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How do you tell a friend you don’t like them the way they like you?

I mean, I’ve heard about this crushy-thing for awhile and I don’t know what’s gonna happen next. If I ever needed to, what would be the best way to.. erm… turn someone down? They are a close friend and I intend to keep it that way.

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khyron32 offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (1 minute after post)

Just be open and honest with them and tell them the truth about how you feel about them. They will just have to get over it in time. Nothing else for it in the long term. If you don’t like them you shouldn’t have to pretend you do.

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9 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

Honesty… They may struggle with being your friend afterwards but if it is a true friendship it will stand the test of time.

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dany_is_kraz offline Verified User (9 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 1 week ago (22 minutes after post)

I agree with khyron32, the best way to do so is to be honest. Don’t hide or change your feelings and emotions for someone if you don’t want to, be honest but try not to hurt the person, that would have an affect on your friendship, just simply explain that you don’t feel the same way and you don’t want to put your friendship at risk.

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somewhereman offline Verified User (9 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

Being a guy, one of the most annoying things for me is trying to figure out whats on a girls mind. I’d much rather them be honest than ‘polite.’ If my friend told me she didn’t like me the same way, I’d still be her friend. And if I wouldn’t, then pretending I could still be her friend isn’t really true friendship

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