Family help: How can i tell my parents am lesbian?

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How can i tell my parents am lesbian?

i really think its time to tell them, and i just havent got a clue how i can, i think it will hurt them, and obv be a huge shock, but i dont know where to start. can anyone help give ideas?

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littlenick 126 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 minute after post)

That’s a tough one. Are they homophobic?

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nufcbabe-4-lif 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

A dont really know, i told them that my friends sister came out to her parents, and my mum asked what my friends parents said, they were fine with it. my mum turned around and said, i hope you dont turn out like that. so i dont really know

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littlenick 126 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

Well, there is your answer. However, that does not mean that they are going to stop loving you just because you are a lesbian. The best way to talk to your parents is wait until they are in a good mood and tell them. But, make sure they’re sitting down.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

Maybe you should just break it down to them slowly,
are they homophobic? there your parents, whether your a homosexual or not, they will always love you,
dont worry about it, it will work out okay for you :)
make sure there in quite a good mood though.

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littlenick 126 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

Go this website and read as much as you can. They offer some helpful tips on how to approach your parents.

http://pflag.com/

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nufcbabe-4-lif 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (27 minutes after post)

i have been dropping hints but it not getting through, they think my other half is my best mate

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littlenick 126 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

sit them down and talk to them!

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nufcbabe-4-lif 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (41 minutes after post)

they will definatly know something is wrong. the other thing is that am only 15-16 i have my exams in may and dont know what to do for the best.

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nufcbabe-4-lif 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

any other ideas, i really want to tell them to get it off my chest.

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Nellie 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

Maybe they already know. And by your mom saying hope you don’t turn out like that, might have been her hint to you.

lexihope 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 8 minutes after post)

Just tell them the truth. Once, you let it out, youll feel much better.

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Nellie 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 9 minutes after post)

The Truth will set you FREE!

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (6 hours, 44 minutes after post)

i would wait till you are 18. i wanted to, but my dad kindof outed me… if they don’t take it well they might keep you away from all your girl friends.

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lizzybug #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (6 days, 20 hours after post)

come out! it will make you feel so much better like a weight has been lifted .try to catch your parents on a good day when they are in a realitivly good mood .make sure they have time to listen not when there about to run to the shops etc.even if they dont like it at first im sure they love you enough to get over it.

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colorguardsweetie1 #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 3 weeks ago (3 weeks, 3 days after post)

I’d say wait until you are completely comfortable with telling them. I just came out to my parents about 2 months ago and they were completely furious. The only reason I told them was because they were being nosey and looking into my conversations with my girlfriend. They are in complete denial right now and I’m still struggling with it..
Best of luck!

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sa #
An Unknown Location | 7 months, 1 week ago (2 months after post)

I think you should just come clean and tell them, maybe take them to a nice restaraunt. I mean I am thirteen, have brother and we’re both raised by a lesbian couple and we’re just fine. You’ll be fine and your parents won’t feel any different about you

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butterflygirl1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 months ago (5 months, 2 weeks after post)

sit them down,
tell them straight, once you have you have got it off your chest,
because in the end it’s not your fault, you can’t control yourr feelings,
maybe they will be fine with it,
if not they will get used to it, it doesn’t stop them loving you, they might even be happy you are so honest and truthful to them, so in my opion you should just tell them straight away and then you won’t have any issues! :)
hope this helps!
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