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I gave birth twice. Both with epidurals. The first was wonderful. I highly recommend getting an epidural. You don’t feel the pain. Just don’t wait for TOOOO long to get it like what happened with my second.

My pain level was really high for my second, bc my body wasn’t ready. too many complications. water broke, cervix high, not dialated, but baby was trying to come.

Anyway, I asked for an epidural from the beginning, but the nurse didn’t realise WHEN I wanted it. Don’t get it before 4 cm or it will likely slow your labour down. They put it in when you are HAVING a contraction. If your contractions are strong, like if you are at 8 cm already, you will jump from the pain of the contraction. This is not a good thing!!!!!

If you jump, like I did, you risk them putting it in too far, like what happened with me. I still felt most of the labour and it WAS painful!!! but then again, I had many complications, as stated earlier. I don’t think it would have been that way with most other people.

The other problem with getting it too late like at 8 cm, is that it might not get a chance to take effect before you need to push. You will still feel everything. Ask for it at 4 cm, in case the person administering is busy. That way they can sum up what they are doing to get to you for when you need it. Get it at about 5 or 6 cm, and everything should be perfect.

My sister didn’t get one at all. I was there through the whole thing. She was uncomfortable, but it mostly just felt like really bad diarrhea cramps and bad menstrual cramps, at the same time.

Good luck.

women have a natural higher tolerance to pain to account for squeezing a watermelon out, some women also have the ability to mentally block pain, that being said, every individual is completely unique, and each birth to one person is different to the next, both my child birthing experiences yielded different symptoms and feelings
child birth can not be defined where pain and symptoms are concerned, truth is, the old myth of stretching your mouth as wide as you can is probably as close as you can get to knowing what EVERY child birthing woman experiences because its the only thing that is really quite similar between cases, something very small being stretched very large! youch

The pain is real, but bearable with an epidural injection. But the reward is so great your mind blanks out the pain almost instantly. I think it is best for some guys not to be there for the worst parts, because they don’t forget so fast and they can become afraid of hurting their wives after that. IMO

My mom had a blackfoot indian as a birth trainer i was big and the first baby for her. The ladys training had my mom so well trained all my mom did was look forward breath corectly and say out out out out, the only time she broke focas she looked at Aunty Barb and said “ouch”. One time. Then my mom was back on track. I was almost delivered by the time the doctor got there, and he only had to tie things off and such. Don’t get me wrong, my mom said i was her worst delivery, riped her open and it was crazy, but the trainer was what made the diffrence.
With all my soal, may you rest in peace Barb Nary.

oh, and I was 16 days over with the first, and 23 days over with the second.

For the first, ladies generally tear down, mine wasn’t bad, though healing was still painful, as expected, not unbareable. I had meds. It all went well. For the first, because I was sewed well, I healed well. What i mean by that is: I couldn’t tear in the normal downward place as I had before. For the second, i should have had an episiotomy.

After birth, you are likely to feel like I did. I couldn’t have a bowel movement for days. I had NOOOO feeling there, and no urgency or desire. Tylenol 3 is constapating, so drink LOADS of water. When it was time to empty my bowel, i was afraid to push. I did anyway, and there was no problem. I just thought that there was going to be pain. I really should not have worried!

true, ladies will generally tear down, but there is the odd exception……
one of my friends tore ‘UP’, he wasnt a big baby, she was just very unlucky
she hasnt been the same since, was real messy, but shes a wonderful mum and says hes worth doing it all again, even if she already knew shed tear that way!