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Listen, just say that this was just a small mistake you made years ago and have moved on from it. Although the marks are still there you are ready to go forward and if she dosen’t accept that you are different now, then just move on from her.

Yes I agree Fusion. The person you should end up, would most likely, not care about what you did in your past. We’re usually attracted to like-minded individuals. Those that can share our dreams and our pain. So, your future partner will most likely be accepting. Let her get to know you first and then start taking off the layers (speaking in terms of emotional layers and clothing layers, lol) It’ll be ok, i know from personal experience. :)

We all make mistakes in our lives. Your past is something you should cherrish. Your previous mistakes only help to make you a stronger person today. Yes you bear the scars of your previous emotional break-up, but you should not hide them or be ashamed of your past. You have learned a valuable lesson. Move forward in your life and be wise enough to not make the same mistakes twice. You will make more mistakes in your life, just as all of us do. But don’t think that those mistakes in any way ruin your life as a whole. The are simply additional lessons to learn and move on from.
If your scars are found out by another love interest and they don’t ask about them then don’t worry about it until they do, but once they do just be open and honest about your past and your life. You will run into some who do not want to give you a second chance but those aren’t worth keeping in your life anyway. You will however, find some who will think nothing of your scars and realize that you are not the same person you were all those years ago. They will like or love you for who you are and those are the type of people you will want to keep in your life. :-) Keep your chin up dude. Best wishes

Don’t ask, don’t tell rule applies here. There are not many times (almost none actually) where this rule applies, but basically don’t offer the info. Wait until she asks. Once she is comfortable enough to ask, then you should feel comfortable to give an answer.

I have really horrific scars on my right leg from my hip to my ankle. When someone asks me about them I just tell that they are part of me and they are part of what makes me who I am today and I am not ashamed of them.

You went thru a really tough time. Now you are better and you are the person you because you went thru what you did and survived. If the new girl asks, just tell her that it was a bad spot in your life and you are all the better for having gone thru it and leave it at that. Once you get closer to her then you can explain in more detail what happened.

I greatly appreciate you all for taking the time to reply to me. I will do my best to keep your words in mind. Dont worry I know enough not to bring up something like that prematurely, but I figure that it would eventually come up in a relationship. Thank you again.

You’re welcome. And realize, we all have scars, some are just easier to see. If she cares they won’t bother her.

You’re welcome. and I agree with Jules. I have a few, but most can’t be seen.