I found out that my best friend lied to me.

Paranoid Android

I found out that my best friend lied to me.

Today I discovered that she was just telling me what I wanted to hear instead of the truth. It hurts because it was about when she would be ready to go all the way with her boyfriend. I had no idea that she was considering it until like 2 days ago. She doesn’t seem to understand why I’m so surprised and she just gets mad when I try to explain the risks to her.

What really pissed me off was when she said ‘you can’t react like this anymore.’ Am I overreacting by being upset that she didn’t tell me earlier/lied?

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Paranoid Android 3 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

I told her that I wished she would have just told me but she said she wasn’t comfortable telling me some things. This hurt me because we have been friends our whole lives (17 years to be exact)!! It’s not that I’m trying to control her… I’m just trying to look out for her and I think she took that as anger.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

Yeah I think we need a face to face conversation because texting and such is too messy with these things. Problem is, we live 30 min apart and school makes it hard to see each other. I feel like if I try to talk to her again she’ll just get mad.

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Thinkingofyou 1 #
West Lebanon, NH, US | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

It’s hard when you’re best friends because you are always trying to help them. It’s easy to have ideas about how to run other peoples lives and it’s always hardest to see your own. She probably feels like you’re trying to be her mother. And you’re not, I totally understand. At the same time she is in control of her life, she knows the risks and if she gets hurt, you’ll be there. Every best friend is.

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Paranoid Android 3 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

Thank you for the help. I really appreciate it.

What sucks even more is that I don’t really care for her boyfriend. They’ve been together 9 months. We were actually kind of friends in the beginning but they started hanging out just them 2 so I never see him. Even from stories she has told me, he just seems like a bigger jerk than before.

I could never tell her that though. She would be furious.

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Jules22871 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 3 weeks ago (1 hour, 32 minutes after post)

The title of best friend does not entitle you to know everything that the other person is thinking or feeling. Some things are meant to be kept to yourself and some decision are yours to make.

Paranoid Android wrote:
Thank you for the help. I really appreciate it.

What sucks even more is that I don’t really care for her boyfriend. They’ve been together 9 months. We were actually kind of friends in the beginning but they started hanging out just them 2 so I never see him. Even from stories she has told me, he just seems like a bigger jerk than before.

I could never tell her that though. She would be furious.

This post actually makes it sound like you are a little jealous. Apologize to her and from now on don’t push to know every single thing that is going thru her head.

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Thinkingofyou 1 #
West Lebanon, NH, US | 9 months ago (2 weeks, 3 days after post)

Obviously not, Jules, however if her friend is hiding things, that’s not exactly fair either is it? In fact it may not be safe. Understand that no, you do not need to know everything. Let her know how you fee though. If you feel like your being excluded she may not see that, so let her know that u miss how it used to be. Also, I don’t think you need to apologize, you did nothing wrong.

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