There is this girl I love, I would marry in a second. ~6 months ago we werent doing so well, and she asked for 4 months to be single( theres more to it but would only complicate things). 4 months go by and she seems distant to me, she puts up a wall and doesnt share any of her self anymore. I still persue her, trying to figure out whats going on until 2 months later i find out she is seeing someone else, for maybe a month now (im not sure).
This makes me look like a desperate guy that cant move on. But for one, She is my soulmate, i really feel that in the bottom of my heart. But second a week or 2 ago she tells me she loves me still, but she is with him and cannot be unfaithful to him.
How would you handle this situation?
I asked her just to consider her feelings for me, but she seems to refuse that even, being that she loves him too now. is this unreaonsable? if she told him about it, would that be being unfaithful?
Please, note that I just want to do what is right, and I am coming from a religious perspective. So please those that have a close relationship with God, share what you think would be the best thing to do.
I would do anything for this girl, but I dont know if i can just walk away. This guy is a decent guy it seems, already has his career going (im a sr in college) and other things. Its just so scary
If her and her current BF dont work out, I dont see how I could ever date her if she doesnt even consider my love, as it would be like… im runner up. Do i make an ultumatum? do i tell her she has to choose between us? do i move on w/o that ultimatum and be happy if she comes back? do I tell her i cannot marry her if she doesnt even consider us?
I also need to block her fron my blog because she cant help but read it, and it is causing her pain. Not only do I have to leave her, I have to leave her w/ another guy that loves her and make it so that she cannot contact me. All the while I want to marry the girl…and she cant consider us because she is w/ someone else..
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