Love help: Ok so i dated this girl for a lil over 9 months then she moved - Help.com

Wish I could be of more help to you on this one but I would never talk to any girl who murdered my baby. She would be dead to me. As dead as my child.

can i ask yours and hers ages, and what country your from?

I think that she should be the one asking for help on here… She sounds very confused and like she doesn’t know what will be best for herself. She should take a break from everyone, not date at all for a while, just get her life back on track.

I know you can’t control what she does but I personally think you shouldn’t take her back right now because she seems imbalanced and it will probably end with a rough breakup, leaving you both confused again. She may be bouncing between men as a form of emotional support.

Give her time and tell her that you’ll take her back when she’s actually ready to be in a relationship again, that’s my advice.

I’d say bye bye..sounds like someone who doesn’t really know who they are or what they want from life..other than to find someone to take care of the,,

Not the kind of person that someone deserves…

We deserve equals…not somone who is an adult child.

Since she wasn’t adult when you broke up, she might have felt pressured by her parents about you and the baby.
being pregnant at that age isn’t easy and it really messes some girls up.

Now that all this is over she can finally see clear.

You two should meet and talk openly about what happened and what you want to happen next.
Once you’ve had that conversation you’ll be ready to make a decision.

Don’t condemn her for the abortion, it’s not an easy choice to make and it might have seemed the best solution back then (and maybe it was, 16 is very young to be a parent)

Good luck with all this :)

x
Lilly

You deserve to be treated better… She started to text you again saying she loves you when she finished with the guy she was with… Guess while she was with him she loved him and didn’t give you a second thought. She’s lonely and may very well regret her decisions but they were her decisions and she has to live by them. She was your first love… no one will ever be as special as that… well not until you meet the right person… everyone remembers there first love and i don’t think you ever truely forget them. But they should remain.. in the past.