Love help: My Girlfriend, which I am seriously in Love with, just Broke up with me two days ago. - Help.com

Good Idea! Thank You so much! But if I avoid her, wont she notice? She probably wont like that.

n0.r3pl wrote:
At least she was considerate enough to break up with you before you gave her any expensive Valentine gifts.Your best bet is to distance yourself for some time until you’ve found something else to fill that void. Otherwise, you stand a chance of wanting to fall back into the same old routines and being frustrated by an inability to do so or lack of reciprocity on her part.Find something to occupy your mind and time fully, until you have another focus, then resume friendly relations with your good friend! Works for me.

Thanks Dude. I appreciate the advice. TY!

khyron32 wrote:
I am so very sorry dude. It is never easy when a relationship ends. It is completely uncool that she would break up with you over the phone all the while she is laughing with a friend. That smacks as heartless.
It is never easy to move on but it is in your best interest to move on dude. You will find the right girl for you in time. I would advice you to not go to the valentines get together. And agree that you need to avoid her and move on with your life.
Go out with friends and do things you like to do. I wish you the best dude.

Thanks everyone. I’m extremely thankful for the ideas and for the support. HAHA I would love to get back at her and I could very easily see myself doing that, but unfortunately I DO love her still and the thought of making her sad makes me even sadder. So no luck there. I ended up going anyway because my friend was going and he said that I had to come or she’d think you were avoiding her and then I’d look ridiculous and pathetic. He said I had to show her I’m fine and not let her have the satisfaction. Stupidly I went along with that. And it turns out I had told her on the phone, when she’d rang to ask me to go, that I was maybe doing something with a friend so I’d get back to her. And one of my ex-girlfriends (and also my best friend) wanted to catch up and do something today. So we were going to but we ended up canceling it. My now-ex-girlfriend (who this is all about) found out about me and my other ex possibly going out (which she interpreted as a date) and got really sad because she’d thought I’d gotten over her already when she thought she knew I wouldn’t for a LONG time. She was upset over that. But she kinda didn’t seem to mind. She kinda just accepted it. Seeing her today made me realize how much I’m still soooooo not over her, and am still madly in love with her. Sucks for me. I ended up casually saying that my friend (that wanted to do something today) rang this morning and I told him I couldn’t do anything (All of this turned out to be true too)((The point of this, being to make it not seem like I was covering up on the phone for the fact I was going to do something with my other ex)) I really hope she has second thoughts about breaking up with me and wants to maybe get back, even if I don’t want to then, I’d still love to hear it.

happitoday wrote:
Sorry… just went throgh a break up myself….
Questions:
1. how are u and how old is she?
2. were u intved to the park before the brake up?

I messed up my chance with the love of my life because I kept calling, texting, wating to be with him, I wanted him back, i wanted us back to normal the way it was!!!
So if u can find the stregth to NOT go and act like you are over her she will see, that we might miss you..
if you let a bird go adn they come back to you then its yours, but if not then your bird is still flying around waiting for you….

I think you meant “How old are you?” so I’ll answer that. I am 18 and out of high-school. She is 17 turning 18 late this year. (A year younger than me and still in high-school)(note that I am definitely not a hassle to her school work at all and i used to always help her with her work) I was invited to the park after she broke up with me (on the phone again with that same friend in the background. I think they probably felt pity for me.) Im sad to hear that you just went through a break up too. I hope you are alright. I also just wanted to say, by the way, that she was the one that started all the full on lovey-dovey stuff in the relationship. I judged how affectionate I should act back, to how affectionate she was to me. But I don’t know if I was acting that way more or not though. I’m just gonna play things as they come for a while, I think.

j-b199 wrote:
dude i have a girlfriend on imvu and iam 13 and she is 19 and she dont know iam 13 and she is so depressed and if she found out she would kill her self she and she loves me to bits if i diyed she would go mental and omit suicide i have no idea wat to do

