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My FI and I were planning to get married this summer, but I am really fat.

(Like 130 lbs overweight.) I don’t want to look fat in pictures or be a fat bride. (My fiance doesn’t care if we postpone and my family doesn’t care, either so this is really a decision that is totally up to me.) Should I postpone the wedding so that I can lose weight or should I suck it up and get married anyway, no matter my size?

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NeoPhoenix303 offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 day, 23 hours after post)

This is a very personal question. Do you see yourself as beautiful? Does your husband see you as beautiful? If the answer is yes, then why wait? It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. This is “your” wedding.

On the other hand, you can certainly choose to postpone the wedding. But if you do this, make sure you are serious about it. I’m sure you are aware that losing weight isn’t just a goal, it’s a way of life. Make a schedule indicating how much weight you want to lose per month, and set a deadline. Join a gym with your husband, so the both of you can motivate each other to go every day. Read a magazine or book on weight loss, and change your eating habits accordingly.

Good luck!

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IDon'tEverQuit offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 196 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (2 days, 23 hours after post)

You will be a beautiful bride regardless of size. Your fiance loves you as you are, so should you. Don’t postpone such a beautiful event just cause of your weight. Beauty is not based on weight.

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