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why did i do it i dont know, but i feel super super super bad about it.

it has been awhile, almost a year, and i cheated on my gf at the time, not full blown cheating just some rubbing with a girl. I am still really really good friends with my ex gf now that iv gone for college. I still feel bad about it and want her to know but i think that might hurt her more then i can bare. should i tell her or just hide it? the problem she might find out anyways.

any help is good. I already know that i did something really wrong and iv totally learned from it. I hate myself for doing this. im just saying this so people wont wast their time telling me what i already know.

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TheWarmth offline Verified User (9 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (13 hours, 18 minutes after post)

give her some closure, tell her you are sorry, THAT is the real sign of a man.

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kirstylogan280 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (14 hours, 32 minutes after post)

Well everyone makes mistakes and it was just unfortunate that you regret it this much. Its good that you do because you can learn from it. And next time you wont do it or think before you do. I think that you should tell her that your sorry and if she says she doesnt want to go back to the past then just tell her you just want her to know you mean it then leave it at that :)

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Sir Urgdu offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Evanston, IL, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 16 hours after post)

If she’s going to find out anyways you should be the one to tell her. Apologize, what was done was done, and hopefully she’ll see how sincere you are.

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startthe GAME offline Verified User (2 years, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 22 hours after post)

Thank you for your help,

I told her, and she didnt take it that well, although its only been a day after I told her so maybe in a year she will be fine. I got to move on, I learned from it, I just wish it didnt have to hurt my best friend so much.

thanks again.

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emperor_of_lichtenst offline Verified User (10 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (5 days, 13 hours after post)

you did the right thing man.

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