you want out

find someone else thats crazy lol.

weve been together for 7 yrs, ive never done anything, nor did a have a reputation before him, he was married previously and his ex wife had cheated on him , but that wasnt me, and hes not the only one whos been betrayed by others in the past, yet i dont hold grudges against him for what others have done

you should clear it to him if you are not his ex-wife but you need to be strong to persuade him such otherwise you better leave him couse it isnt worth it. better you clear everything now than it too late and hurt your children (for instant).

sorry to hear you are having a bad time, even saying the word “bad time” seems to be an understatement. you haven’t done anything wrong from what i’m reading, it seems that due to the way your partner is acting towards you, you are gaining extra issues from other people that come into contact with this behaviour. afterall someone that close to you, who unfortunately through his own misgivings, can show so much mis-trust and disrespect towards you, will beg question’s from other people. that girl obviously has a very in-secure relationship with her boyfriend and either thinks he is likely to leave her or look elsewhere, whether that is due to her own “low self esteem” issues or down to her knowing he cannot be trusted! unfortunately she has decided to take it out on you due to what she heard and possibly cause she wanted him to see what would happen for future reference if he was messing around, no matter who was the receiver of her anger!? still reagardless of this, you have not asked for or do you deserve this kind of treatment, from her or your partner and remember that! please try to seperate yourself from the feelings you have for this guy right now, (sounds much easier in writing i know) however long you have been together and stop questioning who you are! when you’re deeply in love someone, as you seem to love your partner, you trust their every word even if it is something that is only spoken in anger towards you, then you start to doubt who you really are. if he is carrying around emotional issues from previous relationships then he has to sort that out before he can be truly happy in moving on and therefore not causing heartache for anyone else in the process! but he will only do this, when he feels he has realised this by himself and not being told by someone else. sorry to hear about all this, you are better than all the problems you have been dealt just recently and remember that to help you rise above it! ;)

um, i would leave him as soon as possible-=- get someone normal and secure. thank you for your excellent post, by the way. :)