I have a scenario, It goes as follows, you can believe it or not, but i would just like some help. - Help.com

gnarlycharlie101
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I have a scenario, It goes as follows, you can believe it or not, but i would just like some help.

It starts about two years ago, when a friend had a friend, and that friend fancied me (concidering i were the person in question) and it started as a crush, but went on and went on, until they wouldn’t leave ‘me’ alone, and left stuffed bears at my door at least once a week, i wasn’t interested in them, and i told them that, but they just kept the harrassment up, i could deal with that, till one day, they came off in a rant about how if they couldn’t have my heart nobody could, intending my best friend. the stalker, has alot of friends thanks to involvement in a street racing circuit that is pretty popular around here. and one day i got word from my friend that that her dog was missing, come to find the dog had been hung in a field down the street, later on my friend’s little brother went missing, and was found to had been lured into a car and dropped off in an abandoned field across town. and then lastly, my friend’s house being vandalized to no means… i went over and helped cleaned up and the hurt in their voice and demeanor was absolutely deftifying, it was something that will always be indented into my mind. i felt guilty because i brought this on them, soo i had to sabatoge our relationship, my friend was exremely conservative, soo i told them i was gay, and had a thing for them, in an effort for them to pull themselves away, however they saw it as just that, but didn’t see the reason as to why, soo took it as some hostility. after some time, i got fairly close to another friend, and they found a dead rabbit in their mailbox, and now i have another friend that reminds me soo much of the first, i would hate to give them up, but i am replacing my oldest friend with this one, and they keep pushing themselves away from me, and i feel like i’m loosing my best friend all over again, it’s killing me, and every second of every day i wish i could still have a decent relationship with my first friend, whom was a friend i had spent most of my life with up to that point. they don’t know about the stalker situation, neither does the new one, i still get a call or text from the stalker from time to time, i don’t know what kind of help i’m asking for, but maybe some kind of reassurance in it all. again it’s a scenario.

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khyron32 offline Verified User (11 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (8 minutes after post)

dude either call the cops
or
kill the stalker
or
change your phone number and move

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gnarlycharlie101 offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (10 minutes after post)

First off, it’s not me alright.

second, i forgot to include, when the house was vadalized, i had the cops called on me, because i had split my relationship with the friend before that, and they thought it was some kind of retalliation.

‘i’ being not me

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khyron32 offline Verified User (11 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (12 minutes after post)

Okay well then whoever this is about should
call the cops
or kill the stalker
or change their phone number and move

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venomsblade offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 12 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (17 minutes after post)

a restaining order is necessary protection is key. this person sounds pretty messed up and things might get worse you cant always hope they go away

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chev.jame offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (3 hours, 46 minutes after post)

Is the stalker male or female?

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gnarlycharlie101 offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

The stalker is male

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chev.jame offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

Gnarly, you live an interesting life. I would suggest that you leave those environs. If that is not practical, first learn the laws about self-defense and then suitably arm yourself. Report any and all threats or suspicious activity to the police. Let the police “build paper” on whomever is stalking you. Also, the police will often have a “little talk” with the stalker, and that usually works wonders.

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gnarlycharlie101 offline Verified User (2 years, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (2 days, 1 hour after post)

For the friend… i’ve got the logistics down, keep safe, tell the cops and soo on, but how about the ‘best friend’ ‘guilt’ ‘loss of so-said best friend’ dilemna that seems to be where she is having the most trouble

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khyron32 offline Verified User (11 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (2 days, 3 hours after post)

Tell the best friend what is going on and make him/her understand that she is only pulling away to protect him/her. A true best friend will stick by and help out.

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