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well that is something for you both to decide, you changeing your mind about kids would be the same as him changeing his, do you think that is possible?
You have made it clear you want kids and he says he doesn’t, is there anything more to be said?

If you are heart set on having children and he is heart set on not having them then one of you will have to either change their minds on this issue or you’ll have to end this relationship.
If you wait for five years and then he says he still doesn’t want kids then you’ll have to hope you can find a new guy, one who does want kids.
The choice isn’t easy either way. But kids are really amazing and I couldn’t imagine a relationship without having my boys in it. I would try to convince him to change his mind but barring that I would move on to someone who is not opposed to having kids.

I’ve been in a very similar situation at almost the same age, and I understand that feeling completely. That relationship was a very long one, and we broke up for a variety of reasons, but one of them was that I wanted a certain amount of security on specific matters such as children, as in I wanted a significant other who would agree with me on that subject and want children too, not right now of course, but certainly later, and my ex wasn’t sure at all. I am very happy with that decision now, because even though it was very painful to go through that break-up, I am now free to find the man I won’t need to “re-mold”.
I agree with the other people who have answered you - you might want to try and find out why he doesn’t want kids, and talk openly about both your wishes and how important they are to you. After that, you’ll see a little clearer, and you can go from there. I know this is way old, but listening to my gut feeling in that situation was the best thing I could do, it might help you as well. All the best!

A lot of the guys I know arn’t even planning for children untill they are in their 30’s which may explain why he doesn’t want to discuss it now, you have to decide if you are willing to look for a new man in 5 years time if he doen;t want them I think that the real choice you have to make right now. 25 is still young and will give you plenty of time to look for a daddy of your children, I’m nearlt=y 26 and nowhere near ready for children