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My best friend is starting to scare me. She lives about 20 - 30 minutes away from me, and she moved there about 4 or 5 months ago. She was always a little bit boy-crazy and more daring than the rest of us in our ‘group’ (there’s 4 of us, all of us best friends). I was closest with her, and she was closest with me. Anyway, ever since she moved she’s been a little bit different. She’s getting into drugs and alcohol a bit more. Anytime she’s at her dad’s, just about, she goes with her cousin to a party or hangs out with his friends. She ran away last night, just didn’t come home after school. Her parents found her the same night (her mom & dad are divorced, & she has a stepdad, all three are VERY VERY protective over her and keep her pretty sheltered, or at least they think they do) and I haven’t talked to her since, I talked to her mom today and found out my friend was doing okay. I don’t know when I’ll get to talk to her but right now I don’t even know what to say to her. Do I just be the shoulder to cry on, like always, just comfort her and let her vent? or do I tell her what I really think? Because this stuff’s been going on for a while now, she ‘did the deed’ maybe 3 months ago with a guy she only knew for maybe a month or two, and it’s starting to scare me. There’s a lot of stuff I could say to her right now but I’m scared, I’m not sure if it would ruin our friendship if i did, so I guess I just need help on what to say to her

My best friend is starting to scare me. She lives about 20 - 30 minutes away from me, and she moved there about 4 or 5 months ago. She was always a little bit boy-crazy and more daring than the rest of us in our ‘group’ (there’s 4 of us, all of us best friends). I was closest with her, and she was closest with me. Anyway, ever since she moved she’s been a little bit different. She’s getting into drugs and alcohol a bit more. Anytime she’s at her dad’s, just about, she goes with her cousin to a party or hangs out with his friends. She ran away last night, just didn’t come home after school. Her parents found her the same night (her mom & dad are divorced, & she has a stepdad, all three are VERY VERY protective over her and keep her pretty sheltered, or at least they think they do) and I haven’t talked to her since, I talked to her mom today and found out my friend was doing okay. I don’t know when I’ll get to talk to her but right now I don’t even know what to say to her. Do I just be the shoulder to cry on, like always, just comfort her and let her vent? or do I tell her what I really think? Because this stuff’s been going on for a while now, she ‘did the deed’ maybe 3 months ago with a guy she only knew for maybe a month or two, and it’s starting to scare me. There’s a lot of stuff I could say to her right now but I’m scared, I’m not sure if it would ruin our friendship if i did, so I guess I just need help on what to say to her

Oh yeah, i’m 14 & she’s 13, but she’ll be turning 14 in a few months so..

My best friend is starting to scare me. She lives about 20 - 30 minutes away from me, and she moved there about 4 or 5 months ago. She was always a little bit boy-crazy and more daring than the rest of us in our ‘group’ (there’s 4 of us, all of us best friends). I was closest with her, and she was closest with me. Anyway, ever since she moved she’s been a little bit different. She’s getting into drugs and alcohol a bit more. Anytime she’s at her dad’s, just about, she goes with her cousin to a party or hangs out with his friends. She ran away last night, just didn’t come home after school. Her parents found her the same night (her mom & dad are divorced, & she has a stepdad, all three are VERY VERY protective over her and keep her pretty sheltered, or at least they think they do) and I haven’t talked to her since, I talked to her mom today and found out my friend was doing okay. I don’t know when I’ll get to talk to her but right now I don’t even know what to say to her. Do I just be the shoulder to cry on, like always, just comfort her and let her vent? or do I tell her what I really think? Because this stuff’s been going on for a while now, she ‘did the deed’ maybe 3 months ago with a guy she only knew for maybe a month or two, and it’s starting to scare me. There’s a lot of stuff I could say to her right now but I’m scared, I’m not sure if it would ruin our friendship if i did, so I guess I just need help on what to say to her

Oh yeah, i’m 14 & she’s 13, but she’ll be turning 14 in a few months so..