walking help: I’ve lost my best friend and cannot deal with the loss. - Help.com

Hey honey, what happened?

It’s sad, I know. I’ve been there….only we were friends for over 15 yrs before I found out how she really was. Good riddance to her. I deserve better, and so do you.

Honey I had to let go of a friend too, it’s hard but some people are here for a small time to teach us things, learn from the lesson and look forward to all the wonderful new friends you will make

I left my friend bc she thoughtthat money was more important than friendship…..I bought clothes and babysat for free bc she was a young mom. I wanted her to graduate. She got pregnany again three years later, and again, I helped out, but not with babysitting. I just bought her stuff bc I lived in a different city by then. Anyway, four months after her kid was born, I got pregnant. She told me that she had stuff for me, when I got there to see the stuff, she told me it was only for 60$ for a garbage bag full. She tried TO SELL me the things that I bought and GAVE to her. not a friend. nice one! Money is no the most important thing.

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I left my friend bc she thoughtthat money was more important than friendship…..I bought clothes and babysat for free bc she was a young mom. I wanted her to graduate. She got pregnany again three years later, and again, I helped out, but not with babysitting. I just bought her stuff bc I lived in a different city by then. Anyway, four months after her kid was born, I got pregnant. She told me that she had stuff for me, when I got there to see the stuff, she told me it was only for 60$ for a garbage bag full. She tried TO SELL me the things that I bought and GAVE to her. not a friend. nice one! Money is no the most important thing.

She moved away for a few years. I eventually forgave her bc I thought that she was young and naive and needed money….nope just a user. I was so hurt by her. I was her friend for a total of about 17 yrs. (minus 3, I suppose, for the time she moved away)

The reason our friendship ended was over money. It’s for good this time! fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice, shame on me. There’s not going to be a third time.

I should have clued in to her mentality when she told me I shouldn’t get married to the guy that I’ve been with for 13 yrs. She and her mother both told me that I should marry a rich handsome doctor. What the frig! What kind of advice is that to give a young lady!) Money is not everything. I was the best friend that she ever had. Maybe i should have given her some advice: she’d have more money if she kept her legs closed and stopped sleeping with every third guy that walked by. That produces kids. Kids are expensive. Not to mention that she probably has at least one disease from it by now. By the time she was 20 she had been with at LEAST 6 people. I sure as heck hadn’t.

When I was 14, her mother told her that I was a bad influence. She shouldn’t hang out ith me anymore. I cried when she told me that. How was I bad? I didn’t drink, smoke, take drugs, drink coffee, or tea, or no tattoos, no theft, no arson, no vandalism, no skipping classes, didn’t go out, except to youth group once a week. How was I a bad influence to this girl? She had done at least 6 of those things.
I was a kid with old ratty clothes, with no money….that was the real problem!

yup some people suck hunny, sorry to say…..don’t waste 17 yrs like I did!

Is it possible to write a letter to explain how you feel and tell her why it is bothering you? Could you tell her that you miss her? Tell her that you aren’t expecting anything in return, but would appreciate a call or a letter in return. Also tell her that it would be a shame to lose the friendship because of one argument.

She may respond, and she may not, but at least you won’t have to sit and wonder later “what would have happened if I had ……”. Know what I mean?

Nice to hear from you Seagull! I thought that you were MIA! I wish tha I had more advice, but that was the best that I could come up with.

By the way, the other thread that we were on sure is getting long, LOL. We’re up to 20 out of 24. feel free to join in any time. :)

in december me and my best best best friend got in a little arguemnt didnt talk for awhile. then while came to a month it was kinda nice cause no drama. well then after awhile she told 2 close friends of mine soemthing that wasnt true. and i never ever thought in my entire life she would be like that. i know her like the back of my hand we were there through EVERYTHING! and i cant believe she would do that. it was the turning point where i was thinking i deserve better. its now june and in the past 3-4 months i think about her everyday. i want to cry all the time. i love her and miss her so much. and i think why should i miss her after what she did to me why should i care i shouldnt even trust her. but it keeps going to the back of my mind and just how much i need her keeps comming in my head. every single day i want to cry cause i miss her so much. i go to school with her. this past week was the first time weve talked in months and it wasnt anything important or worthy of a conversation not even a hi bye. shes not a liar, shes the most honest person in the world, one of the best people i know too. but when i found out she technically spread a rumor about me i couldnt believe it. i dont even know the girl that spread that cause its not the girl i know. i dont understand and i dont know what to do i ache everyday. i wonder if god wants me to make the move twords her. shes my sister, i love her, i miss her. i need help please.

my name is actually jennabegoodx3

thank you very much for replying. i know for sure it was her who spread it because she told two very close friends of mine. i called her and said please quite saying…. and she said i never said that. and i started bawling. cause i just cant believe she would do that. thats not her to go that. shes not the person to talk behind peoples backs. so very little i keep thinking how could she do that, she dont deserve a friend like me then. but thats at the back of my mind. in the front is how shes my sister pretty much every single memory weve had together. everything weve been through and how we stood my eachothers side. i feel like i need her mostly. not one day goes by that she isnt at the top of my mind and i dont want to cry. and i trust her so much its hard to think that i cant? cause of what she said or whats the reason for her doing that. :(

because i know she did say it. i know 100% she said it. i should try that. i think im no longer mad that she did that i just dont know why she would have done that. cause its so not like her.

the biggest thing is. besides all that. we havent talked about 5 months. but all i do is think about her and how much i miss her. and i feel like if i dont do something its not going to get any better like its never going to leave me head. i always feel like :/ that. i zone out just thinking about everything. its like a secret depression i have cause i dont tell any of my close friends.

all my friends are friends with her too. just me and her arent.

i know isnt that how it always works. its just so hard.

he will deffinately come back when shes gone. and you wont know what to do till that point happens because you mite want to give him another chance yet does he deserve your friendship if hes going to treat you like that! if you guys were friends before they knew eachother or started dating hes an idiot! you did the right thing

Well, can you try thinking about what you are doing BEFORE you do things, rather tha apologizing after you mess up?

I’m sorry to hear that. How painful! It’s possible that this is better for you in the long run.

If they stay together and get married/have children, they may have saved you the pain of seeing it all. If they don’t stay together, she may try crawling back but I wouldn’t let her, if I were you.

I need some help myself?? can anyone help me?