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I am writing an email to my aunt…

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I would just like someone to look it over and tell me if it is too harsh or what. Also I would like it to look smarter you know. Like some quotes in it or something. Any ideas…….. Also if you see any mistakes let me know.

First of all I have done nothing to deserve this. I have done nothing to you. I have never “told you” to do anything and I very rarely ask you to do anything. Condescending? I don’t understand how I’m condescending. Maybe we have different definitions. I don’t ever talk to you in a rude way. If I do I would like you to tell me because this is not true. That’s the reason you are mad at me and we have ruled that out. I don’t understand why? Even when you get upset sometimes, I’m 90% of the time cool about it. Example Houston: I was just giving you a suggestion and you got a attitude and so I came back with an attitude and said “Okay, we will do whatever you want.” I guess this set you off and as you walked pass me you said “**** you” I don’t think I deserved this and it hurts really bad if your aunt can say this to you. Even after that I was still cool about everything, then I open the door and tell you we are going to go back in and asked if you wanted to go, then you go off on me and blame me for Carl being mad. Now that kinda made me mad. Even after you called me all those names in the car I was still nice and we had a good time at the party.
Of course granddad starts texting me going off on me, and I can’t take up for myself. Still I am nice. Everything is cool at the aquarium…. Until we get home and out of no where you hate me.

The other day those words were the most awful words anyone has ever said to me. For you to call me out on my education and degrade me with it. You must have no idea that I think about that everyday of my life. I think what if I told someone, then me my brother and sister would not be in the position we are in now. I blame myself for not doing anything. I would give my life any day so that they would have more than they do. I’m sorry my parents did this to me and I don’t think because of it I am any less of a person than you.
Again I still don’t understand why you would say this other than to just hurt me. I have never said anything like this to you.

For you to send those text telling me that “You already told on me you kiss *** punk” Again, how do I deserve this? This is also the most hypocritical thing I have ever read. Everyone knows every move I make because of you. For my mom to call me in Houston how is that a big deal? Why did the world have to know that one? Also she called at 11:52pm, most of the time I’m awake at that time on the weekends. That’s why she called. If you don’t remember we when out with your friends that same night and we did not get back until 11 or so. I am sure we didn’t go to sleep until around 11:30. This was far from being in the middle of the night. Why did everyone have to know about that? Of course I am the one considered the “Tattle Tale”. What else you say is hypocritical? “Snobby” I’m not at all snobby. You are the only person that thinks these things. “Immature” whoa, that’s a perfect example.

Now granddad is coming up to me telling me everyone thinks I have “Mental Health Issues”. I have yet to have this one explained to me. So I am guessing “everyone” is You, Meh Maw, Jessica and Mat. Again I have no idea what this is all about, but if you didn’t know, my mom is in the hospital for this reason and for the people I live with to think that I have the same problem as her, it hurts. It’s nice to have a brother who tells you that you are the most sane person he knows. Unless you think he is insane also?
This also might have something to do with the way meh maw now looks at me, she looks at me like she hates me. I have also done nothing for my own grandmother to hate me.
I’m sure she doesn’t, but that’s how it feels.

Back to what you said in the office that I was “sneaky”, “I have another life” and that I’m just trying to use my grandfather. I don’t understand any of this. Where does this “other life” exist? I also need you to explain how I’m using my grandfather. That is just absurd. All of this is absurd.

Again these are some of the most hurtful words anyone has ever said to me and I least expected them to come from you.This is another great example, I’m not sending you a message telling I hate you, first of all I’m not that type of person and second I don’t hate you. I could call you out on your flaws, you have a degree and you are working at the same place doing pretty much the same job as a guy that you had to call out about his zero education. Apparently my zero education can get me as far as you got with a degree. I also have zero doubts that my zero education can get me a business. I understand you can do my job, but for you to tell me that and act like I have no importance. It rips away any type of usefulness that I thought I had.

This is so hard for me to understand. What did I do to deserve this? What do you get out of ripping me apart this all this untrue stuff. Is it jealousy? Because I respect granddad and he respects me back? As much as you don’t see it I respect you too. The day you were arguing with yourself in the office. I didn’t talk at all. I settle my business with the person I have business with. I don’t talk about you behind your back. You can ask anybody. The respect I have left for you, you are slowly draining away with talking about me behind my back and whenever you talk to me always you talk to me like I’m the most stupid person in the world. Talking to someone behind there back like that is childish, grow up. It’s really childish when you throw in all these lies, “condescending” that’s just not true. “Snob” I have never acted like a snob toward anybody. I “tell” you to do things, we proved this wrong, I think it also has a lot to do with the condescending one. “Disrespectful” I already explain this one, you are lucky to get the respect from me that you do. You sure don’t deserve it, and like granddad said “You have to earn respect.” All you are doing is draining it down.
Now I think my grandfather is contemplating kicking me out, for his wife’s health. Because for some reason she has to know all about how much you hate me and all these lies about “condescending” and “snob”. But what do you care if I have to go back to living in a drug infested house full of lies and deceit. As long as you are happy who cares huh?

It hurts me to know that every time my aunt looks at me this is what she is thinking.

But enough of that. I have never been one to carry a grudge. More than likely I will for the most part forget this in a week. I have figured out what I can do to help things and I hope you have figured out something too. I also feel this is a personal problem with you that I really can’t do anything about.

I also think this is a personal problem between me and you. This email should also be that way. Granddad is already under enough stress about this. Any friction in the future should also be settled between me and you and hope that you would tell me the issue instead of me finding out from granddad. I’m sure the whole world will know about this in just minutes. It will probably be picked apart to make it look like I’m and the bad person. When really all I’m doing is showing you how I’m not the bad person in this situation.

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