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Thinkingofyou
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West Lebanon, NH, US

He is a hypocrite!

My friend (we will call him John…) used to be such a bad kid, smoking pot, drinking, cutting, and skipping school. So I called him tonight because I made a mistake and I hoped he would understand. The moment he found out I had gotten high; he hung up on me. I really needed his advice….now he won’t talk to me and he has his idiot friends avoiding me for him. I’m so worked up I don’t know what to do. =\ I feel like he is such a hypocrite and nothing seems to matter except when it involves him. So the options are forget about him and focus on my problem, or try desperately to gain his trust back..or forget him altogether… =\ Please help… Signed, Toy Queen of Accidents.

I know this doesn’t make a lot of sense…but try to understand..

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Morally Ambiguous JD offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 150 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (2 minutes after post)

Ehm.. dont ever smoke weed again, explain to him you made a mistake and had hoped he as a friend would understand and appreciate that you felt you could come to him for advice.

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southern_comfort offline Verified User (3 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (3 minutes after post)

He learned his lesson. You haven’t. Until you are ready to learn the lesson he has, move on to some other loser.

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Sir Urgdu offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Evanston, IL, US | 10 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Remember, if he USED to be such a bad kid, you must assume some change in maturity has also installed.

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southern_comfort offline Verified User (3 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (6 minutes after post)

So what problem of yours do you want to focus on? Besides the fact you abuse drugs.

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Thinkingofyou offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
West Lebanon, NH, US | 10 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Well let’s get some facts straight.

- ONE: this is the SECOND time i have ever abused drugs.

umm I guess that’s it.

Sir: And no he is not more mature in fact I actually think he has digressed in maturity. He is a jerk, but he understands.

Also Tab, you have no right to tell me what to do =( I can make my own decisions, thanks.

Southern: I dont abuse drugs >. I was upset because I made a mistake… I trusted someone I should not have trusted and abused alcohol with them and i think we had sex…unprotected and i think i may be pregnant. and i thought he would understand…

Has anyone else noticed how my spelling and grammar get progressively worse as I type?

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southern_comfort offline Verified User (3 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (46 minutes after post)

He may or may not understand. I do. Will you let me fill in where John won’t?

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Jules22871 offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (1 hour, 7 minutes after post)

If he was a true friend he would not be acting they way he is. People who live in glass houses should not throw stones. Just because he has cleaned his act up it does not give him the right to treat you the way he has. If anything he should have been more understanding and reached out to help you. I think it’s time to find a new friend.

As for what you have been doing, since you might be pregnant you really should refrain from using drugs, alcohol or smoking any type of plant until you know for sure. Actually you should stop either way but it is your choice to make. I wish you the best of luck. You have some important decisions to make and you need to make them pretty soon.

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Morally Ambiguous JD offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 150 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (1 hour, 10 minutes after post)

i wasnt telling you not too… was just saying, it might help you out if you didnt. you know… coz thats why i assume he is angry with you. talk to the guy, if he doesnt want to then its his loss, i frankly couldnt give a toss if you smoke weed or not. just saying.. if hes anoyed with you smoking weed then maybe you might want to stop it for the sake of the friendship?

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Morally Ambiguous JD offline Verified User (1 year, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 150 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

and also i just read past where you got a tad mad at me.. you find yourself in a pickle.. if you need any advice just ask, its actually my job to help people like you, im a youth worker so i can help you and advise you as much as i can.

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Thinkingofyou offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
West Lebanon, NH, US | 9 months, 1 week ago (2 weeks, 3 days after post)

Update:

Officially not pregnant
Diagnosed as depressed and I think thats why I abused drugs and alcohol
I have since stopped using
And Everything is on the up =)
As for the guy…we dont talk anymore
and As for the friend, we’re on the mend.

Thank you all for your help. =)

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abraham_lincoln_lov offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 1 week ago (6 months, 2 weeks after post)

haha.
you are such a loser

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