Love help: I finally got her to admit why she broke up with me…even though I knew it. - Help.com

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Take some time to heal, in time it wont be so difficult

how long did you date and how old are you?

I am sorry that she has hurt you, but if she likes your cousin seeing her will prob upset you more.
you only hate her because you love her soo much and she has hurt you.

Did she tell you she wanted to be with ur cousin?>

OoOoh well okay. I need to know that info so I would know witch answer to give you XD

WELL..2 years…wow..I would be REALLY pissed off if someone left me for my cousin. You should really cut all contact with her.(delete her off your myspace,bebo,facebook..ect, block her number from your phone, block her from any messegerns you have, avoid places you might see her) just completely cut her out of your life. Having her in your life will not make it easier for your heart to heal, it will make it worce because you will always have the thought in the back of your mind “humm there may still be a chance” when there isnt and thats just torture.
Im also going to say that if she was your first relationship then you may not be in “love” with her but only feel like you love her because she was your first relationship, she was the first person you have had that kind of relationship with so of course that is all you know. You need to get back out there and start dating other people, form another relationship, hang out with friends, have fun and dont mope about about this.

Time will heal you. Time will make the pain stop. Time will make you realize you only felt the way you did because she was your “first relationship”

(I had this same situation and was depressed for 3 years after he left me because he was also my first relationship and I thought he was the one because he was my first relationship. After those 3 years one day I realized he was only my first relationship and now im in love with my boyfriend of a year and I never even think of my ex anymore.)

mike_jj wrote:
your right about the “there still may be a chance” thing though…I’m thinking it right now and that’s why i don’t want to completely remove her from contacts and stuff.

yeah..and thats why you need to.

oo not good idea…dont keep up with the “there might be a chance” i just got out of a relationship a couple months ago over someone i really cared for and i can tell you the “there might be a chance” is just going to make it impossible to get over her. the sooner you try to accept it the easier the days will pass by. if she broke up with you for your ex then she really must have not cared for you as much as you did for her, and why would you want to be in a relationship with someone that doesnt give you the love you deserve? it will be fine though. dont just jump onto a new relationship because its just going to make it harder for you to get over this person. throughout that relationship your goin to be thinking “i hope ____ knows i moved on” or “i bet ____ is really jelous” so just give yourself time to heal from the pain. go on with life. destract yourself with friends and whatever and when your ready you’ll move on without even having to tell yourself to.