Yer daym that sux. i met this girl 2 and a half months ago and we hooked up =S but was still thinkign of my ex. oooops. Afterwards i said that i was sorry and that ive just been through a fairly bad breakup and am not sure what im feeling. WE still kept in touch and talked and stuff. Because seh lived 5 hours away. O.o Then after two weeks…. things got a tad weird and she said “so. Since we’ve been goign out for a few weeks now i think its time we tall our parents about us” and in those last two weeks id found out she aws mass suicidal and really really harmful to herself. She really really hated her life and at the same time as telling me we should ‘tell our parents about us’ she told me that she coudlnt live without me and was glad to have me and would honestly kill herself if soemthign happened to me or i left. I thought it a bit weird and freaky almost that she was soo **** dependant but i didnt mind, and it seemed liek i was helping her and i never dreamed that she thoguht we were together but then she prooved me wrong a few seconds later. She told me she truely loved me and one day shed be free of her family and wed be able to be together propperly. O.o I thought about it and realised that i honestly believed her about her beign serious of killing herself so i concidderd leavign that topic for a bit thinkign it coudl do no harm seeign she lived that far away. Then i made a huge mistake. I let her believe we were going out. With the thoughts that she woudl not be so depressed after a while of goign to counselling and havign a ‘boyfriend’ to support her. Now, deep down i knew this was wrong, but i also knew the alternative was worse and i didnt want that on my hands. I thought i was doign the best thing in a bad situation. After a while i realised i had gotten way too deep and that she relyed on me emailing her daily and talking to her on msn daily and when i couldnt she woudl freak out. Her foster dad was a freak drunk and beat her. Once he found out about me he woudl make his way to where i live to suposedly kill me but neither him or her knew my exact or real address. Freaky! That happened a few times and then she started tryign to meet up with me and she got more and more needy. Im in Uni studying Medicine, and really dotn have time to email 4 times a day and talk in the morning lunch and night on msn to her for hours. I soon realised that i had deffinately made the wrong choice. Yes she was gettign happier and better but she had more that a long way to go still. Id by then also got her out of that home and with another family and with a good counsellor I told my mate about it and he said that that really sucked. (hed met her when i did) Little did i know that he went behind my back tryign to get me the hell out of it. She knew that me and him were the best of mates adn had been since we were about 8. He had her msn and talked to her all the time too. He told her that He loved her and couldnt stand to see me and her goign out. He told her that he thought Me and her were through after the party and that he thoguth she liked him and thats why shed opened up to him. He said that he woudl never ever talk to me again if me and her kept goign out. She told him that that was nice but me and her were in love and didnt care what he said. Left it at that. Came over to my house, not tellign me what he was doign said “hey can i use your msn for a sec you have a contact i need to talk to and dont have.” He talked as me and she told ‘me’/him “stuff your mate we are in love.” he then told her kindly that ‘I’ need my best mate and cant lose him and that my mate is here while she is 5 hours away. She understood and said that we should pretent wed broken up. he then told her that ‘I’ coudlnt bare to lie to him and never had before. He told her that i had been in his position once befeor and told him not to go out with that girl and he had done so. and from then on we had mad ea promise that nothign woudl come between our friendship especially not girls. Half true except we were 11 and he went out with her anyway and i got pissed at him. She siad she understood and that as long as we coudl still talk then things woudl be fine. Tehn he told me what happened O.O. I thought it was extreamly cruel and really wrong to make such a massive lie, but also realised that i was the real one lying and that this way she was much less hurt that me saying i didnt love her and never did. O.o. *sigh*

j-b199 wrote:
dude i have a girlfriend on imvu and iam 13 and she is 19 and she dont know iam 13 and she is so depressed and if she found out she would kill her self she and she loves me to bits if i diyed she would go mental and omit suicide i have no idea wat to do

HERE’S MY ADVICE: If you know whats good for you. Try to get out quickly abnd do as little damage as you can becasue things will only get worse and she will only get more attatched to you. Lying isnt always bad. But please realise too that you cant live on lies. Eitehr tell her that you are actually younger. You never know she might like you enoguh to stay with you anyway. 6 years is a lot now but it depends on how mature you and her are. But if you dont like her enoguth to actualyl commit then i suggest since it is an online relationship aswell, Break it off nicely sayign sorry heaps but not so much that it means nothing. (A.K.A dont spam “im sorry”) Sometimes you arent able to get away without someone gettign hurt and feelign bad. I know what its like to have someone put that pressure on you that they woudl kill themselves if you leave, and understand thats its not just as simple as sayign “this isnt workign i feel suffocated” or “i dont like you as much as you like me and am afraid if i keep this goign i will really realyl hurt you.” What i mean is that it cant be sudden and you shoudl slowely break things off by sayign i feel like your beign a tad clingy and im stressed out atm and cant cop ewith that, and etc. everntually gettign less and less close to her and so she gets used to not havign you to hold her up. Then eventualyl you need to finally say somethign like i said up there. The thing with longer relationships is that, once the time goes past you cant simply reverse it instantly. You need to reverse things using time to undo what you have done (the need for you). Im sorry there isnt and easy way or at least not one i can think of sorry. Good luck and i hope things work out for you. =P Catch.

j-b199 wrote:
dude i have a girlfriend on imvu and iam 13 and she is 19 and she dont know iam 13 and she is so depressed and if she found out she would kill her self she and she loves me to bits if i diyed she would go mental and omit suicide i have no idea wat to do

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