Family help: My do - nothing brother is tearing apart our family. - Help.com

*His fighting is tearing apart their marriage*?
Wow.

One of my friends was like this all through his teenage years. Then his dad went mad from alcoholism, his sister turned out to be a heroin addict, dropped out of school and had a baby, and his mother divorced his father and married a man who then started to beat my friend.
He was in his mid-twenties by then, and a full blown schizophrenic who couldn’t get a job and now he’s 30 he lives on his own in a council estate and tries to commit suicide frequently. He suffers from horrendous hallucinations and mutters to himself all the time. He’s still a virgin, its really sad.

When we were 15 he was the most popular kid out of all my friends. I really hope he doesn’t kill himself, but I recognize that he’d be happier if he did…

oh yeah, I almost forgot to mention this. We used to hang out and smoke weed all the time, in his parents house.. and he was really abusive and selfish even then.

Wow… this is so similar to my situation, it’s uncanny. I so know how you feel. The way my brother treats, speaks and acts around my parent’s, especially my mum, is awful.. I just avoid him. He has no respect, he has done numerous things that have torn the family apart, and he doesn’t give a S**t about it. My mum was torn between my dad and my brother a while ago, when my dad tried to kick him out of the house. Like your mum, mine thought it would make things worse if he went, so he wasn’t kicked out, much to my dad’s dismay. Now, he won’t get a job, and so he’s just hanging around, smoking goodness knows what and just pissing everybody off.
He’s the reason why I have so many problems mentally… Last year was literally the sh****est of my life :/
Anyway, unfortunately, there’s not a lot you can do. You can try and persuade him to get help, but to be honest, the likelihood of that occurring is pretty slim, we’ve tried many times. You just have to rise above it, which is easier said than done. A good thing is to talk to your parent’s about it, so they know exactly how you feel about the situation. Don’t keep anything in, let it all out, cos your views need to be heard.
There’s probably a lot of typos and grammar errors in here, but yeah, I’m too tired to re-read it =]. If you need to talk about it, then just shout me or something.

My point is thatmy friend didn’t deserve to end up like this, with his life more or less over by the time he’s 30, before its even begun, even if he was a horrible teenager.

The reason I’m telling this story is because us boys go through tough things with our friends, with drugs and with parents.

In my teenage years, I wish that my dad had given me more direction, and arranged more things to challenge me and get me moving in life.

One of the main things I missed out on was going a starting a school for charity in africa or the jungles of asia.

Look at this website - see how cheap it is to go abroad and live in the jungle or the rainforest for a year? at $50 a month, your brother could go away for a year and it would only cost him $600.. plus a plane fare - $1000
http://www.originalvolunteers.co.uk/

My point is - when he came back, he’d be a totally different person. YOU HAVE TO THINK OUTSIDE THE BOX. Show this website to your dad and mum. Get them on side. Buy the ticket and boot his *** out for a year!!

Boys need this kind of action in their lives. Believe me. I know. I’ve been there.