Love help: My ex-boyfriend won’t date me again because he’s afraid of “hurting me.” Help! - Help.com

if a guy wants to be with you, nothing will stop him. my advice to you is to move on

three months….umm thats hardly a relationship.

I’ve dealt with a similar situation before, and it can work out. First, it depends on what he did to “hurt” you the last time. Assuming he didn’t cheat or physically or emotionally abuse you, there is no reason not to see him again if that’s what you want.
That said, that line about not wanting to hurt you again may be true, but it’s pure crap. If he wanted to be with you again, he would find a way to be with you. Allow him to make the moves, such as on Valentine’s Day. Instead of texting and calling him, make it clear that you will no longer be the only one to work for this relationship by waiting for him to put forth effort as well. It is important for him to realize that he needs you just as much as you need him. If he ultimately doesn’t, then you have your answer, and you both need to move on. If that is the case, do yourself a favor and stop talking to him daily and give yourself a chance to get over him.
On a final note, the girl he mentioned may just be a way to make you jealous if he wants you back. The key is that if the other girl is real, DO NOT let him play with your heart by seeing the two of you at once. It does both of you a disservice. If he truly loves you, he will not move on that quickly to someone else.
In the end, honesty is necessary. If you are honest with him, and most importantly with yourself, you will know how to proceed. Good luck.

walk away and let him go honey

Im actually going through this myself atm. My boyfriend was with me for 4 months ans we spent every moment together. I did everything for him and he did alot for me aswell but then he said out of the blue one day that he “wanted to talk”. When we spoke on msn he dumped me, he said i wasnt making enough effort in the relationship and that he doesnt think i trust him. Then after we didnt really speak but then he just started randomly saying stuff to me and putting kisses on texts and stuff…. Then it got to the point with him saying he still loves meh but doesnt want the hassle as he doesnt want to hurt me again as last time it resulted to me ending up abit depressed.

I just dont know what to do atm…. But tbf i think you should movee on but giving the situation im going through i know it is not easy and i would just say surround yourself with the people who actually care about you and blank him. Let him chase you!!

everything happens for a reason and the best thing you can do is walk away and start a new life without him because if you keep on thinking about it youre only going to keep hurting youreself trust me youll get trew this i tell you for experience Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!

my bf broke up with me and he was also an X of mine but then we got back back to together and he broke up with me again!and so…tht comes back to 4 x boyfriends and im 9 but i still need to find another bf and none of the boys will get with me!!! : (

My bf just dumped me yesterday, it was perfect when we first started dating the next 2 months. But around Dec, he acted more distant then usual. I wanted to talk to him, cause what he was doing was hurting my feeling, but i never got the chance to, cause i was scared of losing him. So yesterday, i went over to his place we had some laughs like we use to, it was fun. But when i asked for a hug, he kept saying no, making humor comments. So i waited (Cause he does kid around) but all he was doing was texting on his phone. So it obviously hurt me, so i just put on my shoes, and i left (Since i needed to go home anyways.) I go on facebook, and ask him why he didn’t hug me, he said he was kidding around and then i just left, but he doesn’t care. I start telling him about my feelings and that i really wanted this relationship to work out, but then he said that this wasn’t going to work. He didn’t want to hurt me, so he dumped me. I was hysterical, i was so upset cause i never wanted this to happen to us, but it did. I still want to be with him, but we both need some space right now, he is going to Perth today, and will be back around tues, i want us to still be close, and maybe start off as being friends, and if there is a spark again between us, maybe there is a chance? That’s what i hope, but i doubt it. But seriously, if you’re going to be with your ex again, you got to think, do you actually love him, or is it just puppy love?
And I am afraid that my ex won’t date me again cause he is either afraid of hurting me, or has found someone else more suited for him.
Haha, i wish this never happened to be honest with you.

Hi! So I had a similar problem BUT i did get through it and now we are back together and HAPPIER then ever. Here’s my story.

Well he dumped me because he said there was TO much hurt to much trouble. At first I was always talking him making him give me hugs. Then I tried telling him I was just going to stay away from him that i love him and it just HURTS me to know he won’t ever love me the same anymore. After that he started calling me, he was just bored he had nothing else to do, so i talked to him but i talked about memories that we both loved. Things we could have done better we laughed alot. Then he told me he loved me. I said so would you date me, and i was half in tears, and he said no, It made no since cause I had the same thought if he loved me then why didnt he want to be with me? so I backed off again. I did things differently i had more fun with my friends they let me know it was ALL going to be ok they said to try new things so i got a new boyfriend (we didnt last long i couldnt stand him) I dyed my hair back. So then I saw my ex and was just talking normally Then at the end of the day together I told him 2 make a muscle just teasing him. He said No, i told him to make a muscle or i was goin to kiss him He said he didnt care, So i kissed him and he held me sweeter then ever before and I started tearing up but I made sure he didnt see. When I got home I called him. I asked him why he would do that He said he just missed it I said it made me hurt worse. He said sorry and i asked him to be mine again he said no, Then I explained to him what I’d do to make things better what I’d do to better and he said well I would but i’d be afraid you say No. I just said YES YES YES! and now were back together happier then ever and it only lasted 2 weeks. So I hope I helped!

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