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Why do we constantly bring upon ourselves such great pain?

As humans we seem to consistently decline ourselves a joyful life by returning to that hideous friend hurt. Is it familiarity? Do we feel comfortable by constantly returning to a dark cage designed to withdraw our true selves from humanity? Physical pain I can understand, pure strength and resiliance can defeat physical wounds, but inflicted mental, spiritual and emotional pain is far more difficult to rise above. Why is it that when we beleive so much in successful love, hope, joy; all the things we beleive are good; and yet still pull ourselves back into that hidden pain, that unresolved resentment. Are we so flawed to never escape the cycle?

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fuzzy-wuz offline Verified User (9 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

if we didn’t bring pain upon ourselfs then the really great things in life that stand out for the good, well wouldnt be really great now would they?

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

its a good question, i suppose its just human nature that we need to feel pain to experience the good

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crosenblum offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (58 minutes after post)

It’s mostly about making us feel alive, and making us aware of the lessons of life we sorely need to learn and master….

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 50 minutes after post)

really it all depends on the kind of person you are there are two types of people laid back and hateful example. say there was a ball on the side walk would you pass it by or kick it in the road now say that ball belonged to a little child now that little child ran out in to the road gets hit by a bus you a hateful person you balme the child and later your self if your laid back you dont blame any one becaus you dident move the ball

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crosenblum offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (5 hours, 49 minutes after post)

I had just meant, that pain is a biological symptom that there is something wrong with our body…That pain isn’t the problem, it’s just a messenger…

So if we take that further to say that emotional pain exists, pain isn’t the problem, it’s the messenger..

Does that make better sense?

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lostinatoodarkpark offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (10 hours, 45 minutes after post)

ive been asking myself that a lot too

i think its pure egoism and the total disconnection from other individuals’ emotions

most people only want love and success for themselves and completely ignore the pain they inflict on others

fuzzynut, your analogy seems a bit flawed … 2 types of people would mean …
1. people who accidentally do bad things and later on blame other people and themselves
2. people who dont do anything and just watch other people do bad things
??

so theres no-one who intentionally does bad and no-one who intentionally does good?

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no_spo0n offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Brisbane, 04, AU | 6 months, 1 week ago (3 months, 1 week after post)

I commented on another post about the processes of negative thinking: http://help.com/post/277077-i-hate-be…

But part of me thinks that our low periods are in some ways a time for us to do self reflection and analyze our actions. If we are constantly happy we tend to question our actions much less and feel no guilt for, or be unaware of causing pain to others.

It’s when we let the low points take control, over analyze things, etc, that we end up in a dark place.
Our greatest stength (reflection, analysis, etc) is also the biggest threat to our wellbeing.

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no_spo0n offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Brisbane, 04, AU | 6 months, 1 week ago (3 months, 1 week after post)

crosenblum wrote:
I had just meant, that pain is a biological symptom that there is something wrong with our body…That pain isn’t the problem, it’s just a messenger…

So if we take that further to say that emotional pain exists, pain isn’t the problem, it’s the messenger..

Does that make better sense?

They have done studies to show that the recptors in our brain that respond to physical pain do ‘light up’ or activate when we experience emotional pain too.

This is why emotional pain can actually feel physically painful.

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