should i feel bad about ending a 4 year relationship even if I am the one to blame for the bad things that happen?

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should i feel bad about ending a 4 year relationship even if I am the one to blame for the bad things that happen?

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Gegenhall 0 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (0 minutes after post)

Don’t know why. Have fun.

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drlipn #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Yes, you should feel bad if you’re the one to blame.

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knkj #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

but shud i feel bad about ending it to make her happy

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drlipn #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

yeah, you should. You feel bad because you did something dumb presumably.

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cari 4 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

if if ending it is what’s making her happy, you should just be happy that she’s happy. at the same time, even though you’re at fault, you shouldn’t feel obligated to be with her if either of you aren’t happy with the relationship.

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Anonymous #
9 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

in any relationship there are 2 two, 2sides to the story and somewhere in the middle it the true…
where you happy or just there?
what did you do?

drlipn #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

its pretty normal. I think you’re probably worried that you’ll do it again.
See, the problem is that, if you do something dumb and hurt someone, well, if they care about you, it doesn’t help you to dump her. The fact of the matter is that, as long as you cheat, you’ll hurt yourself AND your partner. Period.

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cari 4 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

was it that you cheated?

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knkj #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

no i just made her unhappy with the way i acted, i never cheated on her i just thought about my sefl to much

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drlipn #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

oh right - well nothing to worry about then. Be selfish for a while, be your own friend for a while.

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cari 4 #
An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (19 minutes after post)

do you feel obligated to be with her? or would you be devistated to lose her?

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Anonymous #
9 months, 2 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

Do u love her?

beatricegalant 9 #
An Undisclosed Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (2 hours, 7 minutes after post)

What you feel is guilt.

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